Last week was a depressive one for me, no big reason at all, not much had changed, I just had all these thoughts about why not many of my friendships last, why I get so jealous, and basically why I'm insecure. From being bored and studying my cousin who's my total social opposite (extroverted, natural DJ, cool) I've realized something so simple but so overlooked that I think it might help other people as much as its helped me out of my insecurity. I believe that thinking too much and analysing everything involving relationships and life in general is what is keeping us from enjoying life.
So I decided to do something, STOP THINKING, no I don't mean become an animal, but stop analysing every situation. Stop thinking about all the what ifs, whys, hows, etc. Just let your inner self and your instincts take over, I now believe this is the meaning of "being yourself". If somebody does something don't try to find the meaning or motives behind it. This is how people become overly optimistic or hurt. When someone says or does something bad to them, they analyse it, and analyse it, and yes, analyse it again, and the action becomes bigger and bigger with every thought and in no time some minor insult has grown into a major reason to be upset and have a day ruined.
This is is also why most of us are insecure. We tend to analyse the environment. The people, what would they think if I do this? How should I act to be more accepted?
And all of types of thoughts that lead nowhere.
I say just don't analyse anything, write it on your hand or do something to remind you to stop analysing all your social interactions, take it for what it is, and just trust that what you have done is good, if they don't like it, it sucks for them, they're missing out on some great stuff.
This is the key to being indifferent, having the careless attitude women fall for, and enjoying life.
It also keeps you focused on the things that really matter, such as personal, professional, and academic improvement.
If you don't believe in any of what I've written at leats believe this "The more you think about something, the bigger it becomes".
So I decided to do something, STOP THINKING, no I don't mean become an animal, but stop analysing every situation. Stop thinking about all the what ifs, whys, hows, etc. Just let your inner self and your instincts take over, I now believe this is the meaning of "being yourself". If somebody does something don't try to find the meaning or motives behind it. This is how people become overly optimistic or hurt. When someone says or does something bad to them, they analyse it, and analyse it, and yes, analyse it again, and the action becomes bigger and bigger with every thought and in no time some minor insult has grown into a major reason to be upset and have a day ruined.
This is is also why most of us are insecure. We tend to analyse the environment. The people, what would they think if I do this? How should I act to be more accepted?
And all of types of thoughts that lead nowhere.
I say just don't analyse anything, write it on your hand or do something to remind you to stop analysing all your social interactions, take it for what it is, and just trust that what you have done is good, if they don't like it, it sucks for them, they're missing out on some great stuff.
This is the key to being indifferent, having the careless attitude women fall for, and enjoying life.
It also keeps you focused on the things that really matter, such as personal, professional, and academic improvement.
If you don't believe in any of what I've written at leats believe this "The more you think about something, the bigger it becomes".
