Here's another newbie DJ tip - about how to play the status game in your favor.
Let's backtrack to female psychology 101 - Rule 1 is that the high-status guy gets the most female interest. It doesn't mean he can pull any chick in the room, but it does mean that if a guy is an obvious alpha, then *most* chicks will be more interested than not.
So why does this matter? Here's the killer - in the chick mind, status is relative. And alpha traits are relative too.
In other words you don't have to be the biggest bad-ass alpha in the whole continental US to get the interest.
You just have to be *more* of an alpha than anyone else that's around.
Example - chat room sarging. You're in a chat room, guys are hitting on chicks, all you have to do is start contributing lines with authority and power and you *will* get the female interest.
Example - party pick-ups. You're at a small quiet party, some nice hotties there. How to do the pick up? Normal guys would hit on them and try and prove they're the one she should go for.
This is the wrong approach. What you do is bust the balls of both the chicks *and* the other guys there. Subtle verbal aggression and put-downs usually do it. You don't have to get vicious and a jerk about it - just enough to prove you're the alpha. ****y and funny will do the job, as always. Insult the guys in a j/k of way and neg hit the guys and you're there.
Do that for a while, the chicks will grant you alpha status *in that context.* And the rest is easy.
Why is this cool? Because if you're a recovering AFC, you can still get the interest without trying to turn yourself into The Ultimate Alpha.
Chat rooms are great practice for this. Go in there and practice staking your claim and making the room revolve around what you say. Once you get good at that, you're more than half way there to doing it in the real world.
Note - this tip is for newbies only, who need some encouragement to get started. Experienced DJs can go the whole way easily, so it's not for them. But for guys who are just starting out, this is one way to move from being stuck in permanent chumpitude.
Let's backtrack to female psychology 101 - Rule 1 is that the high-status guy gets the most female interest. It doesn't mean he can pull any chick in the room, but it does mean that if a guy is an obvious alpha, then *most* chicks will be more interested than not.
So why does this matter? Here's the killer - in the chick mind, status is relative. And alpha traits are relative too.
In other words you don't have to be the biggest bad-ass alpha in the whole continental US to get the interest.
You just have to be *more* of an alpha than anyone else that's around.
Example - chat room sarging. You're in a chat room, guys are hitting on chicks, all you have to do is start contributing lines with authority and power and you *will* get the female interest.
Example - party pick-ups. You're at a small quiet party, some nice hotties there. How to do the pick up? Normal guys would hit on them and try and prove they're the one she should go for.
This is the wrong approach. What you do is bust the balls of both the chicks *and* the other guys there. Subtle verbal aggression and put-downs usually do it. You don't have to get vicious and a jerk about it - just enough to prove you're the alpha. ****y and funny will do the job, as always. Insult the guys in a j/k of way and neg hit the guys and you're there.
Do that for a while, the chicks will grant you alpha status *in that context.* And the rest is easy.
Why is this cool? Because if you're a recovering AFC, you can still get the interest without trying to turn yourself into The Ultimate Alpha.
Chat rooms are great practice for this. Go in there and practice staking your claim and making the room revolve around what you say. Once you get good at that, you're more than half way there to doing it in the real world.
Note - this tip is for newbies only, who need some encouragement to get started. Experienced DJs can go the whole way easily, so it's not for them. But for guys who are just starting out, this is one way to move from being stuck in permanent chumpitude.
