Starting To Hate Women

[guru1000]

You mentioned that you have transcended myriad hardships and still attained multiple degrees and much financial success. Would you have had the same result with a loving family and never being homeless? Think about what fueled your drive/motivation toward overacheiving transcendence and success.

 

[LiveFreeX]

Tenacity, **** relax guy... the world is not ending. If you are a sales guy, why not start your own business, take up a couple hobbies that'll let you blow off steam. Get a second job. Move to the border between Texas and Lorreto and date some of the latinas there. Sounds like a change would do you a lot of good... why do you still live in the ghetto if it makes you mad? Move somewhere interesting, the states is filled with cool places. Go to Alaska or Battle Mountain in Nevada or North Dakota... try something new, somewhere new... doesn't necessarily have to be abroad. Also get a hobby that you can do with normal people that doesn't involve guns, drugs or stealing.. how about magic cards or Dungeons and Dragons?

Tenacity you are a very good example of why men should take care of their kids and not leave single mothers to raise children. ZTIME, jesus murphy man, that sh1t is very rough, congrats on being a survivor.

 

[Tenacity]

Thanks guys, I need to blow off some steam.

Also I'm not in Flint, MI (the ghetto) anymore, I left there years ago. I stay in Clinton Township, MI which is a Suburb area. I chose not to buy Real Estate so I stay in what you would call a "luxury" apartment complex with the amenities, etc. All of these "family" members are still stuck in Flint, MI.

 

[ZTIME]

The problem is I can't accept reality. I can't. I have been trying to accept reality for a couple of years now and I go from "ok" to "RAGE" in minutes. You are accepting reality, and that's what seems to be pissing you off. It's ok to have feelings for and be upset with one's current situation. However, no situation is permanent unless you allow it to stay that way.

I called my mother again last night for another fvcking ATTEMPT to talk to this bytch, once again she slams the phone down in my face. I call again this morning, she slams the phone down. I used to call my family members for validation of my accomplishments. Always felt like I was alone with no reward for what I've done. I created the need..I got rid of the need...I don't call anymore...I just succeed. They'll call when they need you. If they never do...you missed nothing.

I'm trying to move on but I don't know what the fvck to move on to. I have mistrust and distain for every fvcking woman due to the bullshyt I have been through and I'm just fvcking at the end of my rope. Move on to what makes you happy. Not another situation that involves a "partner", just something that makes you happy. (New career, new state, new church, new community groups, new friends, new hobbies.)

I have tried to seek out fvcking help, nobody helps. I have talked to Counselors about the shyt, they just sit there and say "think positive". I can't fvcking think positive about the fact that:

- Every single fvcking woman in my life for 31 years has been full of shyt

Every single one of them. What in the fvck am I thinking positive about? Huh? I'm starting to break down and if this thread is a call for fvcking help I guess that's what it is. I have been trying to find somebody to help me deal with this shyt and there's nobody there. If you choose not to think positively about women, then don't. Think positively about the career you've started, or the fact that you got yourself out of the ghetto. Reflect on your accomplishments and create new goals, not dreams, but goals. (dreams are just goals with no plan on how to achieve them).

I'm trying NOT to blow shyt up, I'm trying NOT TO....but god damn when your Mother is doing the same fvcking shyt man it's too much man. It's too fvcking muchh. My fvcking sisters PIMP my Mother out of money, they use her for money, she knows everythign about their fvcking lives. I don't ask this bytch for SHYT, and I: Would you feel better if you were in your sisters position "pimping your mother for money", or are you feeling good enough about yourself for not needing the help. Walk to the right and look from a new perspective.

- Never hear from her. I have been moved out for almost 10 years and she has never visited me, never asked what my address was. Then why keep calling. "self inflicted emotional trauma" is way worse then what any human can do to you, mother or not. When a wolf leaves the pack, it hunts and survives on it's own. Never saw one with a cell phone.

- I graduated college four fvcking times and this bytch didn't care. And you still graduated 4 times. You should care. That's a huge accomplishment coming from your upbringing. kudos to you.

- When I call her and she DOES TALK, all this bytch talks about is how my Sisters aren't shyt, yet she continues to give them money and bail them the fvck out. Same as above. Stop calling. I hate the Kardashian show!! I don't keep tuning in expecting that I'm going to start liking it. Find a new show.

I call my fvcking Father, this motherfvcker NEVER calls me. I have had 31 fvcking birthdays and this piece of shyt has only been to 3 of them and called me to wish me Happy Birthday on 3 of them. Hey, he made contact 19% of your birthday's!! Better then mine. (never met him and don't miss him). Sometimes just a taste leaves you wanting more. Think about what it is you think you missed out on. Bet it's not a lot.

I have no fvcking family structure. I'm alone in this world and the only thing going for me is the Career I have which I had to FVCKING CREATE. I have to go out and sell, sell, sell or I don't make anything. Almost every career consist of selling. Whether it's selling a product, or your time, or yourself, it all involves sales. And oh yeah, you must be pretty good at it. You have 4 degrees, your own business, and got yourself out of the shi**y ghetto. Did I miss anything?

I'm in this fvcking world by myself, and I'm sorry if I'm supposed to be stronger than that, but I'm sorry I'm fvcking broken and I'm on the burge of BLOWING SHYT UP. I need fvckign help. You'll find that you're stronger then you think. Read some of your other posts. Dude have a great weekend!! You deserve it !!


Couldn't leave you hanging without a happy Buddhist quote!!

“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.”

I post here because I can relate to a lot of what you have to say. No offense intended.

 

[sodbuster]

I agree, you have to let the family go. I KNOW they are supposed to be there to support you, but your's AREN'T getting any support from them.... They WILL look you up when they need money.... I think you'd have to agree, that ship has sailed....

You need to find/have 1 or 2 close friends to talk to, a bit tough in the world, but there ARE men who will be closer than a brother to you. Some of your college friends?

Just keep on keeping on.... USE your anger to sell, lift, MOVE to an area that is more to your liking....

 

[Atom Smasher]

Tenacity, YOU'RE the guy who's breaking out and breaking chains of bondage in your family.

Let that be a life purpose for you. YOU'RE the man who has developed escape velocity and made something of himself even with so much "gravity" constantly trying to pull you back.

If there's one thing in life I've learned, it's that with superior awareness and intellect comes significant pain and loneliness. That's what the red pill is all about. You're eyes have been opened to reality and the bright light is temporarily stunning you.

The pain of disillusionment is massive, but it will subside. It often feels like we're the only one going through this, but in fact many men are going through the very same thing.

What's going to happen on the other side, when emotions subside, is that you will start to feel in control. In any gathering, you will know that YOU are the man, because YOU have awareness. Just about anywhere I go, I'm the top dog because of my awareness. And that is a lonely place, because awareness involves separation from the average people out there. But it also begets leadership and poise. You'll find that you will be in a position of authority. People will start to look up to you because they will innately sense that you have a certain "knowing" about life.

Just hang in and remember that these are the birth pangs of a whole new life for you.

I recommend you go to YouTube and look up Nick Vujicic. When I look at what he's had to face in life I know I can handle anything.

 

[Desdinova]

I called my mother again last night for another fvcking ATTEMPT to talk to this bytch, once again she slams the phone down in my face. I call again this morning, she slams the phone down.

I had a similarly difficult relationship with my mother. About 10 years ago, I figured I'd give her a chance to admit all the terrible 5hit she did so I could make peace with her and even forgive her. I confronted her with all the terrible 5hit she did to me. She denied EVERYTHING and I left her place enraged. I vowed that I would NEVER approach the subject with her again unless she initiated it and wanted to fix it herself. I hasn't happened yet, and I doubt it ever will.

I found this book to be extremely helpful:

http://www.amazon.ca/Toxic-Parents-...&qid=1423924539&sr=8-1&keywords=toxic+parents

When you were a child...

• Did your parents tell you you were bad or worthless?
• Did your parents use physical pain to discipline you?
• Did you have to take care of your parents because of their problems?
• Were you often frightened of your parents?
• Did your parents do anything to you that had to be kept secret?

Now that you’re an adult...

• Do your parents still treat you as if you were a child?
• Do you have intense emotional or physical reactions after spending time with your parents?
• Do your parents control you with threats or guilt? Do they manipulate you with money?
• Do you feel that no matter what you do, it’s never good enough for your parents?

In this remarkable self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward draws on case histories and the real-life voices of adult children of toxic parents to help you free yourself from the frustrating patterns of your relationship with your parents — and discover a new world of self-confidence, inner strength, and emotional independence.

It covers all kinds of parents and the effects they have on their children. I highly recommend you give it a read. Your past situation is only going to continue enraging you when it comes to women.

One of the things that I've come to terms with is that I've looked for a woman to genuinely care for me, unlike how my mother did. I'm likely never going to find it, and I've come to realize that. Instead, I need to just do what's right for ME in my life and let the women follow if they wish. I can't rely on them to be the caring, nurturing, considerate woman that I never had growing up.

 

[evan12]

@Tenacity: I think you said you are a black guy , do you live in black community ? It is very hard to date when you are out of your community.Go back to live with your people and if you really have 4 degrees and good experience you should be able to find a job there

 

[logicallefty]

I feel so fortunate to have had a mother who took such good care of me as a kid and has always had my back as an adult. But like others have said family can svck. I have wrote off one of my sisters don't care if I ever see her again. Totally agree with letting the family go if you gave to.

 

[Reyaj]

You're preaching to choir here when you talk about most women being selfish, self centered, hypergamous hoes.....

But there are good ones out there... and there are women you can have a fulling relationship with who will genuinely care about you. Yes they are few and far between so the journey to find them should bring hope and excitement. That's the real red pill, cheer up and go find her!