Stood up AGAIN!
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Dude, I appreciate your advice as it is obviously sincere, but I agree with f28300 - If a chick is interested, she does not keep you waiting around for two hours. Making someone wait that long is just disrespectful; I wouldn't accept such behaviour from a friend without saying that I was unhappy with their behaviour; why would I accept it from someone who wants something from me?joe henny said:
I think it is ironic that your first sentence is accusing someone else of overreacting. Sounds like someone has issues with an Alpha in his life, but is too scared to do anything about it so decided to try to take it out on me instead. Good job, mate!Falcon25 said:
Let me guess, you are still pissed off at the dude who banged the solitary divorcee you spent months waiting around for like a chump while he showed some balls and nailed her off the bat:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=178049&page=2
but since you are too scared to do anything about it, you came here and decided to accuse me of all the unrelated sh*t you are dying to say to him instead. Hopefully, he never realises how much time you spend wondering about the size of his d*ck.
I stand by my point - Keeping anyone waiting around for two hours is disrespectful and not to be passed without comment, regardless of how hot the chick is. On the other hand, you seems to think that a DJ should just wait around like a puppy for a woman without even making a move, and we all saw how well that worked out for you.
Falcon, now why don't you go back to bullying people with legitimate mental health issues; that seems to be more your speed anyway?
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1739566#post1739566
Thanks dude for constructive and useful advice. To be honest, I don't feel so bad about this girl as I do the girl who previously stood me up - I just decided I was not going to take it that kind of disrespect lying down. That being said, I think it is a useful tip in general - One should always make oneself a prize worth pursuing and let the girl come to that realisation, rather then trying to pursue the girl. If you do so, even if the one particular girl still does not come around, you still end up being a prize afterwards.EA Gold said:Instead of feeling bad about yourself mate, why not just celebrate by doing your favorite activity. Like playin futbol or eating at your favorite restaurant and tell the broad that its your birthday
Do whatever, call your friends have good time and just tell yourself how much fun she is missing with a fun and happy lad like you.
Forget her, when you start having a good time they'll be looking for you.
cheers
Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Actually, she already did - I mentioned it in a previous post. She invited me to her apartment at 9:30 tonight so I am not certainly regretting my grumpiness at the moment ...joe henny said:
That being said, I think your quote above should be put in the DJ bible as a succinct summary of how best to deal with any potential rejection - That is good advice all DJ's should keep in mind.
You are the biggest fuvking tool, next to Justa shot away. You are pompous and failed to address anything that I wrote about. Instead, you pointed out something that happened to me one month ago. By the way, I fuvked four girls since then, how about you? I don't lie. I'm broke. I don't even have my own place. Yet, I pull more pusvy then you. Why is that? Hmmmmm.....maybe cause I'm not a pompous covk sucker like yourself?
f283000,
I am happy to take on board criticism if it is politely phrased or even has some valid comments. Your comments in this thread for example were both witty phrased and useful. Also, you get extra leeway for being a Flair fan - Whooo!
However, I think it is fair to say that Falcon was the one who made it personal with such comments:
That being said, like almost everyone on this board, I am here to learn, not to engage in pointless flaming. So Falcon, or anyone else, how should I have better reacted to this situation?
A. Girl makes an appointment with me at 6
B. She texts at 5:40 and says she will only be able to make it at 7
C. At 7:10, she texts again and says she is just leaving her university and will be there at 7:50.
In effect, she wanted me to wait around for her for almost two hours. Also, even when she knew I was already waiting for her, she stayed on campus for another hour before bothering to leave for our meeting which I see as immensely disrespectful. I respond by saying I was leaving, and ignoring her excuses. I contact her a few hours later, and she agrees to meet at her apartment tonight at 9:30. Is there a better way I could have handled it? I am prepared to listen to any alternative suggestions, as long as there is not too much name-calling or threats of beatings involved .
I am happy to take on board criticism if it is politely phrased or even has some valid comments. Your comments in this thread for example were both witty phrased and useful. Also, you get extra leeway for being a Flair fan - Whooo!
However, I think it is fair to say that Falcon was the one who made it personal with such comments:
How would you react if a complete stranger started off a conversation by saying this sort of thing to you? If you look at his comments, most of them were not even related to what I posted, but simply a rant about tall dudes with small penises who treat their male friends badly, so I think it is fair to say that falcon is obviously projecting his anger at someone else on to me. There was also no constructive suggestions or comments about my situation as far as I could see.Falcon25 said:
That being said, like almost everyone on this board, I am here to learn, not to engage in pointless flaming. So Falcon, or anyone else, how should I have better reacted to this situation?
A. Girl makes an appointment with me at 6
B. She texts at 5:40 and says she will only be able to make it at 7
C. At 7:10, she texts again and says she is just leaving her university and will be there at 7:50.
In effect, she wanted me to wait around for her for almost two hours. Also, even when she knew I was already waiting for her, she stayed on campus for another hour before bothering to leave for our meeting which I see as immensely disrespectful. I respond by saying I was leaving, and ignoring her excuses. I contact her a few hours later, and she agrees to meet at her apartment tonight at 9:30. Is there a better way I could have handled it? I am prepared to listen to any alternative suggestions, as long as there is not too much name-calling or threats of beatings involved .
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Master Don Juan
Right there is where you blew it. Women are not men, they don't have the same sense of obligation and commitment that we do, especially during the early stages of interaction. Plus they tend to be somewhat scatterbrained, even the smarter ones.Firefly said:
What I've found to be extraordinarily useful in my game is to just let minor things like this slide with women. You should just take it in stride and allow them to be a little ditzy and flaky (while lightly making fun of them for it later). It's just in the female nature to be like this, you can't really hold it against them. Not everything is some sort of shit-test.
Her using exclamation point, saying flat out "I want to see you", and pointing out that "I did not count on any of this" is actually a giveaway that she screwed up in her time management, which I don't believe can be really held against her, particularly if she's relying on public transit. And who knows, perhaps she was late because she took too long getting ready putting make-up on to look hot for you.
If you had been more empathetic and reasonable, and not immediately called her out, you would probably have had the cat in the bag that night. An alpha would have found something else fun to do while planning to meet up with her later that night.
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^:crackup:Falcon25 said:
DOUCHEBAAAAAAAAAAG I bet you're a spikey haired Guido.
Is this you?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3qyn1yPEZR4