Starting contact again

[killuminaty]

so i was recently in a situation with this girl and i went no contact and deleted her off my phone, facebook and twitter.

here's a thread about it http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=187465

i've been having some fun lately and hanging out with other girls, this past weekend i actually went on a first date with another girl and kiss closed and then met up with another girl whom is a friend of mine we just smoked in front of her house as she waited to be picked up by a mutual friend to party with the girl whom i stopped contact with. For some reason it ended up being the girl whom i stopped contact with whom arrived to pick her up in a car with 2 guys...im sure she saw my friend HB8 come out of my car and go into the car with her...i then left and ended up going to a club with a couple of friends had a crazy night even got some oral sex in the bathroom after taking a girl home that i just met and what not(her friends were there)...when i left the girl's house i called my friend HB8 whom i was hanging out with earlier just to see how the party was and she asked me to pick her up from a house (i really didn't understand whos house i thought it was a friend of hers or something) so that we could have some breakfast it was around my way...when i arrive to the house i see the girl whom i stopped contact with standing outside and her talking and some guys in motorcycles getting ready to leave i then understood this was the house where the party took place HB8 jumped into my car and the whole time the girl i stopped contact with gave me a look as if she didn't know how to react like she had just seen something that she didn't expect to see but didn't quite have a reaction for it i simply ignored it and drove off.. she has not contacted me ever since we stopped contact but truth is although i been having fun and keep myself busy with other girls i really miss her and i think about her often but i dont know what way to start contact with her again would be the best or if i should really just move on for good...i think i shouldn't have deleted her off facebook and twitter it was unnecessary and stupid but since i have already done that what can i do now?

 

[tafakna]

Honestly? Not much.

You will never get the respect you deserve by being the guy who takes and pick up girls from parties (I understand the HB8 is your friend but that doesn't change things a bit)...

I'm also against deleting girls when things don't work out. If you want just add them to your ignore list. You come across as being sentimental and emotionally weak when you delete someone.

I'd instead move on with your life, keep dating girls, work out, and let girls (including the one you like) see that your able and willing to move on with your life.

Nothing is more powerful than showing women that, even if you like enjoy spending time with them, your life wouldn't change a bit if they stopped talking to you.

 

[Johnnyventana]

How exactly is this starting communication again?

 

[killuminaty]

I'm asking for advise to start communication again not giving it sorry if that was unclear

 

[TopGun2000]

don't that. if she still has any interest in you, she would contact you.

it feels like you are still a AFC in front of her considering what you said here.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

Ah man, once you care about someone it's hard to not (unless they've really hurt you)...I believe NC can be a bit extreme..there is something good about being on good terms, and there is some closure that can take place at the end of a relationship if things are kept civil...(I'm not advocating being "buds" with ex's, I'm just saying complete NC can be cold in some cases of grey)...

I think you may have false hopes for this man. I know you dig her, you see her again, those emotions come running back -- that is entirely normal -- but this time around what do you think will change? Do you wish for friendship with her? How successful do you think that will be? I'm not saying don't reach out (others are saying this 100%) but rather, is it worth your time, your emotional investment, and will it really help you heal?

Those are things to consider.