Sticking to your own race/nationality?

[Blackdragon5095]

I'm black. The most people who hate on me are black people.

I grew up in a mostly white small community. My family isn't ghetto or thugs. But because I'm not ghetto ( I know some ghetto talk ) is seem like thugs wanna mess with me. Some say I sound white for not talking like a thug.

For me if a girl is attactive I will want to appoarch her and talk to her. I had white and black girls show interest in me ( even in my afc days ).

If thugs wanna call me white, then let them. I'm changed alot from my afc days and proud that I grew up to become someone strong,smart and different in a good way.

1 of my best friends is white.

I can careless if about skin color and race. I judge people by who are they not by skin color.

 

[JHeights83rd]

Its good not care about skin color, as long as you can still be comfortable around the Black community. Like doing charity work in the community center or something. Who are you defining as thugs though? guys that dress and talk it? I dont know, i would take a look at my voice tone if i was you, and be sure that i dont sound nasal, stuck up and holier-than-thou. Get a tape recorder. YOu dont have to sound like youre hood, but smooth. If you want an example of that, look at that guy from the WA MU commercials. Im not saying you do this, but if you do, it would be good to undo it. I think if you keep getting that when you get around the community you should examine. peace

 

[Rex Man]

BlackDragon, it sounds to me like maybe some people have given you a hard time. The truth is, they mess with you because you are different than them. Whites do it to 'wiggers', asians to 'bananas' That's just how america is. And you know what? you sound the same way. 'I know some ghetto talk?' How the hell would you know any 'ghetto talk' outside of BET. You have an aura of pompousness about you and you're no better than the 'thugs'.

 

[Distant Light]

It is probably just some of yall area, because where I live in NY you don't really notice that everyone messes with everyone around here don't matter the race. I'm black and most of the girls I've messed with were spanish and black. The group I chill with isn't really based on that because all my friends chill with each other so its a big variety.

Everything about race and race's sticking together is just a limiting belief. I used to try and say the say thing but when I thought about it and looked at what I was doing race never really payed a factor. Only thing I do kinda notice some of the spanish kids I know tend to chill together, like majority of them in my lunch period hang together and once inawhile me group would go over there and kick it with them. Since we do have some spanish friends we do have a translator (lol) who sometimes here what they say, and my friend was telling me this lame ass kid was saying in spanish for the 2 spanish girls to leave this table.

For the guy who said he doesn't use alot of slang i know what you mean because I love throwing in words you wouldn't normally say (technically, "squad move out", cool instead of hot, etc.) and one of my friends would always point it out.

But just do you hang with who you want too and fuvk who you want too. Its all in your head and just trying to stop you from doing what you want.

 

[Aquatico]

I'm half white and half black. I really love being different because there are few who look anything like me. I used to have an afro so it was obvious that I had black in me, but I recently got a new hair style, and a lot of people say I look hispanic.

I talk pure white, and I hate when some of my friends say things like "you're so ****ing white"

but then, if my friend gets his keys locked in his car someone will say "let the black guy try to get them out, I'm sure he has experience"

As for girls, I've dated all types. But it's still a little uncomfortable beause I know that most girls have an idea in the back of their heads that their ideal partner is of theri own race.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

Mestizo means a mix of white and native not native completley or mostly.

Like I said Pr's are mostly white with some lingering taino elements.Some are black but most puerto ricans are white to us but can't pass as white to white people.

I don't see mexicans that way the vast majority of dominicans see mexicans/native latinos as the same and usually dump them into the same category americans do.

The "Help",dirty,nasty(no offense to anyone) cowardish,backwardess and racist.Even the whiter looking ones like Salvadorians.

South Americans are getting the label of "Blanco Sucio--white trash/wanna be whites by Dominicans and Puerto Ricans and treated poorly.They often get they "look at this sellout" treatment from us.

Usually that stems from some south americans denying us jobs,or not helping us advance,**** like that or just the general feeling of wanting to be among whites that South Americans tend to give off.

I can't say it's racism on there part and dominicans and other reacting to that but I have heard them say **** under there breathe to other dominicans and I've actually seen alot of nasty beatdowns in Union City delivered us quiques to them.

But yeah they also seem to have something against Dominicans and Puerto Ricans just like every other latino group.

I can see things getting violent among hispanics here very easily.It already has somewhat in the heights against Mexicans and in Paterson and other parts of New Jersey against Peruvians.

My freind,Dominicans might not say they're black..yeah they'll say Indio osuro,indio lavado(not literally native but means light-skinned,medium complexion,etc)..but no one else is trynna hear that.:nono:

Dominicans don't realize they're different till they step outside they're country.Yes most won't ever say it,but we all know this.

Like I said they might not say this to you but ask around rican circles and mejico's and them and you'll see it.Shoot,you must not be listening..LMAO.

First thing that comes out peoples mouths when they mention Dominicans is "oh god,they're ghetto","stay away from those morenos""No ande con eso negro del demonio"....

^What do you think they're trynna say?What do you think they mean?That we're morenos in the latino sense,brown?YEAH ****ING RIGHT!..They're calling us ******s.

Puerto ricans call dominicans "******s that speak spanish,swim,sing,and play baseball".True ****ing story.Now if that's puerto ricans saying that,people who deal with us and intermix with us everyday,dance to our music and try **** our women..

....imagine what a dumbass guatemalan thinks of us?Please.

I know cuz I've dealt with other hispanics for years as I have alot of family in Union City/Heights area of Jersey City,Weehaken,West New York,..I even hear stories from as Carribean dominated places as Orlando.From the "new latinos" bs treatment to Dr's/Pr'z.


Regardless of all that it's clear as day that dominicans are more of an afro-carribean people then Hispanic.

We have the language,the religion and the customs but that's about it.Go to DR and tell me my people aren't black.You'd think we're all african americans on vacation if you step into the lowerclass areas.

I and most other feel a deeper connection to african americans than hispanics but AA's also discriminate (probably harder) cuz we're "mixed nuts" to them.

So...I dunno what to tell you it is what it is.

Unless AA's intregrate and open the door for all other blacks then Dominicans won't do so either cuz black people in this country are all lumped together.

 

[manbearpig]

I haven't seen that its that difficult in America to date someone outside your race, and I live in TEXAS. My brother is white, and married to a Mexican woman, and they don't have any problems.

Lets be honest for a moment here..

The average white guy does not date outside his race as much as the average white girl, and when they do, they tend to date Hispanic or Asian women. You don't often see white guys with black girls.

I'm open to Latinas and Black girls just like I'm open to White girls and Asian girls.

I do have kind of a soft spot for black girls, actually. I guess its because I've always gotten along with them better, and they are usually more receptive to me. Mexican girls too, but not as much.

I think its because frankly I'm not as snobby as a lot of white people can be, and also because white girls tend to get the "Princess" attitude more and are thusly more arrogant with guys, but I could be wrong in that hypothesis. But it just seems like black girls are more down-to-earth and have an easier time seeing **** from us guys' perspective and they are less uptight and emotional about sex.

 

[DJMaC23]

Its funny that you say people from DR are considered spanish speaking blacks...yes I have some members on my father's side of the family who have black skin and I am light skin with kinky hair...my mother's side generally looks white though, as my mother is fair skin as is my grandmother and grandfather...not everyone in DR is black man, Dominicanos are mulattos like other dude said we come in all shapes, colors, sizes... if you couldn't guess already, I'm proud to be Dominicano

Oh, and I will go with whatever...I've been with white, black, south african (colored which is pretty much mixed), and of course latina...i might get at an indian chick soon, and i'm hopin for an asian as well

 

[Tha Realnezz]

^Loco,there's no such thing as mullato in this country.

If you have ONE single drop of black blood here you are black you can't pass for anything else.


You wanna keep thinking that then whatever...you'll find out sooner or later.

 

[backbreaker]

I was just wondering what the black/latino/asian and immigrant members of the board feel on race & ethnicity when it comes to dating.

This is my experience.

I am of Cuban/Dominican and Bajan background born here in the United States.

So that would equate both hispanic and black.

I consider myself to be more Dominican-american than anything else but I am totally black in race and culture(if you know dominicans and black cubans then you know we're pretty much spanish speaking blacks).

In this country there's no such thing as "mullato" or "indio".You're either this that or the other.

So often times alot of black women might see me as hispanic or carribean but everyone else even non-dominican/cuban hispanic girls see me as african american/carribean or some weird mutt.

This doesn't really make me bitter infact it makes me question alot of things about america and how the goverment has pitted people against eachother.I have no qualms dating an african american girl but i am of a different culture.

However,I can't ever completley assimilate into that community becuz that community is not quick to embrace outsiders becuz of past history.So me dating a aa girl actually does rubs ALOT of people in that community the wrong way.Regardless of wheter or not they date latinas and regardless of me being blacker than they are half the time...they don't like it.

All black people get along and intermix---that's only on TV.

Other hispanics?Please,they have probably worse views on blacks then southern rednecks do.Minus the violence & legal segregation I suppose.But it's very hard being around and them for long.

All Hispanic nationalities get along and intermix---in MIA maybe,but the rest of the country it's by race & income

So I have pretty much somewhat isolated myself into my own communities and somewhat Puerto Rican(although they can be *******s too) communities,as well as other black latinos.

We're treated negativley but other hispanics cuz we're black and our culture is carribean but we don't fit in among other blacks neither.Now don't get me wrong I have dated philipinas,indians and even white women but it's not really comfortable here in america to do so.

Situations i've described above really have made me delve harder into my culture and dissconnect with the so-called "New Latino" movement.IMO--that doesn't really pertain to me since Dominicans,Cubans are seen as something else and we are.

So yeah,i've pretty much stuck to my own "race"/nationalities for most things and especially dating and socializing & don't think i'm wrong for that.

I'm not racist towards anybody else ive just come to realize that in america you pretty much have too.

So I've decided to stick to my own people no matter what.

how does this post get you any closer to having the women you want in your life?

 

[Tha Realnezz]

I can get the women I want thing is you can't really be couped inside with women all day can you?

Unless you live in a major city,in larger states this interracial **** is not really popping off like that.Even between blacks and latinos it's highly exxagerated I don't see it being THAT common like people say.

If it was the case then I wouldn't have made the thread.

Thankfully I mostly attracted to Dominican women/Carribean women unlike a lot of black cats that aren't attracted at all to black women(more than you would imagine).

 

[manbearpig]

I don't live in a major city currently, and I see it quite often.

 

[Aquatico]

I live in LA, it's not even an issue here. Although people may think it doesn't look as fitting when people of different races date, nobody looks down upon it. It's not even questioned.

also ironically, I met a half white/black girl three hours after posting my last post, and I just got back from an awesome date with her.

 

[TxCowboy]

How many people here are just plain blind to what really goes on out there? really...just have their head up in the clouds? ... ya dig ?

Stop for a second and take a look around you and tell me ... do you not see people of one ethnicity stay with their own ethnicity as opposed to going to other ethnicities for women- no matter what part of the world they are in, especially America?

Ex/ Go to a restaurant, club, bar, gym, cafeteria and sit down for a few minutes and look around you .... there's always people who associate with other ethnicities outside of their own, however, more common than not, you will find that most people will "stick to their own" - 2PAC said it best : "Thats just the way it is ... " AND my favorite that I've heard from many people - "Birds of a feather flock together"

FACT: This topic of conversation will never end from now until the end of time because there are ALWAYS people from all over the world who will question whether or not they should or should not date a person who is not of their own ethnicity rather it be American, Asian, European, South American, African, Austrialian, Canadian, or Middle Eastern. Believe it or not, most stereotypes are REALLY true about all different ethnicities, no matter what your ethnicity/nationality is... and some are not.

My point to all is that you should be direct and concise when someone asks you a question of rather or not which ethnicity (NOT RACE) can pick up women the best or has the best looking women - Your own ethnicity should be your answer; Stand up for who and what you are and quit cowtowing to everyone else just because you want to be PC.

By the way - This is part of your INNER game as a DJ simply because as a MAN you need to be proud of yourself and show you have pride in your culture, what you do each day of your life, and most of all, the ways in which you present/carry yourself in front of other people.

-Laterz

 

[itishe]

This doesn't really make me bitter infact it makes me question alot of things about america and how the goverment has pitted people against eachother.I have no qualms dating an african american girl but i am of a different culture.

Just out of sheer curiousity, what the **** are you talking about?

 

[KarmaSutra]

Girls are Girls really, although black poon is nice because it appears more pink on the inside.

Yeah but does it taste more like dark meat or white?

 

[manbearpig]

My point to all is that you should be direct and concise when someone asks you a question of rather or not which ethnicity (NOT RACE) can pick up women the best or has the best looking women - Your own ethnicity should be your answer; Stand up for who and what you are and quit cowtowing to everyone else just because you want to be PC.

By the way - This is part of your INNER game as a DJ simply because as a MAN you need to be proud of yourself and show you have pride in your culture, what you do each day of your life, and most of all, the ways in which you present/carry yourself in front of other people.

Um, what the hell? So you are saying its un-DJ of a person to not think their ethnicity has the best looking women?

But I really like Black and Hispanic chicks. I genuinely do. White women are more uptight imo and they are also more full of themselves. Black girls and latinas also seem to be more open about sex on the whole too.

 

[Duffty]

You'd be amazed at the power changing your OWN beliefs can have over the way other people think. Stop making excuses for your isolationism and start proactively learning to relate to people who may initally have trouble accepting difference in other people. You could have a large impact on a lot of people this way.

Right on man, social programming can make people become self aware of their "culture or colour". But personality should be stronger than the "culture of colour".

I am Oriental Asian but it should not over shadow my own personality. For example white guy cant rapp but EMINEM has a strong personality and proved himself.

 

[NorPacWolf]

Don't Think So Much

Just sarge, man. Forget about the girl's race or nationality. If she's hot, go for it. The more you second guess yourself the weaker your sarges will be. Assume the girl's attracted and assume that race/nationality will not hinder attraction. In fact, assume that whatever your race/nationality is, it's an advantage. Confidence (and good looks) are key, not race.

Wolf