Starting to approach again, some toughts

[Alucard88Cool forum!]

After 5 years with my ex girlfriend, after we finished the relationship, I realized that I have to get back to the game again. I walked around 5 hours and my feets are in fire

At the beginning I was frustrated, because to be successfull at game is not easy without some years of fulltime activity in approaching women.

After some attempt, with mixed outcomes from women, today I dediced to go in the city center and approach each women I felt attracted to.

Following the advices of the Sosuave Guide, and some youtubers, I was prepared psicologically.

I approached Around 15 girls.I decided that I had only to approach 7s to 10s.

This approach strategy, to be direct and make my intent clear from the beginning: "hi I saw you walking and think you are very pretty, so I would like to knw you, can I have a minute of your time", works very well.

What happened is that most of the women I aproached were very happy for the compliment, and most of them were having a big smile telling me "thanks you" many times. Some of them, after thank me, just told me that they have boy friend so no big deal: "ok very nice to met you, bye".
So in this way the interaction gave the women a very good feeling, and I was happy too. To make people smile it also let me smile and make me happy.

After some good attempt, I got 2 numbers from two different beautiful women". I asked them if they want to met some times having a walk around, amnd they accepted.

What I would like also to talk about is the very negative and angry behavior a few women gave me. I would like to specify that these women (3 in total) were not so beautiful, maby a 6. One of them, after I asked 1 minute of time, she basically with an angry attitude told me "no". Another one was having a depressed voice, and was speaking to me like I was somebody evil. And another one, after I told here my pick up line, she just moved on without even telling me a word.
And suddenly I realized something. Women wich are not so beautiful, (5,5s/6s) not only have an angry, depressed attitude, but they are much more difficult than the beautiful women (7s,8s,9s,10s). I don't want to say that this is a general rule, and for sure there are cases and cases, each person have his own personality.
But really, I found myself speaking with very beautiful women and having a good time (I met an 8s Korean woman, soooooo beautifull, and it was grate, she was kind,gentle and very thankfull of my approach), and in the moment I lowered my standards just alittle bit, the difference was enormous.

The experience of tomday teached me that it doesn't have any sense to waste time with not so beautiful women, they not only are not so attractive, but their personality is very rude and negative. While speking with beautifull women result in having much better time, and of course, much attractiveness.


What do you guys think?

 

[New_Journey]

How long ago did you breakup?

 

[ManlyMan]

I have found that to be true as well

 

[Ricky]

I am not a huge fan of direct game but i have had the experience you mention of getting bad results with a 6 and much better with 8,9,10s

Not positive the psychology but its possible the 6s dont believe you are being genuine since they have low esteem so they may take offense as if you are playing games

 

[BPH]

Assuming English isn't your first language, I would strongly suggest a Chrome extension like Grammarly to have running in the background while you write. A lot of this was hard to read, especially in comparison to how much better you wrote in your "How to deal with men" post.

This approach strategy, to be direct and make my intent clear from the beginning: "hi I saw you walking and think you are very pretty, so I would like to knw you, can I have a minute of your time", works very well.

I wouldn't use this line. It's not something that a self-confident man would say to a woman that he's attracted to - here you're asking for permission rather than assuming success.

Just say something like "Hey I think you're gorgeous and just had to say hi, what's your name?" Gauge her interest based on her response and let the conversation flow (or die) from there.

If this is more to build your confidence through approaching, then say whatever you want. But if you want to get laid once in a while you should be decisive rather than asking her to decide for you ("can I have a minute of your time").

As for your observation about hotter women generally being more receptive than less attractive women - it varies. You never know what's going on in other people's lives. I wouldn't base a generalization on such a small sample size, but there may be some truth to that. I'd wager that hotter women care more about their reputation (given that they clearly care about their looks) and don't want to come across as rude. Conversely, a less attractive woman may not care so much because they might assume the attention they receive isn't genuine interest and comes with an ulterior motive.

That's probably an overanalysis, but you get the idea.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

And suddenly I realized something. Women wich are not so beautiful, (5,5s/6s) not only have an angry, depressed attitude, but they are much more difficult than the beautiful women (7s,8s,9s,10s). I don't want to say that this is a general rule, and for sure there are cases and cases, each person have his own personality.

While I don't number rate women and just date women who are attractive to me, I noticed that quite a few of the fashion models I dated were very sweet and feminine in their character and easy to get along by treating them without 'special' regard (i.e. not dating them because they are aesthetically beautiful, but caring about their personality).
I think that average or unattractive women meet more flaky players, who are often too inexperienced to approach beautiful women in the way a woman should be approached. So beautiful women have fewer annoying approaches and tend to be less bitter about men.

 

[pipeman84]

After 5 years with my ex girlfriend, after we finished the relationship, I realized that I have to get back to the game again.

I approached Around 15 girls.I decided that I had only to approach 7s to 10s.

This approach strategy, to be direct and make my intent clear from the beginning: "hi I saw you walking and think you are very pretty, so I would like to knw you, can I have a minute of your time",

That's like being employed for 5 years and then after quitting/being fired you decide to go begging on the street.

Regarding the 5-6s vs 7-9s reactions: first off, that's a very superficial and immature rating of a human being. Secondly, your sample rate is way too small to draw any conclusions. Thirdly, think about it logically: what are the odds that a mentally sane, conventionally attractive (a 7-9 in your lingo) woman is 1. single and 2. willing to engage beyond a couple minutes of pleasantries with a guy who cold approaches her on the street with a lame pick up line.

 

[Alucard88Cool forum!]

I am not a huge fan of direct game but i have had the experience you mention of getting bad results with a 6 and much better with 8,9,10s

Not positive the psychology but its possible the 6s dont believe you are being genuine since they have low esteem so they may take offense as if you are playing games

This make sense, thanks

 

[Bingo-Player]

Not a huge fan of this strategy simply because I know the majority of women will say and do anything just to get rid of a guy who does this

Some will go for the " I have a boyfriend " others will just comply and and then later ghost too avoid the confrontation

So the results even when positive are skewed because even though you've got her number theres a high probability you'll never hear from her again

a better strategy is to spend time infiltrating social groups that allow access to mutual women

You basically get pre cleared of any negative assumptions and from there can only really fvck it up for yourself by being wierd