Listen_to_Olly
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I had somewhat of an epiphany as of late as a guy who had a tough time making sense of social hierarchies and status after the school years ended. After really thinking about it, it's like it all made sense to me.
In our high school years, it was so clear. Only a few guys were given the privilege of dating the hottest girls at that high school and they were typically seen as the "cool kids". Now this varied based on what high school you went to, in some the artsy types were cool kids and in others it was the jocks. Most of the times I noticed that it was kids who came from at least middle class or wealthier families. These were the guys being invited to hedonistic house parties
In college, it was also clear. Depends on your university but at most in the USA, it is athletes and fraternity guys (in certain fraternities) who were exclusively getting with the hottest girls. Athletes, if they were good, because the girls knew they would go pro and fraternity guys because you had to pay thousands a semester to be in a good fraternity. These were the guys partying with large groups of hot girls on a weekend while the lower status guys were lonely for the most part.
All along, it was about money even when it wasn't about money. The popular kids in high school are usually rich and go to high schools in areas that are least middle class and the frat guys in college, also rich. The hot girls more or less congregate towards these guys because of some of their more outgoing traits and decent looks, they congregate with other guys who have these traits and the hot girls join in.
Even in the real world, I notice it with guys that work in entertainment, fashion industry, service industry, and other avenues where they might make decent money, be around other socially charismatic guys, and have hot girls congregate that way. I am sure other industries exist as well but those are the ones I could think of, guys in it by virtue are to some extent the cool kids of the real world.
It's somewhat complicated in the sense that guys who work in some high paying careers like software engineer might have some wealth but still not get hot girls. For this reason, follow the money isn't enough and these guys aren't really seen as "cool" because of that.
But really, it all comes down to 2 things:
1 - Follow the money.
2 - Follow the hot girls.
Typically, this leads to a more party-like social lifestyle, not quite as wild as college, where socially charismatic guys and hot girls congregate. It can vary based on location where in certain areas, you have certain groups of guys who get hot girls while in other areas, it is another group of guys. But really, the status comes with having wealth or at least flashing it and then having hot girls congregate to your lifestyle, which likely comes from social connections you make with guys who might already have that.
It's like never really changed from high school when you get to the root of it.
In our high school years, it was so clear. Only a few guys were given the privilege of dating the hottest girls at that high school and they were typically seen as the "cool kids". Now this varied based on what high school you went to, in some the artsy types were cool kids and in others it was the jocks. Most of the times I noticed that it was kids who came from at least middle class or wealthier families. These were the guys being invited to hedonistic house parties
In college, it was also clear. Depends on your university but at most in the USA, it is athletes and fraternity guys (in certain fraternities) who were exclusively getting with the hottest girls. Athletes, if they were good, because the girls knew they would go pro and fraternity guys because you had to pay thousands a semester to be in a good fraternity. These were the guys partying with large groups of hot girls on a weekend while the lower status guys were lonely for the most part.
All along, it was about money even when it wasn't about money. The popular kids in high school are usually rich and go to high schools in areas that are least middle class and the frat guys in college, also rich. The hot girls more or less congregate towards these guys because of some of their more outgoing traits and decent looks, they congregate with other guys who have these traits and the hot girls join in.
Even in the real world, I notice it with guys that work in entertainment, fashion industry, service industry, and other avenues where they might make decent money, be around other socially charismatic guys, and have hot girls congregate that way. I am sure other industries exist as well but those are the ones I could think of, guys in it by virtue are to some extent the cool kids of the real world.
It's somewhat complicated in the sense that guys who work in some high paying careers like software engineer might have some wealth but still not get hot girls. For this reason, follow the money isn't enough and these guys aren't really seen as "cool" because of that.
But really, it all comes down to 2 things:
1 - Follow the money.
2 - Follow the hot girls.
Typically, this leads to a more party-like social lifestyle, not quite as wild as college, where socially charismatic guys and hot girls congregate. It can vary based on location where in certain areas, you have certain groups of guys who get hot girls while in other areas, it is another group of guys. But really, the status comes with having wealth or at least flashing it and then having hot girls congregate to your lifestyle, which likely comes from social connections you make with guys who might already have that.
It's like never really changed from high school when you get to the root of it.