Story: Looks only get auditions but doesn't seal the deal

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

For those of you guy who say looks ARE everything, here is a lil story from the college I live at.

There is this big norwegian guy 6'4, really buff, clean cut and stylish. There are a lot of girls who are extremely into him and luckily my "wingwoman" (a very good female friend of mine) managed to snap him up before the other girls did. Almost all the girls I knew were all talking about him and wanted a piece of him. So I thought it was a good idea that my "wingwoman" snapped him up to get him out of the competition.

But not long after they started seeing each other she told me she had to break things off...she didnt feel comfortable with him and wasnt fun at all.

Here's why:
~He was extremely clingy
~Desperate
~He seems like hes incongruent i.e. "loves" hip hop but it seems like he likes it because other people like it.
~Can't dance (she loves dancing)
~He'll do anything she asks (he made noodles for her lol)
~Insecure. He has ask if there was anything going on between me and her and has repeatedly asked many times even after she has said theres absolutely nothing to worry about
~My "wingwoman" thinks he is very jealous of me and that he feels very insecure and thinks I convinced her to break things off with him.
~He has no real friends

Here good things about him though:
~Very buff and attractive
~Stylish
~Plays a lot of sports
~Good body language
~Good ability to pull girls relying on his looks alone

But...even though he has these good traits unfortunately his attitude, desperation and lack of game has pretty much cancelled out all the good things nature has given him. I mean I admit I am only half as good looking as he is but man he is jealous of me...thats not a healthy thing to do...but I know I am hundreds of times more fun than he is.

So here it is...Looks only get you auditions but doesn't necessary seal the deal. Even if you are average looking, if you have a killer personality, top game and alpha traits i doubt nothing will ever get in between you and things you want in life

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

If a 6'4 buff athletic norwegian guy can't get a girl, I might as well castrate myself now

 

[wayword]

~He'll do anything she asks (he made noodles for her lol)

Was your wingwoman abused or have an absentee daddy?

Seriously, wtf is wrong with these girls? Since when does barely lifting a finger qualify you as a slavish doormat?

One morning she asked me to make her some cereal. So I got up, and made her some cereal.

Ebonie told me that "I didn't have to do everything she told me, and to sometimes tell her no." She also said that I "was too nice."

Dam, I guess the next time a girl asks me to pass the salt, it's a shyt test and I need to tell her to go fvck herself?

Anyhow, for anyone listening to that bullcrap Destini9 is spewing about alpha male slaves...yes, it IS PURE BULLCRAP! Remember, any advice on women...should generally NOT be taken from women! If anything, be sure to do the opposite!

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Yea that situation with my friend really made me realise that looks aren't everything. She wasnt having fun, she wasnt able to laugh with him because he was so uptight about sh*t.

To her he would just be a trophy boyfriend to show off to other people but she was getting very uncomfortable very fast. Fortunately she has a healthy self esteem to know that what she wants matters for herself and not for other people especially to make other girls jealous. He could be a male model if he wanted to but has a personality of a rock and as vibrant as housepaint.

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

Yea that situation with my friend really made me realise that looks aren't everything. She wasnt having fun, she wasnt able to laugh with him because he was so uptight about sh*t.

To her he would just be a trophy boyfriend to show off to other people but she was getting very uncomfortable very fast. Fortunately she has a healthy self esteem to know that what she wants matters for herself and not for other people especially to make other girls jealous. He could be a male model if he wanted to but has a personality of a rock and as vibrant as housepaint.

How can a guy who looks like this be socially inept? I've never met an athletic/buff guy who is anti-social, and the reason being that when someone is athletic, they are very driven, and this kind of personality is attractive to other people. Until you explain more about this guy, somehow the pieces of this puzzle don't fit, especially how good he looks but at the same time his personality that bad

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

We'll she casually mentioned that she was hungry and then he bolts to the kitchen to cok her some noodles....and this was like the 2nd time they hung out...And that night was a big party event so it was pretty obvious that he was kissing a*ss

My wingwoman is a lovely girl. She doesnt hook up in nightclubs ( I know that for sure because we all go out as a group) She takes care of herself very well. She always asks for my advice whenever theres a guy shes interested in. Shes always helped me out with a lot of stuff too. And shes a very good pivot too and tells me which girl is interested in me when Im not looking...Very valuable for my DJ game

 

[wayword]

Until you explain more about this guy, somehow the pieces of this puzzle don't fit, especially how good he looks but at the same time his personality that bad

They messed around and she found out he has a small penor...

Now, she has to dig up every other excuse why she's not attracted to him anymore so she doesn't sound like a totally shallow size queen.

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

Your wingwoman sounds like the type of woman who wants an alcoholic husband who beats her on a daily basis and throws furniture around

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Wow you guys are seriously messed up.

I know for a fact that she is a virgin...not that I care but shes not the type of gal to just put out that easily. Also she not the one to brag about stuff. All these other girls are curious to know whether she kissed him or not but she denies it. I think Im the only one who knows. Shes extremely attractive and no doubt can get hot guys but her problem is that theres hardly any guys out there who are "fun, adventurous, very funny, spontaneous and natural" (guys get this hint)

Didn't you guys just read what I wrote about his bad traits? Would you want a partner who has exactly these traits? I know I wouldnt want a girl who has those traits. Hell no I wouldnt put up with that. And my wingwoman certainly didnt put up with that. Maybe a true AFC would.

He is always asking stuff about me and always interrogates her whether there was something going on between us (we live together) When she said "yea hes a good looking guy but only friends" he was trippin out. Very insecure.

No one should ever have to put up with crazy sh*t **** like this

 

[Hitman10000]

Once you hand over your balls to some girl, it's over. It doesn't matter how big/strong you are or how manly you are, but if you give up your masculine position to cater to a feminine need you are seen as a weakling.

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Hitman wow you've hit home run there...you are absolutely right. He handed his balls to her in a platter and she has no use for them and shes throwin them out

 

[Brian Griffin]

So what? Most of the guys on this site don\'t even get a chance to show a girl their personality. They can\'t even get an audition.

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Yes I know that but this is just to make guys realise that looks arent everything and attitude is what makes the difference.

Hey I used to have the same problem too....I had the looks department down pat but my attitude and game wasnt up to scratch. Needless to say I got the audition and the initial action but there was never a second round. Most of it was just random "oh hes hot ill hook up wit him and ditch him"

 

[KoalaKing]

This is RUBBISH, can't you write something a bit more positive, that the true AlphaMales around here might want to read, this doesn't help anyone.

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

I keep hearing the same thing again, and this message is "never show a girl the real you" well keep it up, it all sounds good and fancy on a forum, but I'll stick to being MYSELF. and by the way before anybody says "well you must not get girls then, because you act like yourself"... well you're true, for the most part. I get rejected, I'd say 85% of the time. I'd rather be hated for who I am than liked for who I am not, maybe I value honor a bit too much

 

[ScrewIt]

well duh its pretty obvious by now but not everyone knows it.

The problem isnt the good looking or ugly guy. it's the people that make assumptions about them in the first place. Chumps come in all forms, shapes, and sizes. Plenty of physically hot 9's who may be dorky/shy/slutty/loud/b*tchy...no different for guys.

All i tend to believe the good looking guy/gal has the best and worst of both worlds. They can get through the door, but then the opposite person builds all these high expectations of them due to perceived assumptions about them. and when they dont meet the expectations, the IL drops.

However for the average guy. you may not expect a lot from them or find them all that attractive at first, however slowly his attraction lvl builds up cause you see all the things he's done that have made him attractive was initially unexpected.

This is where the downfall of the hot guy comes into play.

The higher one raises their standards for expectation, the more easily they are disappointed.
the lower one raises their standards and wind up working to achieve those standards from someone, will they appreciate it more.

c'mon people it's common sense!

 

[Weak_Game]

God dam i hate it when girls who live off emotion try to come here and become logical... get the fuk out

Girls do not know what they want, so any advice from them is illrelevant.

 

[blueguy]

It sounds like the guy lacks focus and passion. That's all he needs...

 

[##17]

Dang Rudy, I don't know why so many people are mad at you for this thread. I think it's a great example.

The guy got dumped because he exhibited the personality of a crumbling block of concrete. I don't see how that makes your female friend neurotic, as a lot of guys here have claimed. I'm actually surprised she stayed as long as she did.

How many guys would stay with a girl who has it all going in the looks department, if she had no personality?

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Yea ##17 I hear you I try to make a point that you improve your personality, focus, passion, social circle and maybe get rid of the vanity of you are a really hot guy etc. Some guys here really try to shut me down but end up showing how clueless they really are...Rather they seeing things from outside the square they question me, my wingwoman's credibility for being a good girl and basically miss the point

I did have a girl who was banging hot but so damn bland. When I think about it she was the hottest girl but the most boring and needless to say I was really, really unhappy with her.

My friend is always mentioning how she is trying to avoid him at ALL times. He is always ringing her up and doesnt get the hint that she want's to be single (not be with him anyways) I mean he's got no friends at all or any genuine identity that girls can at least admire.

Not just to limit this situation to this guy but I've seen SO MANY beautiful people who are so damn boring. Its just like a very expensive or classic car that you can never drive and has practically no use. So what if looks is worth millions. It aint worth sh*t in my books if she has no personality.

This guy has no hope with my friend alone. I could at least give him some kind of DJ assistance but if he could set aside his vanity maybe I could. Also the fact hes 24 is a bit sad.