This is the guy I was asking about who doesn't seem to want sex, or isn't in a hurry to get any, but we have a great time together, and do 'everything but' sex.
last week:
Still no sex, but I did ask him, "so do you want to have actual sex one of these days?" and he laughed and nodded and said, "one of these days." not yet, but I'm not fretting about it.
last night
so we went out to and had a nice dinner.
went back to my place and hung out on the couch talking and fooling around a little. just kissing, nothing more.
I finally asked, "are you looking for something casual or something more serious?"
and he didn't know what to say. he finally said, "I don't really think of it like that. when I find someone, I just go with it. I know that's vague. what are you looking for?"
I said, "something more serious."
he said, "how serious? like what?"
I said, "serious enough so I'm not wasting my time. I've done that in the past and don't want to do it again."
he nodded and said, "I can appreciate that. I don't want you to feel like you're wasting your time. I can tell you that I'm not a player."
then I laughed and said I never thought he was.
he asked,"do you have any more burning questions?"
I said, "nope, that's all" and we went back to making out.
any advice?? I think I just have to wait and see what happens. he'll either pull away because I want more than he does, or he'll stick around.
last week:
Still no sex, but I did ask him, "so do you want to have actual sex one of these days?" and he laughed and nodded and said, "one of these days." not yet, but I'm not fretting about it.
last night
so we went out to and had a nice dinner.
went back to my place and hung out on the couch talking and fooling around a little. just kissing, nothing more.
I finally asked, "are you looking for something casual or something more serious?"
and he didn't know what to say. he finally said, "I don't really think of it like that. when I find someone, I just go with it. I know that's vague. what are you looking for?"
I said, "something more serious."
he said, "how serious? like what?"
I said, "serious enough so I'm not wasting my time. I've done that in the past and don't want to do it again."
he nodded and said, "I can appreciate that. I don't want you to feel like you're wasting your time. I can tell you that I'm not a player."
then I laughed and said I never thought he was.
he asked,"do you have any more burning questions?"
I said, "nope, that's all" and we went back to making out.
any advice?? I think I just have to wait and see what happens. he'll either pull away because I want more than he does, or he'll stick around.
