Starting to see more condescending profiles

[ThisNThat]

I have to admit, I'm starting to see more and more women sounding condescending
in their profiles. Like they have an axe to grind. Talking at their audience of men and
don't sound like they have a loving soul or bone in their bodies.

It's funny, because it's dating tips 101 not to sound negative in your profile, but here we have
the most vilest of write-ups.

There are some profiles where the woman doesn't even describe herself, her hobbies, NOR what she is looking for in a man, but it's just paragraphs of just being pissed off at men in general.

It's like "Okay you guys, I've had it, if your'e looking for a one-night stand, don't bother. If you play video games...deal breaker!" "For petes sake, what's with the hats and sun glasses...show a picture your eyes!" You better be 6 feet or taller, because I wear heels!

The list goes on, worse than what I listed...but it's just back-to-back complaining in their profiles. Someone have told me that they are simply just frustrated and if you contact them to empathize with them...you may wind up in their good graces. lol

Granted they even respond.

So it's like "Well, I meet all those whiney criteria, but she's ignored me....so I don't feel sorry for her. lol

 

[El Payaso]

When you have hundreds of suitors knocking at your door, you can dismiss them and state demands without a care in the world. Just look at the inbox of your average girl's OLD account. You'll be surprised the number of messages she gets in a day.

Most men will be lucky to get one or two messages in a week so they're not as picky as women.

Basically, women can and are picky because they have a multitude of choices. Men aren't because they don't have the same level of choice as women.

 

[ThisNThat]

When you have hundreds of suitors knocking at your door, you can dismiss them and state demands without a care in the world. Just look at the inbox of your average girl's OLD account. You'll be surprised the number of messages she gets in a day.

Most men will be lucky to get one or two messages in a week so they're not as picky as women.

Basically, women can and are picky because they have a multitude of choices. Men aren't because they don't have the same level of choice as women.

So this explains the, "If what I wrote offends you, then move along!" in their profiles, then yeah, I get what you mean. These men will lick up left over bathwater of these most mediocre looking women. All they want is a vagina with legs pretty much.

 

[Glassguy]

El Payaso is right.

Add in the ones that have been hit and runs, pump and dumps and cvm dumpsters and they dont exactly see the world through rose colored glasses anymore.

I have never hooked up with a true relationship quality candidate through OLD. They all had severe issues compared to the women that I meet out in the real world.

 

[lizardking82]

There are just as many, if not more, undesirable men with OLD profiles as there are women. The hordes of these undesirable men contacting these women don't exactly make the ladies feel as if they're mired in tons of options. So yeah, they may have 150 messages in their inbox, but I'd be willing to bet only a handful of those guys might actually appear "desirable" enough to be worth a response. I'd also be willing to bet that 80 or 90% of the guys she does respond to quickly f*ck it up and turn these women off in some way.

Truth is, I think women have to deal with nearly the same level of "scarcity" as men do when it comes to OLD. The number of messages in a person's inbox really makes no difference. Would any of us really feel like we have "options" and feel we can have our "pick of the litter" if we got 100 messages a day from fugly, socially awkward women? I wouldn't, and I would start to get a little frustrated and feel the need to start disqualifying people right off the bat with my ad too.

As for the demands these women make in their ads about what they're looking for.... most of it is "negotiable", short of maybe nice teeth and height for taller women. Aside from that, women do not sit at home watching their inbox waiting for Mr. Perfect to come along before they get out for fun, good times, good sex, etc. If women waited for Mr. Perfect to do all that, they would never be doing any of it. Most women, whether they admit it or not, will occasionally settle for Mr. Close Enough just to satisfy those human needs, and when it comes to OLD, Mr. Close Enough is usually just a normal guy with decent looks, a sense of humor, good social skills, a nice smile, has a job, transportation and his own place.

You'd be surprised at how many men fail to meet just those standards, how fewer still can actually convey all of things properly in an ad and how even fewer still can actually reaffirm those standards once they talk to and meet these women.

I completely agree with paragraph 1 and 2. I disagree with paragraph 3. If you want Mr. Perfect, you gotta be Miss Perfect, too. How many women would you consider Miss Perfect? We also settle for them, not only vice versa. Thing is, with as much as I understand from reading messages from the DJs here (who are supposed to be the "***** males", the most unstable ones, etc.), I think a guy would settle for a nice girl overall and he would stick to her. On the other hand, girls stick to a nice guy overall, but are highly likely to **** everything up for no real reason whatsoever.

 

[ThisNThat]

You'd be surprised at how many men fail to meet just those standards, how fewer still can actually convey all of things properly in an ad and how even fewer still can actually reaffirm those standards once they talk to and meet these women.

Good point, it's funny, when you Google "Settle for Mr. Good Enough", there was a TODAY show interview with the author of how settling for Mr. Good Enough isn't necessarily a bad thing. She faults women for focusing too much on what doesn't matter and should be focusing on what should matter in a relationship.

He may have an annoying minor habit, but women are so quick to dismiss over even minor annoyances and behaviors you see most couples put up with on a daily basis.

One of the book reviewers said she read the book once in her 20s, and again in her 30s. The latter resulted in her not being overly picky and resulted in a fiance as she puts it...

I've read this book twice in my lifetime. Once in my 20's and now in my 30's. I must say that my opinion of the book has drastically changed. In my 20's I saw Gottlieb as being a bitter, aging woman who had "free-choiced" herself into a corner and had created this manifesto of her regrets in an attempt to gain some insight of what went wrong.

Now in my 30's I can say that I have opened my mind up to this philosophy and gained a Fiance as a result. I stumbled upon this book again on last year after a date with a man I swore I would never see again. He was nice and all, but just not my type. We'd met over Facebook, exchanged numbers, and after admiring his cute profile pix and engaging in conversation that I can only describe as somewhat chemical, we decided to meet. As soon as I approached the restaurant door where he was waiting on our date, I just knew that this was something I didn't want. My Fiance is fat with man hips and boobs. That was a no-no! He smiled excessively and ordered corn-on-the-cob that he nervously ate throughout the date. I could also go on about his ripped jeans and beat-up hoodie (that he didn't take off at the table!)I had been "Catfished." I went home thinking, "Well, back to the drawing board."

A couple of days after the date as I was sitting there thinking of some of the things we (He and I) had discussed leading up to the date; I actually started to miss him. That night I began reading "Marry Him: The Case..." What Gottlieb had to say now began to sound crystal

If more women would only act upon their regrets on turning men down at the drop of a hat, they'd likely be coupled up more and not wind up old spinsters like of these online daters.

They might sound like they're demanding Mr. Perfect, but they don't have the discipline to actually wait for such a person to come along because they seldom do, if ever.

Well, believe or not, I've seen the same handful of women...although attractive and intelligent...they still exist as permanent fixtures on the online realm after all their years.

I saw one woman RECENTLY add to her profile, "I can't believe I've been\ on here 3 years and haven't found anyone."

I recall having sent her a message in the past, only to be ignored, but when I saw what she updated her profile with, I couldn't help but sent her a short note, "Well, considering where you live and your limited options...you really can't afford not to be too picky."

She is over 50 and not really that much to write home about appearance-wise (had some weight on her). I thought she just had a nice smile, but she had some serious sun exposure (a lot of wrinkles)

She later deleted that sentence. I guess being called out on her public complaint shut her up. lol

 

[lizardking82]

While I can agree to an extent, my point is this: If you were to place an ad yourself, would you advertise for less than perfection, or would you state your ideals? That's all these women are doing. They might sound like they're demanding Mr. Perfect, but they don't have the discipline to actually wait for such a person to come along because they seldom do, if ever.

Of course I will advertise the good things in myself, but most women have got their problems, too. We all have our problems. We just have to find a person whose problems do not bother us too much. And then you got women seeking for Mr. Perfect while they **** some thug or the guy who controls them and their life.