Stood up for the first time ever, no call, no text...

[marmel75]

Help pick my response after being stood up--- Vote for response 1 ,2, or 3

This biyatch stood me up on a first date, no call, no text, no show...lol...

Not the first time I have been flaked on by a longshot, just the first time the woman didn't have the fvcking courtesy to not waste my time and gas.

Fvck it...sent a "what are you up to?" text to a few other chicks, going from parking lot to other girls house...successful recovery...would have gone solo to the club to see what I could have gotten if that didn't come through...

What is up with these women these days?? It will be interesting to see if she texts me something lame tomorrow...her only option from this point is to fvck...not wasting time with this chick on anything else.

 

[marmel75]

Lol, funny how things work out for the better sometimes...

Went from being stood up to banging this other chick I had been texting, and had displayed high IL but our schedules just didn't line up...

This is how simple getting laid can be sometimes---texted from the parking lot of where I was supposed to have met this other chick:

Me: What are you up to tonight, Kristy?
Her: just relaxing at home, didn't feel like going out. You?
Me: I'll bring some wine over, lets do movie night!
Her: sounds great!
Me: ok, where am I headed?
Her: 2120 xxxxx street. Bell doesn't work, just knock.
Me: Ok, see you in about 20 minutes
Her:

Started watching Fast and Furious 3: Tokyo Drift and drinking some wine...about 30 minutes in she is laying on me and I start massaging her shoulders and neck, she tilts her head back, looks up and smiles at me so I just kiss her, she kisses back and that was the end of the movie.

She got one of the most punishing fvcks I have ever dealt out on the back of that BS, and that is saying something...took out my frustration on her pvssy, lol...have a feeling she might be walking funny for a few days...

Praying that biyatch texts me some BS apology today...I'm going to tell her

"No need to apologize to me. In fact, you did me a favor, so I should thank you. If you want to apologize to someone, I can give you Kristy's number, though. She texted me a little while ago that she is not going to be walking straight the rest of this week after last night. ;-)"

The best thing about not giving a fvck with these slores is you can say whatever the fvck you want to them and just go find another, lol...

 

[alpha_ash]

Lol, funny how things work out for the better sometimes...

Went from being stood up to banging this other chick I had been texting, and had displayed high IL but our schedules just didn't line up...

This is how simple getting laid can be sometimes---texted from the parking lot of where I was supposed to have met this other chick:

Me: What are you up to tonight, Kristy?
Her: just relaxing at home, didn't feel like going out. You?
Me: I'll bring some wine over, lets do movie night!
Her: sounds great!
Me: ok, where am I headed?
Her: 2120 xxxxx street. Bell doesn't work, just knock.
Me: Ok, see you in about 20 minutes
Her:

Started watching Fast and Furious 3: Tokyo Drift and drinking some wine...about 30 minutes in she is laying on me and I start massaging her shoulders and neck, she tilts her head back, looks up and smiles at me so I just kiss her, she kisses back and that was the end of the movie.

She got one of the most punishing fvcks I have ever dealt out on the back of that BS, and that is saying something...took out my frustration on her pvssy, lol...have a feeling she might be walking funny for a few days...

Praying that biyatch texts me some BS apology today...I'm going to tell her

"No need to apologize to me. In fact, you did me a favor, so I should thank you. If you want to apologize to someone, I can give you Kristy's number, though. She texted me a little while ago that she is not going to be walking straight the rest of this week after last night. ;-)"

The best thing about not giving a fvck with these slores is you can say whatever the fvck you want to them and just go find another, lol...

Excellent! Thank you for sharing this

Learn people: This is how easy it can be as long as you're cool and confident.

 

[Purefilth]

The best thing about not giving a fvck with these slores is you can say whatever the fvck you want to them and just go find another, lol...

Id go so far as to say its not just slores, give no fvcks about anything. Indiffirence is crucial.
Nice marmel, glad it worked out for you.

 

[Renegade357]

LOL, laugh it off dude. She's trash. It gets you that much closer to Miss Right.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Marmel I hear you man, flaking and bvllsh1t are the norm now not anymore a risk anyway I strongly suggest you to not send that message you posted, in the case the flaking girl would contact you.

By saying that you just communicate how her flaking affected you and how much anger you have on her, something like being passive-aggressive by telling her that you replaced her with an other girl.
It just say implicitly " you hurt me so much that now I wanna hurt you back by saying I got an other girl and that I didnt care about you".
She would get wet and her ego would flash...I would skip it man.

If I were you, I would simply ignore it or better yet reply with some very short line...an "ok" would do.

 

[marmel75]

Well, she texts me this morning around 11am before I was heading to the gym:

Her: Omg I really owe u but I just picked my phone up from PF CHangs I thought I lost it after we ate and couldn't find it (she told me she was at a restaurant eating dinner with her girlfriends about 3 hours prior to us meeting)

Me: its cool. So what are you cooking for dinner to make it up to me

Her: So what am I cooking you now smh ill actually do anything but cook lol

Haven't responded yet. I'm gonna let you guys pick my option cause I really don't fvcking care at this point. So vote for 1, 2 or 3:

1) Tell her what she is cooking for me and don't back down.

2) Tell her its cool, we can order in, watch a movie and she can give me a massage

3) Tell her its cool, she can give me a ******* and if its good enough I can fvck her senseless.

Let me know guys, option 1,2 or 3

 

[foreverAFC]

sounds like she is playing games, maybe option 3 would be the one.

 

[ARrocket]

I think (2) is a just a more tactful way of saying (3)

 

[dap]

I would actually just drop this text and see if she tries again some other day. She flaked on date 1. I don't think you should let her back in so easily. Wait for her to initiate and make her wonder what ur doing in the meantime.

 

[Renegade357]

Her: Omg I really owe u but I just picked my phone up from PF CHangs I thought I lost it after we ate and couldn't find it

This is a lie. Tell her to go jump in the river.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

This is a lie. Tell her to go jump in the river.

What he said. How many days has it been? She couldn't get in touch with you any other way - facebook, email, stopping by your place and knocking on your door?

Girls are very, VERY good at sounding legit with their excuses - it's always "I left my phone at x-place" or "something came up last minute that was an emergency..." even if it IS a legit excuse, there's still no excuse for not contacting you about it.

My general rule is, if they flake, they're either not interested, or not interested enough to take my time seriously.

Furthermore, you didn't wait for her to counter-offer how she was going to make it up to you. If you had just simply responded with "ok, gotcha" or something more non-nonchalant, you would have been in a better position to peep her interest by seeing if she thought of a way she'd make it up to you first. Because you interjected that with the whole "come make it up to me" ploy, we can't gauge what her interest is at the moment.

Anyway... how about option #4: don't give her any specifics. She said "I'll do ANYTHING but cook to make it up to you." Fair enough, test her on it: just say "Hmmm... well, come on over and we'll figure out something." Very vague, indicates certain things may or may not happen so you can play it according to your read on her.

Hope this helps!

 

[backbreaker]

"either come over here tonight and cook me the best meal you have in your arsenal or don't bother ever calling me again. You have one strike. You won't get another."


BTW perfectly played last night. this is a work of art. tihs is exactly how plates are supposed to work, if she flakes at your hard line, who gives a flying **** you are already ****ing someone else. if she doesn't flake though, she will be so turned on by your back bone she is going to tear you up. so it's a no lose situation

 

[Who Dares Win]

I keep saying that you shouldnt have replied at her attempt or give a short one like an "ok", I confirm that line of action now.

She flaked, she is not interested or she is very lowly and want to use you as a gadget no different than her i-phone.

I say again let it go to send the message that you are no lower than her and that you're not her emotional puchball.

If you are afraid you wont bang her keep in mind she already flaked and didnt even bother to contact you soon (this enough says how much she considers you), so the most intelligent thing to do is let her taste her own medicine, mindfvck her and try later or better yet wait for her to contact you.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

Marmel man I can't believe you or any dude on here really gives a damn about a flake or an "epic" reply to a flake.

I've had chicks, friends, co-workers etc flake on me and each other all the time. Hell I've flaked countless times as I just didn't feel like doing something and didn't matter who it was.

You simply have to be unaffected by "flakes" and keep them on the backburner and set something up for next time. If not. Keep it moving. No reply. (Once chicks, friends etc. see you have your own life as well as they should theirs it doens't matter.)

You could reply: Next time you owe me a Hot Pocket. (Since you were going with the food thing it sounds ridiculous but gives a sexual tone of HER "Hot Pocket".) You see if she throws back some sexual innuendo back and then play it from there.

I've got my own stuff to do as well as other people should. I don't revolve my life around anyone else and they shouldn't with me. Flaking means nada to me. We'll catch up later eventually. Once people see you aren't bothered by it they either tend to get more curious and see you aren't affected by whatever they chose to do at the time as you have a life as well.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Marmel man I can't believe you or any dude on here really gives a damn about a flake or an "epic" reply to a flake.

I've had chicks, friends, co-workers etc flake on me and each other all the time. Hell I've flaked countless times as I just didn't feel like doing something and didn't matter who it was.

You simply have to be unaffected by "flakes" and keep them on the backburner and set something up for next time. If not. Keep it moving. No reply. (Once chicks, friends etc. see you have your own life as well as they should theirs it doens't matter.)

You could reply: Next time you owe me a Hot Pocket. (Since you were going with the food thing it sounds ridiculous but gives a sexual tone of HER "Hot Pocket".) You see if she throws back some sexual innuendo back and then play it from there.

I've got my own stuff to do as well as other people should. I don't revolve my life around anyone else and they shouldn't with me. Flaking means nada to me. We'll catch up later eventually. Once people see you aren't bothered by it they either tend to get more curious and see you aren't affected by whatever they chose to do at the time as you have a life as well.

I strongly disagree here, we should have standards in others and ourselves.

Flaking is not "no big deal", flaking is a lack of respect for other people dignity and time and if its annoying from a girl I would consider it unacceptable from a man.

I would never flake myself and if I had to I would call many hours in advance or better yet not give my word if unsure.

It this non judmental mindset that allows all this crap we deal with to be socially accepted.

A girl which flakes lose any right to an investment and is automatically downgraded to potentianl fvck buddy to which we own nothing, not even a lift if they happen to remain grounded at a party.

A man who flakes with no serious reason or warning is not a man, he has no word and a man of no word is sh1t plain and simple.
Civiliation was founded on trust and merit not on emotional decisions so peaceful living.

So no, flaking is not fine.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

I strongly disagree here, we should have standards in others and ourselves.

Flaking is not "no big deal", flaking is a lack of respect for other people dignity and time and if its annoying from a girl I would consider it unacceptable from a man.

I would never flake myself and if I had to I would call many hours in advance or better yet not give my word if unsure.

It this non judmental mindset that allows all this crap we deal with to be socially accepted.

A girl which flakes lose any right to an investment and is automatically downgraded to potentianl fvck buddy to which we own nothing, not even a lift if they happen to remain grounded at a party.

A man who flakes with no serious reason or warning is not a man, he has no word and a man of no word is sh1t plain and simple.
Civiliation was founded on trust and merit not on emotional decisions so peaceful living.

So no, flaking is not fine.

For some dudes they can get all butt hurt about it. For myself I could care less. People love to talk out of their azz (make plans/drop them). It happens ALL THE TIME at my part time. Everyone's supposed to go out....No one does. Then eventually we all do or most of us.

I let all that sh1t slide as I've flaked myself. When you have other things to do and other options you simply don't care as much.

I nor you nor anyone on here controls others actions.

If they flake twice (a chick who you've made plans with personally to go out) then I'd put them on the backburner and move on. Then again I work with, and meet a constant flow of new chicks at my part time and have no problems talking with them.

Though I do understand if some chick is stringing you along. I'd just drop her and the nonsense period.

 

[NewAndImproved]

Well, she texts me this morning around 11am before I was heading to the gym:

Her: Omg I really owe u but I just picked my phone up from PF CHangs I thought I lost it after we ate and couldn't find it (she told me she was at a restaurant eating dinner with her girlfriends about 3 hours prior to us meeting)

Me: its cool. So what are you cooking for dinner to make it up to me

Her: So what am I cooking you now smh ill actually do anything but cook lol

Haven't responded yet. I'm gonna let you guys pick my option cause I really don't fvcking care at this point. So vote for 1, 2 or 3:

1) Tell her what she is cooking for me and don't back down.

2) Tell her its cool, we can order in, watch a movie and she can give me a massage

3) Tell her its cool, she can give me a ******* and if its good enough I can fvck her senseless.

Let me know guys, option 1,2 or 3

I think you let her back in too quickly.

I wouldn't have responded to that 11am text until AT LEAST the evening.

By that point I'm guessing the girl would have double texted or at the very least got her wheels spinning.

And when I did respond I'd keep it at "it's cool" "cool" "OK" etc...

If she replies and continues to appear apologetic then I'd do what you did with the "making it up to me."

 

[backbreaker]

there are too many variables in life to have a black and white line of "disrespect and i have to go all out" and "**** it i don't care". as stated the girl i first dated an adult stood me up what 2 times.. but she wasn't doing it to be disrestful she was doing it because she was torn between me and the guy she just got out of a 6 year relationship.

and the advice i gave you above, is the exact thing i told her.. look people do what they do, i'm not mad or upset you don't have to apologize, but i am going to give you one more shot, and if you dont' take advantage of it i am done.

there is no need to get cute, no need to come upw ith some super sweet text or anteing, just lay your cards out on the table. she is the one that ****ed up. either she wants to get to know you or she doesn't.

 

[spiegel549]

I strongly disagree here, we should have standards in others and ourselves.

Flaking is not "no big deal", flaking is a lack of respect for other people dignity and time and if its annoying from a girl I would consider it unacceptable from a man.

I would never flake myself and if I had to I would call many hours in advance or better yet not give my word if unsure.

It this non judmental mindset that allows all this crap we deal with to be socially accepted.

A girl which flakes lose any right to an investment and is automatically downgraded to potentianl fvck buddy to which we own nothing, not even a lift if they happen to remain grounded at a party.

A man who flakes with no serious reason or warning is not a man, he has no word and a man of no word is sh1t plain and simple.
Civiliation was founded on trust and merit not on emotional decisions so peaceful living.

So no, flaking is not fine.

I just was going through a broad that was pulling the same ****, she flaked, I dropped her, she begged me to let her make it up to me, so I let her come over and make me dinner and we banged, then we have been continuing to bang, and just this weekend she flaked again for the 2nd time.

The Big Question

In general situations like this that all guys go through, when she FLAKES and is dropped down to "potential fcuk buddy," what is the attitude that should be taken IF she does reach out and give you horse **** excuses/wants to get together with you?

Be indifferent? Act like no big deal (knowing from this point forward she is nothing more then a fcuk)?

OR is she literally not even worth your ****, and she should be dropped for the disrespect? (if you already banged her)