still not getting over my ex

[Romjuan]

Ask yourself this...why do you NEED a "game plan" for dealing with a girl who isn't part of your life any more?

The more you dwell on stuff like this, the more you make seeing her out to be some "major event" that requires "planning", the rougher it's gonna be when you actually DO see her.

You're asking us how you can "bend the spoon", when in reality the spoon isn't even THERE, it's in your head.

You have some looping thought processes that are causing you discomfort. You can't really STOP them, they're involuntary. What you CAN do is just "let them happen". Stop acknowledging them as important and needing ministration.

Let yourself feel the pain...then keep doing what you want to do. You don't have time to stop and think about this sh!t. Grit your teeth and carry on through the "pain". If you do this, you'll find that it isn't a big deal at all...it'll become a "buzzing" in the back of your head, until it decreases gradually and eventually disappears.

i feel i need a game plan because i am not over her and i dont want to look like a chump around her. if i have a plan on how to be around her i can display confidence around her.

should i talk to her about things? talk to her at all? display ****y funny confident? not go? its not till sunday so i have time to figure it out. what suggestions do you guys have

 

[Amazing]

i feel i need a game plan because i am not over her and i dont want to look like a chump around her. if i have a plan on how to be around her i can display confidence around her.

should i talk to her about things? talk to her at all? display ****y funny confident? not go? its not till sunday so i have time to figure it out. what suggestions do you guys have

Dude, i suggest you be real with yourself. It's done with her, and you shouldn't go back. So if you go and if you happen to run into her, just keep it normal and simple - just say what you are up to, the good thing is you dont need to impress her or pick her up, talk to her like you would talk to your cousin. Does she have friends she can hook you up with? If not then you can be 100% honest and not care:

No, I am not dating anyone right now, trying to put my life together, figured it might be weird seeing you, but its going alright so far..

 

[squirrels]

i feel i need a game plan because i am not over her and i dont want to look like a chump around her. if i have a plan on how to be around her i can display confidence around her.

And displaying confidence around her will do.....what??

You two are already DONE. What do you have left to prove to her??

Think about it, man. This website centers around teaching guys who DO have a chance with a girl not to do this over-analyzing, nervous, unsure behavior around women...and here you are doing it with a girl you're not even TRYING to get with any more.

You're afraid of your ego getting hurt...and as long as you are afraid of your ego getting hurt, nothing you say or do is going to satisfy you. You see her standing there, FORGET that she is human just like you, and make her out to be some deity that you have to "impress" to maintain your self-worth.

She's just another schmuck like anyone else. Now that it's all over, who gives a DAMN what she thinks of your "confidence"? You treat her like you would treat your sister-in-law. If that's still emotionally too much for you, you just avoid her where possible, but don't go running the other way if you bump into her. Say hi, be civil, go get some food.

should i talk to her about things? talk to her at all? display ****y funny confident? not go? its not till sunday so i have time to figure it out. what suggestions do you guys have

Same suggestion I had before. Stop acting like this is important. It isn't. You lost a girl...whether her fault, yours, or just simple chance/incompatibiity. Laugh at yourself and do better next time.

You have nothing to prove here.