Sticky situation - need some advice

[disgustipated]

Man you inspired me to register. Have to say I respect the **** out of you. You are a MAN, with balls that stands for something.

I had a girl doing MUCH worse things to me than this at one point. One night lying in bed with her I decided I had enough and I would get up, get dressed, and leave. In the middle of me getting dressed she started questioning me...I started with generic answers like "I won't put up with this anymore"(her going to see another guy some nights) and planned on walking out still, but she reeled me back into bed that night and slowly over time emasculated me to where SHE broke it off with me. I gave her permission to do those things by not giving her consequences. Even though she was the one acting out of line I was the one that ended up feeling like **** when she broke it off with me. Girls are all kinds of out of line nowadays and most aren't held accountable for their actions.

You did yourself and probably the next guy who has to encounter her a favor. She now understands she can lose someone for ****ed up behavior. So thank you for being the man I couldn't be.

Now imagine if every girl was held accountable for their actions. There would be less of this type of behavior from women. But good luck getting every guy to man up and do what you did.

Keep yourself busy, think of whatever you're doing in terms of is this activity helping me improve who I am? Get involved with stuff that does and a lot of it.

Good luck.

 

[Veridin]

The weak part of me who misses the hell out of hell says she just made one stupid decision bla bla bla..Do I really need to throw everything away for that if she is truly remorseful?

I think you overreacted. I know, everyone else here says "be strong" and "NEXT that b!tch," and so on. It takes a lot for me to look like the most pro-feminine guy in a group - there are tons of women who hate me because I have shredded their feminist claims by presenting scientific fact instead.

But anyway. From your posts it seems there isn't much else you think is bad about her, or at least you don't list any other factors. So why end things over this? You say you made it clear to her you didn't want her to go. You should have made it clearer. Told her "No guy would accept that his girlfriend goes out with another guy, and I won't either. I shouldn't have to say this, but I say no. You may say I can't give you orders, but if you want to be with me then you will listen to me in this. NO, don't go." You shouldn't threaten with leaving - I hate threats like that - but just keep saying no, you will not put up with it, until she agreed not to go.

Now, girls think there can be such a thing as male/female friendship. That is because they are less sexual creatures. They have always survived by networking, ever since the Stone Age, so they want as many allies as possible. We men know better. We are far more sexual creatures, because those men who were spread their genes more than those who weren't. We know that guys don't go out with girls without being interested in them. If they are even average-attractive, there is ALWAYS sex in our minds. Even for guys who are beta and who convince themselves that they are "just friends" - B.S.

You should tell her this. And if she is a good woman and she hasn't done anything else to make you not want to be with her, then you should take her back when she is obviously very sorry about all this. Of course, everyone here will say the opposite, because like in a feminist forum you get no points for saying something positive about "the enemy."

 

[Alien]

You say you made it clear to her you didn't want her to go. You should have made it clearer.

You cant make that clearer cause its already 100percent clear to her before you say a word. The long logical woo-woo just disgusts her even more and it will be used against you.

Now, girls think there can be such a thing as male/female friendship. That is because they are less sexual creatures. They have always survived by networking, ever since the Stone Age, so they want as many allies as possible.

Less sexual? Sorry man, but this is more than weird. They survived by fvcking the right guy(s). How can you not survive by not networking anyway?

 

[synergy1]

You say you made it clear to her you didn't want her to go. You should have made it clearer. Told her "No guy would accept that his girlfriend goes out with another guy, and I won't either. I shouldn't have to say this, but I say no.

so If I am in a healthy LTR and I go fvck some other chick despite my girlfriend telling me not to, I can cop out and use the excuse ' you weren't clear enough' ? Sorry dude, your rationale doesn't fly. I can see playing the devils advocate , somewhat, in this situation since none of us are truly knowledgeable about all the circumstances surrounding the relationship. But when the OP tells his girlfriend to back out and she can not out of respect for the other dude...something is up bro.

You should tell her this. And if she is a good woman and she hasn't done anything else to make you not want to be with her, then you should take her back when she is obviously very sorry about all this. Of course, everyone here will say the opposite, because like in a feminist forum you get no points for saying something positive about "the enemy."

What does being sorry accomplish? Its a vestigial emotion which is nothing more than a feeble attempt at nullifying prior responsibility. Again, would me being 'sorry' for committing a crime fly in today's society? Rightfully not. If you want to take back women who wronged you, thats your bag. I still believe that high quality women exist out there and would rather focus my efforts on them - something myself and others are advocating for the OP.

And lets be clear. Women aren't the enemy, low quality people are. There are plenty of them posting crap here and they too get called out accordingly (JustaShotaway) . Don't make broad generalizations when you can't back your claims.

 

[Pierce]

At the end of the day everybody wants a wife that respects them and doesn't do things that we would not approve of. Now she did this even though she knew she was wrong and admitted it and she still did it. It shows bad judgement and if a relationship is going to work both partners need good judgement. She showed bad judgement and she had to be taught a lesson. Trust me you won't teach her a lesson by yelling. You just got to show her you will leave.

 

[zekko]

if she goes ..break up . plain and simple.
BUT DONT TELL HER THIS.
dont be a pvssy and communicate this to her orally.

SHE SHOULD KNOW BETTER THAN THIS .

I know this is after the fact, but I actually would have told her plainly that if she went out with this dude we would be done. Saying "I'm not pleased" leaves things pretty vague. She probably figured she could get away with it.

Women today are told and CONDITIONED by feminism that they have the right to have male friends. That their boyfriend's objections to this are an effort to control her unfairly. It's revealing that she thought she was being controlled, when she clearly wasn't. She probably thought she wasn't doing anything wrong.

Yeah, she SHOULD have known not to do it. But women these days are taught to do this. They probably think it makes them cool. So I would have made it completely clear to her just how much of a dealbreaker I found this behavior, just so there would be no question afterward.

 

[Pierce]

zekko and if he said that she woulda probably woulda felt controlled. I woulda let her known that I dissaprove but I wouldn't tell her what to do. I rather not tell a girl what to do.... I will guide her however.

 

[piday314]

@epic_barrels: MAJOR RESPECT FOR WHAT YOU HAVE DONE. I can definitely visualize being in this situation, and I know it would be HARD AS BALLS for me to have the strength to have done the right thing, as you did.

Please, do not make any moves unless she caves in completely and has a mental breakdown. Stay strong. I'm rooting for you.

 

[Razor Sharp]

To everyone saying the OP overreacted that's not your call. Only he can define his own boundaries/standards. He clearly stated what his boundaries were to her AND even gave her a cold shoulder as a clue. What she did was not as wrong as say f*cking another guy, but it showed a lack of loyalty. She held the feelings of her coworker above the feelings of the man who loves her and that my friends is F*CKING WACK!

Epic barrels, I totally relate to what you are saying and would have dumped her too. Sure this time it was a "harmless" platonic date. But I'm telling you from experience this was her way of testing the branch before swinging. That's how women do.. they cuddle you and assure you of their love while they are planning for Mr. Next and you don't find out till she drops you like a bad habit out of nowhere.

Seriously, I applaud your resolve. It is a breath of fresh air to finally see people on this forum with spines. If things ever get rough or you have moments of weakness, don't hesitate to reach out bro. And remember, the pain you are feeling now is NOTHING compared to what you'd go through had you stood by this girl and gotten played.

Welcome back to the game, and good luck!

 

[zekko]

zekko and if he said that she woulda probably woulda felt controlled. I woulda let her known that I dissaprove but I wouldn't tell her what to do. I rather not tell a girl what to do.... I will guide her however.

The OP said she felt controlled anyway...just because the guy said he was displeased. Feminist BS.

Anyway, if I said to her "I would leave any girlfriend that did this", I don't see how that is telling her what to do. It leaves it entirely in her court. It's her decision. If I would have said "I would leave any girl that robs the bank" it's the same thing. I'm letting her know what I find unacceptable. What she does with that information is totally up to her. She does what she has to do, I do what I have to do.

How does a girl know what your boundaries are if you don't make them clear?

 

[SamoJednom]

I think it's about time you updated us