Romjuan said:
so my ex and i have been broken up for 3 weeks now. i was doing great everyday up until last night. we lived together and now im living with my parents to save money. ive been keeping myself busy working out, hnging out with friends, gone out with other girls, and im on match.com. any other advice? i miss her nd in way i really hope she regrets breking u nd is missing me too. any other advice? also any advice on how to suceed on match.com?
I feel your pain, but as long as you have this mentality of 'hoping she does this or feels that' will buy you nothing but more pain.
The fact that she will 'feel' or 'do' something about you is irrelevant. Most likely you and her are done, and it's for the better; ESPECIALLY for you.
So even if she 'feels' different in a few months, doesn't necessarily mean your relationship is going to work out. In fact, 99% says it wouldn't. Most of of the time when an ex comes back it is just for affirmation. They'll stick around for a week or two then come up with some crumby excuse why they can't see you anymore.
Trust me. I've been through it SO many times with my ex. I'll stop talking to her for months and just when I'm about to start getting serious with another chick, she'll magically pop into my life and try to drag me back in. When I was young and dumb, I'd take these advances and just end up falling for her again. Then she'd tell me she wants to take a break and we wouldn't talk for another few months.
It was a vicious cycle.
It's in your best interest to forget the ways in which you can touch her emotionally again and make her attracted to you; just FORGET it. If she was attracted to you in the first place, she would have stuck with you. Something must have hit her that said, 'hey I want a different kind of guy in my life.' It happens to the best of us.
And you should be thinking the same thing. 'Hey I want a different kind of girl in my life.'
I don't think jumping back into the relationship game is good right now. And match.com has a lot of that.
If I were you I'd just meet some randoms around town and go for a few k-closes and f-closes. If you jump right back into a relationship now with a woman, you're going to be super-needy. This is another recipe for disaster.
Gain your manhood back, lose the idea of womanly comfort, and become an animal. This is your time to improve yourself as a man and come back better than ever.
I can't tell you the satisfaction I get when my ex sees me now with other women, while I just laugh in her face when she comes at me with those, "But I miss you so much WC2.. give it another chance" lines..
