Hey guys,
I've been trying to take a swing at building a startup and am being quite agile, whereas I don't stick to my idea's if a multitude of my potential clients tell me they want something else, I adjust the product towards the general need of my clients.
It's pretty hard, because you get attached to the ideas but the trick for me is just self-reflecting and writing everything down.
The hardest part for me is actually my family and friends.
My family because they constantly tell me I'm wasting my time, money, life, ... They barely know what I'm doing but all they talk about is how I'm messing up. Honestly I feel a strong urge to just drop my family completely until everything is going well or has just failed... I don't understand how you can, as a parent, lecture your own son on a daily basis that he is messing up, while their son is just about to give the first swing? The only money this business is costing me is my rent, which is minimal. I've gained, in the last 2 months some really nice skills, such as writing HTML, bootstrap, css, c# and c++. I'm working 10 hours, 6 days out of 7, so I consider myself not lazy. I get soooo pissed off at the feeling that they want to just say: "see, we told you"...
My mom spams my mail with job applications, where I had to call her and had to tell her if she doesn't stop now I'm cutting her off, that I'm trying this business thing whether she likes it or not. She can't help but comment on it every single occasion we meet up though, as can't my father. He asked his boss's opinion, who has connections with the operations manager of a naval business, which is a different department of what my startup is busy with, I'm technical (I repair boats). Well this guy said my idea is bad.... Great dad, so a friend of yours has a friend who's heard of what my business is about and he thinks it's a bad idea? Thanks for that input...
Last weekend me and my brother went home, we were there for 4 hours, we talked 2 hours about playing card games (which I don't care about), this is a usual. Then they talk 10 minutes about how I'm fvcking up my life, even though I saved 60% of my wages the last 4 years, which I'm now trying to invest in my startup, trying to build a proper asset. Then they talk 2 hours about some tv show or some media bullsh!t, often including racial comments, even though they know I have made Muslim friends during my travels.
I don't have time to watch tv so I again am pretty much excluded. These family meetups have become a burden which I just don't feel like doing because I know I'll feel like sh!t afterwards.
As for my friends... Well before my startup I travelled the world for my profession for 3.5 years, and I feel we've grown apart so much that, well, we don't really fit anymore. Don't get me wrong, they're nice people, but they're just so... Boring?
- they complain about the job and their boss, yet do nothing
- they talk about the stories from 4 years ago, same ol stories, on a weekly basis...
- they settle in with their GFs and barely go out of their house...
Thinking about all these problems, I can only think that the problem is with me, considering I seem to have problems with 90% of the people of my passed life. Either I changed, or I have a fundamental problem...
Do I drop my family for a while? Do I drop my friends and get new ones? Anybody else been through these situations?
I've been trying to take a swing at building a startup and am being quite agile, whereas I don't stick to my idea's if a multitude of my potential clients tell me they want something else, I adjust the product towards the general need of my clients.
It's pretty hard, because you get attached to the ideas but the trick for me is just self-reflecting and writing everything down.
The hardest part for me is actually my family and friends.
My family because they constantly tell me I'm wasting my time, money, life, ... They barely know what I'm doing but all they talk about is how I'm messing up. Honestly I feel a strong urge to just drop my family completely until everything is going well or has just failed... I don't understand how you can, as a parent, lecture your own son on a daily basis that he is messing up, while their son is just about to give the first swing? The only money this business is costing me is my rent, which is minimal. I've gained, in the last 2 months some really nice skills, such as writing HTML, bootstrap, css, c# and c++. I'm working 10 hours, 6 days out of 7, so I consider myself not lazy. I get soooo pissed off at the feeling that they want to just say: "see, we told you"...
My mom spams my mail with job applications, where I had to call her and had to tell her if she doesn't stop now I'm cutting her off, that I'm trying this business thing whether she likes it or not. She can't help but comment on it every single occasion we meet up though, as can't my father. He asked his boss's opinion, who has connections with the operations manager of a naval business, which is a different department of what my startup is busy with, I'm technical (I repair boats). Well this guy said my idea is bad.... Great dad, so a friend of yours has a friend who's heard of what my business is about and he thinks it's a bad idea? Thanks for that input...
Last weekend me and my brother went home, we were there for 4 hours, we talked 2 hours about playing card games (which I don't care about), this is a usual. Then they talk 10 minutes about how I'm fvcking up my life, even though I saved 60% of my wages the last 4 years, which I'm now trying to invest in my startup, trying to build a proper asset. Then they talk 2 hours about some tv show or some media bullsh!t, often including racial comments, even though they know I have made Muslim friends during my travels.
I don't have time to watch tv so I again am pretty much excluded. These family meetups have become a burden which I just don't feel like doing because I know I'll feel like sh!t afterwards.
As for my friends... Well before my startup I travelled the world for my profession for 3.5 years, and I feel we've grown apart so much that, well, we don't really fit anymore. Don't get me wrong, they're nice people, but they're just so... Boring?
- they complain about the job and their boss, yet do nothing
- they talk about the stories from 4 years ago, same ol stories, on a weekly basis...
- they settle in with their GFs and barely go out of their house...
Thinking about all these problems, I can only think that the problem is with me, considering I seem to have problems with 90% of the people of my passed life. Either I changed, or I have a fundamental problem...
Do I drop my family for a while? Do I drop my friends and get new ones? Anybody else been through these situations?
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