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Stay clear from the 'Educated Woman'

00Kevin

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Stay clear from some 'Educated Woman'

This is what I have learned about educated women and their claim to be open minded.

Her open mindedness can be explained. It's not the true sort, of which she will hear a balanced argument and listen to either side to make an informed opinion. Her sort of open mindedness is the kind that is so typical these days.

She begins with the presumption that she is right, and then proceeds to learn anything she can that supports her own view, while likewise adopting beliefs that appeal to her without question.

The fact of the matter is that most women are very closed minded. She will support the validity of any line of reasoning that is either the current social trend, or that she happens to find appealing. Likewise, she will think that it is closed minded to learn about things that oppose her viewpoints.

I have seen it a number of times, and it usually has a very basic root, as do most things. Most women will assume that anything you believe in strongly needs to be updated to support her choices.

If you refuses to call her way the best, or call anything she does wrong, then you are at fault. Women hate to be told that what they are doing or what they think about could be wrong.

Why am I posting this? Well for one, I am currently dating an educated woman. But despite this, I always manage to shoot her arguments down peacefully with simplistic logic. Her education has done nothing for her. She is an emotional debater and holds grudges afterwards. At the moment, I am starting to wish for a simple girly girl. At least, a girly girl knows how to be happy in life and keep things simple. The educated woman on the other hand is the most confused piece of work you can ever meet.

Stay clear of the so called ‘educated woman’. She won’t be able to understand how you naturally command a sense of superiority without even trying. It will frustrate her all the more when you have a lower education and turn her logic into nonsense with only a few words. I have learned that it is a good idea to find a girl that looks up to you and doesn’t try to be your equal. After all, as a DJ you are the Alpha.
 
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I think your thread would be more accurate if you said stay away from egoistic women because that is essentially what you're talking about. I don't think we want to chase dumb women. We want to chase women who don't cling to their ego (ie. views) like a life preserver.
 

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Sounds like you have an inferiority complex around a woman who has an opinion...Most legitmate debates/'arguments' not centered around a statistical fact do not have a right or wrong. Strong minded, opinionated people like to know they are 'right' because they spend the time trying to figure out their opinion.

I'd say this is AFC advice. You can turn a woman on the way you connect and debate, it doesn't have to be adversarial like you mention. It sounds like you/her are a @ss (no offense) that likes to get his way, and she/you feeds off of that, and you both basically annoy the piss out of each other when you argue.

But nothing can be duller than dealing with a stupid woman....
 
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I agree with your post overall, but you should temper it with what 'one on one' said, "egotistical women" is who you should avoid who try to play the alpha character in the relationship. I nexted a chick that was a feminist and told her that I am a man and that she she know her place in a man/woman relationship and that I have neither the time nor desire to argue and fight with the girl that is with me.That is not why I seek female companionship...she is there to soothe and comfort me and not to agitate and annoy me!!!

I do prefer educated women however, but only those that challenge me intellectually (not emotionally, and add to my life experience.
 

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I'd rather date someone with brains

In the past I've dated some real idiots -- thought about marrying one until I realized her white-trash ways didn't mix with my education. All of my friends who married bimbos are painfully miserable right now.

I'd rather date someone who has an opinion, can debate things, has actually read some books and turned off the TV for awhile, and understands issues going on in the world.

I upped the ante for myself a couple years ago when I entered grad school. I decided to date intelligent women I met in college, undergrads (despite being a lot older) and grads and came away thinking, "Why did I date air-head idiots for so long? These brainy women are fun!"

Yeah, they like to debate now and then and a couple I've dated can REALLY talk my ears off -- usually when I'm getting bored I start visually undressing them in my mind. But I'd rather have them than the alternative.

Just say no to bimbos.
 

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Originally posted by DankNuggs
Sounds like you have an inferiority complex around a woman who has an opinion...Most legitmate debates/'arguments' not centered around a statistical fact do not have a right or wrong. Strong minded, opinionated people like to know they are 'right' because they spend the time trying to figure out their opinion.

I'd say this is AFC advice. You can turn a woman on the way you connect and debate, it doesn't have to be adversarial like you mention. It sounds like you/her are a @ss (no offense) that likes to get his way, and she/you feeds off of that, and you both basically annoy the piss out of each other when you argue.

But nothing can be duller than dealing with a stupid woman....
Unless you haven't realized it, turning a woman on isn't what I was talking about. I allready have this girl and I turn her on all the time. My post is only to make clear that there are educated women who think they are smart, but they are really just more confused.

As for the girl I'm dating, I refain from the strong debate because I know she can't handle it. If I was to voice my opion in a strong way she would go crazy and get all emotional. What I wouldn't give right now for the girly girl that is a b!tch. At least I can deal with a b!tch or a strong willed woman. Someome that speaks her mind would be more interesting. All I know is that it is almost next time for this girl if things don't shape up.

Week willed women are not attractive (at least for me anyway).
 
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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
I agree with your post overall, but you should temper it with what 'one on one' said, "egotistical women" is who you should avoid who try to play the alpha character in the relationship. I nexted a chick that was a feminist and told her that I am a man and that she she know her place in a man/woman relationship and that I have neither the time nor desire to argue and fight with the girl that is with me.That is not why I seek female companionship...she is there to soothe and comfort me and not to agitate and annoy me!!!

I do prefer educated women however, but only those that challenge me intellectually (not emotionally, and add to my life experience.
Yes, I agree with what you said. Good on you for telling her outright like that.
The problem with my girl is that she is a semi-feminist that belives in fema-equality. Educated women are usually influenced by femanazi garbage. This is the problem with most educated women.

It is very rare to find a woman with an education that can engage in an intellectual debate without getting emotional or hold a silent grudge. If you find this you are lucky.

I for one, don't subscribe to the notion of equality as per the femanazi doctrine. It is useless to me.
 

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I think using the word "educated" is a bit of a misdirected statement. From Kevin's post, it can be deduced that he means very liberal, and believes this liberal stuff cuz that's what she's taught, or whatever. But there's a large difference between educated at, say, a conservative Christian college, or an extremely liberal sort of university. this is a good post, but the word "educated" has to be elaborated on a little more for those who didn't figure out what he meant.

For example, I am seeing a girl who is intelligent, strong willed and strongminded moreso than any feminist, and she's very feminine and traditional and even a little more antifeminist than I am. This is what Kevin meant, not to date a moron, but to date a chick who can use common sense outside of what her liberal college taught her.
 

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Originally posted by MetalFortress
I think using the word "educated" is a bit of a misdirected statement. From Kevin's post, it can be deduced that he means very liberal, and believes this liberal stuff cuz that's what she's taught, or whatever. But there's a large difference between educated at, say, a conservative Christian college, or an extremely liberal sort of university. this is a good post, but the word "educated" has to be elaborated on a little more for those who didn't figure out what he meant.

For example, I am seeing a girl who is intelligent, strong willed and strongminded moreso than any feminist, and she's very feminine and traditional and even a little more antifeminist than I am. This is what Kevin meant, not to date a moron, but to date a chick who can use common sense outside of what her liberal college taught her.
Damn.. can I trade you?
 

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Give me an educated woman any day. I'll stay away from the egoistic ones or those that they have something to prove about their intellect. More times than not they are attempting to compensate to cover for their lack of overall knowledge about specific topics.

Educated women who don't know about a particular subject are usually willing to learn without embellishing their level of knowledge.
 

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1 I think you're not generalizing about "educated women", but rather describing one girl you're dating now. You may find the same behavioral traits are often found in "uneducated women", maybe to even a greater extent.

2 You're still to naive to even argue with women, or for that extent with people in general. When she says: " Yeah, I think [insert stupid thing] blah blah blah"

Instead of arguing with her, you say: "oh, I just love when a girl is able to think herself and is opinionated. Tell me more"

And then shut up and listen for about 15 mins. She'll exhaust herself, you'll change the subject and she'll forget it.

Is your goal to prove her stupid or to make her lick your dikk?

Then choose one and keep at it.

Cheers :)
 

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And then shut up and listen for about 15 mins. She'll exhaust herself, you'll change the subject and she'll forget it.

Is your goal to prove her stupid or to make her lick your dikk?

Then choose one and keep at it.

Cheers :) [/B]
this is wisdom.
 

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I think your confusing an intelligent women from the "Argumentive Bitc h". I hate, absolutely, HATE the argumentive bitc h. Sounds like your is a bit of both, but not to bad. You all know the argumentive bitc h. Everyone has dated one, probably fell into that trap because she was hot, and well, you needed some play.

Ewww, bringing up old, bad memories:eek:
 

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A lot of these educated chicks value the confrontation more than the point they're trying to make (or shoot down). They consider it a victory for them when you don't have a comeback or just you just decide that you're tired of their **** (as in, "yeah, whatever, lady!). They get off on that verbal sparring. Sorry, if I want to spar, I'll go to a dojo!
Now an educated women who can listen as well as talk is like gold press latinum.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Women are NOT debate buddies get it straight dude.

Never enter a debate with a women unless you just want a friend.

debating does not create attraction

So quit it, and debate with your friends or others. A girlfriend isn't your debate buddy.

With women it ends up into more of an argument than a debate which seems what is going on here.

Do not tolerate that bs, work around it, and turn it back on her, but do not debate her.
 

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Men love to debate with women. So they can try to show off their wit and logic mind. Insecure people need to show off and this is usually what it boils down to.

My last mistake was when a girl said "I don't like men that go to strip clubs I think it's wrong" and I engaged her in a logical debate. She didn't change her mind. It turned into an argument.

Yet I barely could salvage that by learning my lesson and ignoring her.

When a woman has an opposing way of thinking it is her reality Vs. Yours.

If you were secure about your reality you don't need to be debating. Being secure about your reality is what attracts women.

So If a girl were to say the same thing to me I'd say

"Okay bye"

A person with an opinion like that is someone that creates disharmony in my life. So she'll either shut up about her opinion and change the subject or I'll move on.

Women also use opinions to get you into an argument to create drama so you can be her little drama device.
 

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Originally posted by Jvesti
Men love to debate with women. So they can try to show off their wit and logic mind. Insecure people need to show off and this is usually what it boils down to.

My last mistake was when a girl said "I don't like men that go to strip clubs I think it's wrong" and I engaged her in a logical debate. She didn't change her mind. It turned into an argument.

Yet I barely could salvage that by learning my lesson and ignoring her.

When a woman has an opposing way of thinking it is her reality Vs. Yours.

If you were secure about your reality you don't need to be debating. Being secure about your reality is what attracts women.

So If a girl were to say the same thing to me I'd say

"Okay bye"

A person with an opinion like that is someone that creates disharmony in my life. So she'll either shut up about her opinion and change the subject or I'll move on.

Women also use opinions to get you into an argument to create drama so you can be her little drama device.

I agree with you, but debating has nothing to do with insecurity. insecurity is often a phrase used by women to describe men when men who don't agree with them. Don't fall down that trap.

When a man debates he is fully capable of being calm and fully capable of not taking it personally. No one on this planet has reality figured out. It is important to be able to debate (not argue) about philosophical issues. During life we all learn from what other people have to say and from how they perceive the world. Wanting to engage in a debate is a good thing, it is not a sign of insecurity.

I think it is rather shameful that some women can't debate an important issue and keep an open mind. Women don't want to learn from each other. They don't even know what being open minded even means.

it would be nice to find a woman who can debate in a peaceful way and enjoy the process of learning from each other. I think that is key to being happy with a woman.

The bottom line is that, woman are usually insecure with their own reality and thus end up taking simple debates personally.

so yeah.. just let her talk for a while and then let her give you a BJ
 

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Originally posted by myfriendblu
I think your confusing an intelligent women from the "Argumentive Bitc h". I hate, absolutely, HATE the argumentive bitc h. Sounds like your is a bit of both, but not to bad. You all know the argumentive bitc h. Everyone has dated one, probably fell into that trap because she was hot, and well, you needed some play.

Ewww, bringing up old, bad memories:eek:
an argumentative b!tich is one thing, but a silent grudge girl is even worse. I can deal with the b!tch by just being an aszhole.
right now i have a silent grudge girl.
 
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If lightening strikes you 75 times in a row. The problem isn't the lightnening...it's you.

You just need to learn how to handle smart educated women.
 
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