Stop falling into the AW's Facebook trap

[GreatHornedOwl]

This is a mistake I see a lot of guys make, and it's one that usually seals their fate. When you're running game on a girl, either in person, or even in a text after you've gotten her number, why would she be suppositioning you with her Facebook? Think about that for a minute. Face-to-face conversation and phones are two perfectly acceptable means of communication, why is she complicating the process by offering you this? For one word: Attention. She wants you to see her slvtty profile pictures, more pics with random guys she posed with at the bar, and the slew of lame guy followers that tell her how hot she is. Then you come in, the guy that's trying to seduce her through a social networking site. Don't kid yourself, what might have started out as flirty, playful interaction has turned into you jumping through hoops trying to get her through a computer. This is not eHarmony, this is not a Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan movie.

Here's a recent text I had with a girl I met at the mall, verbatim:

Me: what's up for tonight?
Her: going to the bar with some friends tonight, u coming?
Me: can't make it, what time you getting back?
Her: idk, probly late
Me: text me when you're done
Her: were gonna be bar hopping, what's your fb?
Me: No
Her: lol what?
Me: who cares what my fb is?
Her: add me then. why wont u come out?
Me: had to put my caterpillar to sleep, it's been a rough day
Her: hahaha, i don't play games
Me: Ditto

Conversation ended.

Now I want you to read that text log again. There were 3 red flags that would probably have gone undetected to the untrained eye.

1.) She wanted me to come out to the bar with her girlfriends to get drink hustled.
2.) No compliance when I told her to text me when she got back
3.) Facebook gibberish

Attention wh0re spotted in under 5 minutes of text exchanges after initial meeting. I made plans with a different prospect and ended up getting some wicked head.

Moral of the story here, an AW stands no chance against a guy with a lot of numbers.

 

[Ease]

stop giving 'advice' noone gives a ****.

 

[GreatHornedOwl]

stop giving 'advice' noone gives a ****.

You've been on my nuts for how long now? Give it up.

You're angry with guys who are bad with women that give advice, and you're angry at guys like me who are good with women and give advice. So, the question you have to ask yourself is... why are you here?

My opinion? You're the kind of dude that sits on the sidelines and judges everyone else's actions. You add nothing of substance.

 

[Trader]

stop giving 'advice' noone gives a ****.

I expected more from you. That is definitely girl-behavior, to have personal vendettas and get catty.

Attack his ideas, but don't start with this ad-hominem.


Now to the OP: you are a wise man. Especially with beautiful girls (which are the only girls we want) always always always set up face-to-face meetings, avoid excessive communication through text, IM, or facebook. Facebook and other *mediums* just relegate you to the status of 'orbiter.'

 

[Maxtro]

When a girl FB's me the first thing I do is hide her updates. I don't need to see what she's doing.

Now I just need to use some self-control and not look at her pics.

What are some good things to say to explain denying her FB request?

 

[Bluntmaster]

That wasn't a bad text exchange. I saved it to the archive.

 

[mustfirstregister]

Good way to handle this slut.

 

[Upside]

This is more off topic than anything but...

If you don't have facebook, people think you are weird. (I hear it all the time since I don't have one, but I just laugh it off.) But I just don't see how people are so comfortable of letting new people they just met in on their lives, who their friends and family are. All the pictures, interests, and other crap. People keeping ex's, friends they have never actually talked to in 10 years, and having a pissing contest of who has the most "friends" I can't believe people have EX'S on facebook and cry to themselves that they shouldn't look at their profile because they get sad. Girls do this all the time to themselves. Just un-friend and be done with it ffs. The arguements I hear among some of my friends involve how one is more popular than the other because one has 100 more friends. Doesn't mean ****. Facebook is open gossip. I go to www.lamebook.com for my affirmations why a lot of social networking is ultimate crap. Not ALL of it, just most of it.

More interesting than anything to me involves dating, relationships, and facebook. Why is it a good idea to add that chick you just started to date? Not only do you reveal a **** ton of information about yourself which kind of ruins the "getting to know you" part, but it kills one of the most fundamental parts of game...mystery. From facebook alone she can get an assesment of your personality, lifestyle, etc. You don't think it matters, but it DOES matter to a chick how many friends you have (Doesn't mean ****, but still matters, heh), the kinds of pictures you put up, and etc. She will assume so much about you in about 15 minutes without even really talking to you. Social media is so detrimental when it comes to dating and chicks. The best thing you can do when dating is let her make assumptions by hanging out with you, rather than through the click of a mouse. Don't lie and say you don't have one if you do, because then she will get on your case about lieing and such.

Anyway, to get back on track of this thread. If a girl asks for it, just say that you like to really get to know people before you add people. It gives off a vibe of you are important, value, and not desperate to up the friend count. I honestly think that facebook, myspace, whatever hurt your social networking more than it helps. It's all a pissing contest to me, and I would rather use my private toilet.

 

[Ease]

I expected more from you. That is definitely girl-behavior, to have personal vendettas and get catty.

I can post what i like captain virgin. and vendettas are not girl behaviour, thats ridicilous. Somebody needed to kill this guy's adrenaline rush get got from his new found fame, making 5 threads a day.

And hornyowl you make boring posts containing basic ideas with nothing new or innovatve. What kind of man refers to himself as a player to get attention, a man with a false internet persona. A real G like me keeps on the low, we dont need the fans.

'i got wicked head last night' 'i get 25 numbers a night', what a fag lol.

 

[GreatHornedOwl]

Needed to kill my adrenaline rush? Think about that for a second. What does adrenaline have to do with this? Then you talk about my "fame"? You think I'm popular here? Because that seems rather projecting to me. So in other words you're upset because a member of this forum might have more recognition than you, yet say you like to "keep on the low" and don't like "fans". Seems rather contradicting.

You're mad at me for labeling myself as a player. What do you want me to do? Call myself a virgin? That would be lying.

Nothing you say makes any sense. My advice to you would be stop challenging me, because every time you say something I come back and make you look like an idiot.

Do you want to continue this?

 

[Ease]

Dont get upset i didnt want to hurt any feelings.

You talk too much ****, do it less.

 

[mikeyb]

Dont get upset i didnt want to hurt any feelings.

You talk too much ****, do it less.

If you don't like this guy then ignore this threads. No one forced you to read it and then reply.

Go to the fb profile of any hot chick and look at the comments on the pictures. You'll see stuff like "aw you're so pretty" from her girl friends and something like "you're so hot" from guys. Chicks are addicted to that sort of compliment. I even think that the only reason some girls post pictures on fb is to get flattered. From here it's obvious why you should never try to game a girl on facebook - she doesn't consider it flirting, just an ego boost.