Stop simping for sex

[kavi]

What i was trying to say is this..

Women are playing men to make men believe it is always a win for the guy to get laid.

This is simply not true.

The female has to choose who to **** cos she ia gonna be the one bearing the child so it is a win for her if she gets you, if you have value.

This is about frame.

Women are setting a frame where you are going out with her to **** her and you are HOPING to get it. This is a weak frame.

An alpha guy can keep a girl hooked without having ****ed her quickly. An alpha guy enjoys his time with women and doesnt feel beta that they havent ****ed yet.

The comfort you feel once sex has happened you wanna feel from the beginning. Its just confort that comes from not worrying about getting it.

This relates to all the tightrope walking men are doing to get laid at the start of a relationship.

She already knows whether she likes you and whether or not your gonna **** so there is really nothing you can do to change it other than be or not be an attractive guy.

Never stress about getting laid quickly cos then you are making the vag the prize when the prize should be a good relationship.

The reason i made this post is cos women are using the power they have to give sex against men and demanding men simp or pay some other way.

Alot of men today are using crass and infantile sex talk with women via txt and such. From the womens pov this aint hot it is just playing the guy to make him crass and desperate, a humiliation that he thinks she finds that hot or attractive.

What im saying is if you are so worried about getting laid that is the main thing that you just wanna **** asap in any relationship that is too weak a frame and WILL cause power to be given away.

You shouldnt even **** a girl in any relationship context unless she is behaving well and things are going well.

Maybe think of sex as a reward you are giving her and withholding if she aint good.

Remember that men are the prize. A woman cannot be the prize it doesnt make sense.

For a woman to be the prize it means the male has very little value maybe < 50% ie a low value couple.

 

[kavi]

Im saying women have too much power here and men need to adjust to this.

Its like when dating the guy ALWAYS wants to **** and this can happen on the first date or tenth date. You dont know so you are always stressing and walking a tightrope. You are worried she is gonna think your beta and lose attraction unless you get it quick.

Intact this is a game where you are being played.

Walking this tightrope stresses men and causes men to lose confidence hence dating is more difficult and less fun.

So you need to have the confidence to let the women know from the start that sex wont happen until the 3rd date. When you do that then you can enjoy then first 2 dates without stressing about whether sex happens. The uncertainty about whether sex happens on a date whether on 1 or 10 is a power that women has over you. You have to deprive her of that power so you wanna know in advance of the date what is gonna happen on the date.

 

[kavi]

Loser guy: Afraid of making a move.

Average guy: "I will show I am not the above so I will be aggressive in making moves and trying to get it asap.

Superior guy: I am above other guys I can easily show confidence and do but it aint a win for me whether i get it quickly or not. Sex is not a power that women has over me bc I am the prize and superior to those she may have ****ed sooner.

Its all about levels and differentiating from other guys.

Male SMV always starts with frame.

When you remove this power from women it makes yoyy very attractive but only if you are that guy overall. This strategy only works for like > 70% guys.

It gives you alot of power if you can interaxt with women without stressing about getting laid. Much more freedom.

But you have to let her knw one way or another you are not the nice guy loser who is AFRAID of making a move. So that can be done at the start just let the girl knw you dont **** until date 3.

 

[kavi]

The idea that only women have sexual value and men just want it and women want commitment and this is an exchange is part of traditionalism and boomer mentality.

Its because in traditional society mens attractiveness was a non concept. A man had to bring money and the women was a passive sexual object to be bought and sold.

But the thing is the concept of male attractiveness and implicit sexual value did not exist in those days.

We have all internalised these traditional or boomer values because that is how things were seen just 50 years ago.

But in all those societies the concept of Alpha male and especially Game was not existent.

The boomer generation has no concept of Game hence they hold those views depriving men of their implicit sexual value and only seeing it as that is womens value that a man either pays for or gets via subterfuge ie being a player, seduction, aggresion etc.

These concepts all clash with game and only those with no concept of game can hold these views.

 

[MtmVaott]

No you dont make women do anything. Yes I read his post. I replied didnt I?
Yall over complicate this women thing to a VERY high degree.

Women dont respect men. They obey them. Respect is fluid. Action is in realtime.
Tell her what to do. Be bossy. Be dominate. And as OP said. Do shyt. Hes right about that part. Thats it.
But magically doing anything to get women to put sundresses on and sing hyms is a fools errand.

By date 3? Should be plowing not asking for shyt.
Dont ask women for anything.
Holding woman accountable doesnt exist. You can do nothing to them except introduce them to their replacement.

And as a matter of fact if you wait for sex by date 4 and ask. You are a simp.
You would be better inviting her over when there is another girl coming along as well.
This stoicism out here in the manosphere is getting down right comical. Lol

I understand. I can only relate to the sort of mindset you describe because I observed this in other guys (on rare occasions). It is still a few stages away from me. You describe the 'not a Nice-Guy - not a simp' mindset. Where you make known what you want from the woman with a confidence of steel. Kavi's mindset is one stage below I think - like a starter pack for the current simp.
Edit: Telling her what to do (what he wants) is THE thing a simp can't do the least - that's why he is simping in the first place
Edit edit: I think the mindset in OP could be seen like the core masculine mindset, in parallel there is the male assertiveness (dominant). Those guys I observed had both balanced out.

 

[MtmVaott]

Loser guy: Afraid of making a move.

Average guy: "I will show I am not the above so I will be aggressive in making moves and trying to get it asap.

Superior guy: I am above other guys I can easily show confidence and do but it aint a win for me whether i get it quickly or not. Sex is not a power that women has over me bc I am the prize and superior to those she may have ****ed sooner.

Its all about levels and differentiating from other guys.

Male SMV always starts with frame.

When you remove this power from women it makes yoyy very attractive but only if you are that guy overall. This strategy only works for like > 70% guys.

It gives you alot of power if you can interaxt with women without stressing about getting laid. Much more freedom.

But you have to let her knw one way or another you are not the nice guy loser who is AFRAID of making a move. So that can be done at the start just let the girl knw you dont **** until date 3.

The sexual energy in the conversations with the attracted women is coming from the women.
Not from you.
That's the difference to seduction.
You, as a man, do NOT act emotional to your own desire, you only reflect hers back.
Your mindset in the OP is enough to do this, there is never a need to act emotional and 'make a move', because she will make the moves with her conveyed emotions, you only react to her 'propositions' by taking charge; making rational decisions what to do and where to go.

 

[member160761]

This is the part where I failed. Usually, the girls would simp so hard, if I wanted to respect myself I had no other choice than to not ask them out or not invite them to my room. The day after was when I crumbled, I thought I missed out, I missed the opportunity. Because after all, I liked the girls that were interested in me. So I asked them out directly. In a desperate way. Of course, they were turned off. My manliness (this mindset) was what turned them on.

I was in that situation plenty of times. Girls making moves on me and I could have had sex with them with the snap of a finger, good looking ones, but I was not really attraced to them. They had a pretty face and good body, but spiritually weak or rotten. Nothing that tells me she is a girl of dignity and high value. Sometimes I took desperate moves after the moment was over, and it was over. Once you get attached to the pleasure, to the girl, you have lost her. The only mentality that is proper is: I am the price, I already own her and I have nothing to lose. If you doubt slightly about this women sense that and treat you accordingly. Whenever I did not doubt that I would **** this girl I did have sex with her, or similar when I did not doubt she is mine and she cannot say otherwise she acted accordingly. You are really the sum of your experience and can only realize what you truly believe. No thinking, but what you inherently believe, from the bottom of your guts.

Now imagine this was the average man not too long ago. Now we have the insecurities and self-esteen issues and frailty imparted on us which only women had. The shift in the sexes did not happen with laws, but with the spiritual inversion.

 

[anonymous12345]

I agree with the sentiment, but most men can't stop themselves from simping - they literally can't do it.

Yeah, did it right now. I think it stems from a scarcity mindset.

On one hand it's understandable. If a man has no options, he's gonna get desperate. The odd thing is that he chooses a strategy which is destructive: simping.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I still love the intent of the post - but a good response to the three date rule is to simply make sure she goes home or you leave the night in which she does finally give it up.

 

[TheGambino]

Stop trying to touch women.
Stop trying to get laid.
Stop kino and escalation.

Stop being put under time pressure.
Stop worrying about losing out cos 'i am not man enough to make a move'.

Prioritise being the best guy you can be.

Affection, touching, hugging, sex. These things are meant to be initiated from the person with lesser status to the one with higher status. Affection, sex, love is meant to be GIVEN to those deserving. They are not meant to be TAKEN. For it to be taken it means that person is not deserving for it to be given.

Seduction is not real. It seeks to take what should be given. It is a lie on both sides. It only works on women who have never experienced alpha. Never confuse players, puas and seducers with alphas.

An alpha is given power, love, affection, sex. A beta simp attempts to take it via aggression, moving fast, sleaze etc.

A loser wants sex. A real man wants women to have respect.

Real Men cannot be players. Lying, manipulating and cheating is for women and beta losers.

You will never win by taking what does not belong to you. If it is truly yours and you are that guy, it must be given not taken.

Because of contraception and abortion a woman can have sex with any loser guy without consequences. This is why losers are getting laid.

What most men dont understand. Casual sex benefits women and causes men to be disrespected long term.

Dont let a women believe you wanna **** her. Its not manly. Women are the ultimate players. They will make you believe your libido and desire for sex is manly. In reality its not and it is just something that boosts her ego and gives her power over you.

Its not sexy to be like a horny dog that just wants to hump.

Women DO NOT validate or show respect to REAL masculinity because they are too insecure, weak and negative. They do try and ignore their attraction and innate respect to real masculinity. It is becuase they have none, so for them to value it, it makes them feel more weak and insecure.

Too many guys here and elsewhere are too proud of smashing and getting laid.

Even when the women disrespect you.

DONT smash unless the women shows real respect. For you to smash a women who has nt shown real respect and explicit acceptance is extremely beta and low.

Sex is simply the closest and most intimate experience two ppl can have. Do not do this in any toxic relationship.

You are the one doing the work in sex. If you get sexually aroused by a toxic women it only shows your weakness and failure.

Women are trash and **** trash guys. Proof pwf and jal. Nuff said.

Its an absolute lie that if you dont act on or sexually move on a girl you will lose out. Remember women have to choose the best guys and the best genes to mate with. The best is not desperate and knows his worth.

When going on dates dont stress about sex getting laid quickly or not. Just have fun. After a few dates just bring up the sex topic and straight up ask if she wants to be with you.

Make sure the women makes it clear she is ****ing you cos you are the prize and the relationship is something she values.

NEVER frame it as she is the prize and you want to be with her. It is always whether she wants to **** you.

Your job is to be the best guy. Her job is to choose and **** the best buy. You do not pay for it and you are not lucky to get it.

Women see sex like a prostitute. What can she get out of it. This is extremely toxic and does not acknowledge the romantic, personal and social value of men.

I was always interested in pua and this stuff not for getting laid but learning about ATTRACTION, POWER and ALPHA.

Learn to separate getting sex from ATTRACTION, POWER and ALPHA.

Never worry about getting laid, instead being attractive and having (intra and interpersonal ) power.

Only a low quality broken man would **** a toxic women.

Bro this is crap. If a man is h0rney he is going to grab her ass

 

[Divorced w 3]

I love the thinking here about being your best self and you’ll attract your best world around you, but with that said I was out the other night and it was the tale of two different women so one girl was clearly all over me and trying to get me to eventually come home with her, which we found that later in the night was simply because she broke up with her boyfriend, and she obviously wanted to get laid, and then there was the other woman who gave me all the signals and showed all the interest and allowed me to have a very open and frank discussion about sex life and everything else But she went home to her boyfriend who is 1015 years older and is probably a hedge fund manager so keep that in mind

 

[kavi]

Bro this is crap. If a man is h0rney he is going to grab her ass

Bruh i wrote this ages ago icba getting back into it now.

 

[NealIRC]

Feels like there's contradictions. Touching women is great if you're trying to make her horny.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Bro this is crap. If a man is h0rney he is going to grab her ass

What OP is trying to say here is that you can have desire and still have the ability to be selective. The (fictional) Don Juan we all supposedly aspire to was very selective. If you read above I was just in that situation the other night. Two absolutely beautiful women and like an adult I kept it in my pants. I really can’t believe it. The closest I got was with one of them when I told her ‘let’s make out and not tell anyone’ but that was timid because I would have just felt her up if I wanted to. This is a much better thread than people appreciate

 

[NealIRC]

I guess yesterday on the bus was the ideal example. No next-step whatsoever. As I was sitting on the bus, a hot White chick sat next to me... She had dark hair, cleavage, and arm tattoos. But I didn't say anything until I was to get off. In which I go "Morning dude" ... "do you work out at all?" "do I work out?" "you look muscular. How many push-ups can you do?" "Like 5" "what's the most you ever done?" "that was 5 or 6" "was that in high school?" "no, that was the other day. At the lake I was cold so I did some push-ups before jumping." "Ah, so you do stuff. You got a gym membership?" "No, never been in a gym in my life."

Then a block before my stop I stand up to go "scuse me" and stand by the door, this gives her more time to say something to me.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Stop trying to touch women.
Stop trying to get laid.
Stop kino and escalation.

Stop being put under time pressure.
Stop worrying about losing out cos 'i am not man enough to make a move'.

Prioritise being the best guy you can be.

Affection, touching, hugging, sex. These things are meant to be initiated from the person with lesser status to the one with higher status. Affection, sex, love is meant to be GIVEN to those deserving. They are not meant to be TAKEN. For it to be taken it means that person is not deserving for it to be given.

Seduction is not real. It seeks to take what should be given. It is a lie on both sides. It only works on women who have never experienced alpha. Never confuse players, puas and seducers with alphas.

An alpha is given power, love, affection, sex. A beta simp attempts to take it via aggression, moving fast, sleaze etc.

A loser wants sex. A real man wants women to have respect.

Real Men cannot be players. Lying, manipulating and cheating is for women and beta losers.

You will never win by taking what does not belong to you. If it is truly yours and you are that guy, it must be given not taken.

Because of contraception and abortion a woman can have sex with any loser guy without consequences. This is why losers are getting laid.

What most men dont understand. Casual sex benefits women and causes men to be disrespected long term.

Dont let a women believe you wanna **** her. Its not manly. Women are the ultimate players. They will make you believe your libido and desire for sex is manly. In reality its not and it is just something that boosts her ego and gives her power over you.

Its not sexy to be like a horny dog that just wants to hump.

Women DO NOT validate or show respect to REAL masculinity because they are too insecure, weak and negative. They do try and ignore their attraction and innate respect to real masculinity. It is becuase they have none, so for them to value it, it makes them feel more weak and insecure.

Too many guys here and elsewhere are too proud of smashing and getting laid.

Even when the women disrespect you.

DONT smash unless the women shows real respect. For you to smash a women who has nt shown real respect and explicit acceptance is extremely beta and low.

Sex is simply the closest and most intimate experience two ppl can have. Do not do this in any toxic relationship.

You are the one doing the work in sex. If you get sexually aroused by a toxic women it only shows your weakness and failure.

Women are trash and **** trash guys. Proof pwf and jal. Nuff said.

Its an absolute lie that if you dont act on or sexually move on a girl you will lose out. Remember women have to choose the best guys and the best genes to mate with. The best is not desperate and knows his worth.

When going on dates dont stress about sex getting laid quickly or not. Just have fun. After a few dates just bring up the sex topic and straight up ask if she wants to be with you.

Make sure the women makes it clear she is ****ing you cos you are the prize and the relationship is something she values.

NEVER frame it as she is the prize and you want to be with her. It is always whether she wants to **** you.

Your job is to be the best guy. Her job is to choose and **** the best buy. You do not pay for it and you are not lucky to get it.

Women see sex like a prostitute. What can she get out of it. This is extremely toxic and does not acknowledge the romantic, personal and social value of men.

I was always interested in pua and this stuff not for getting laid but learning about ATTRACTION, POWER and ALPHA.

Learn to separate getting sex from ATTRACTION, POWER and ALPHA.

Never worry about getting laid, instead being attractive and having (intra and interpersonal ) power.

Only a low quality broken man would **** a toxic women.