Hi. I've been in this cold approach pick up game for a while and I'm still struggling, like always, for some reason. I'm a success in everything else except this. Men like and respect me. But this cold approach thing eludes me. I can get laid through social circle and online game, but I want more. And I want the kind of women I want, not just ones I find sexually attractive that I can do better.
Tonight I went out to a small town bar with no expectations. Just approach, try to keep the conversation going, and get a number. Try to escalate to a lay if possible, but don't overthink. I talked to a group of girls for about 20 minutes, but I still got a soft rejection "My phone number is unlisted". And I heard their group make fun of me a few times also(not to my face).
Last night, was out at a casino, and approached a group again. Kept talking, but got rejected in a soft way again.
My biggest fears in field are these:Getting a threatening boyfriend or man trying to beat me up and having a girl or group of girls tell me to **** off and harshly reject me.
My nerves go from high to moderate depending on how I feel beforehand. I felt really nervous tonight and moderately nervous last night. Sometimes I feel a cold sense of terror before I approach. I don't know how to get over this, and I have a fear of not performing to my expectations also(running out of things to say).
RSD recommends going out 4 times a week, but I've been in a small town, so my cold approach pick-up growth has been stunted due to lack of opportunities.
I know some will say lift weights and get in shape. Did that. Take a break from pick-up? Did it a few times. Anything else except finding a wingman I've done. The good thing is I can still take rejection like no other, since I get rejected so much anyways. So I have the iron will, just need the right mentality to where I don't feel like I may be walking into a situation where I may get beat up or get in legal trouble. That's the way I used to feel about night game.
I'm thinking about just trying to go out as much as possible and maybe my nerves will have less of an impact on me. What type of advice would you give me? I think my mentality needs to be stronger. I just come from a sheltered environment growing up that I didn't get to experience the harsher side of things, like I do now in my adult years.
Tonight I went out to a small town bar with no expectations. Just approach, try to keep the conversation going, and get a number. Try to escalate to a lay if possible, but don't overthink. I talked to a group of girls for about 20 minutes, but I still got a soft rejection "My phone number is unlisted". And I heard their group make fun of me a few times also(not to my face).
Last night, was out at a casino, and approached a group again. Kept talking, but got rejected in a soft way again.
My biggest fears in field are these:Getting a threatening boyfriend or man trying to beat me up and having a girl or group of girls tell me to **** off and harshly reject me.
My nerves go from high to moderate depending on how I feel beforehand. I felt really nervous tonight and moderately nervous last night. Sometimes I feel a cold sense of terror before I approach. I don't know how to get over this, and I have a fear of not performing to my expectations also(running out of things to say).
RSD recommends going out 4 times a week, but I've been in a small town, so my cold approach pick-up growth has been stunted due to lack of opportunities.
I know some will say lift weights and get in shape. Did that. Take a break from pick-up? Did it a few times. Anything else except finding a wingman I've done. The good thing is I can still take rejection like no other, since I get rejected so much anyways. So I have the iron will, just need the right mentality to where I don't feel like I may be walking into a situation where I may get beat up or get in legal trouble. That's the way I used to feel about night game.
I'm thinking about just trying to go out as much as possible and maybe my nerves will have less of an impact on me. What type of advice would you give me? I think my mentality needs to be stronger. I just come from a sheltered environment growing up that I didn't get to experience the harsher side of things, like I do now in my adult years.