Starting a mini boot camp tomorrow.

[Dj Tiesto]

OK.

After some long period of self pitty and crying about my worthless life and having social anxiety. Plus, the big fear of approaching women and shiat like being 21 and not having a gf or female friends made me realize one thing:

I CAN'T SIT AND WAIT IDLY FOR OPPORTUNITIES AND A BETTER LIFE. THE ONLY WAY TO SUCCEED AND CREATE A BETTER LIFE IS BY TAKING SOME ACTIONS!!!

Guess most of u take it as common sense.
But it took me some time to finally realize that and incorporate that into my brain.

Consequently, tomorrow is the FIRST day of some REAL BENEFICIAL ACTION.

I'm starting the boot camp and gonna do the eye contact and say
HI to chicks at a college.

Since I'm still defined as an AFC (having the knowledge, not having the practice) + the fact that I tried but couldn't approach any chicks at a club although I made a promise to... I decided that it will be a mini - bootcamp and my goal will be saying HI to
10 chicks. Gradually, I will move on. And as confidence builds and fear diminishes, I will become more daring and take more risks and move on to the next stages of the REAL bootcamp.

BTW, I made a promise to myself.
If I won't have the guts to do it, I shouldn't post any threads on this board any longer.

THE TIME HAS COME.

Expect a report tomorrow.

I'm out.

 

[khanboy]

I'm not sure why, but this post brought tears to my eyes. Probably because it reminded me of my first days and my decision to finally get out there and do this stuff.

Some advice:
You are a newbie, you will C&B, you will get snubbed, but damn, once you meet that friendly chick. All the crap you have gone through is MORE than worth it.

Always dedicate times to go out for the sole purpose of interacting with girls. As a newbie, this is the only way you will actually approach. You will get down on yourself sometimes, use this as a motivator to do better next time.

Everyone starts out as a newbie, afraid to approach girls in broad daylight. We have all been there, and we are all with you.

About my first days:
I went a whole week and a half, around 40+ hours out in the field without approaching. Relax, you keep at it, and you will. Just as long as you keep at it, full force dude.

May life be good,
khanboy

 

[Walden]

Hoo yah go that §hit.

 

[Six-String Samurai]

Good luck buddy... I'll do 10 cold approaches too.

 

[Dj Tiesto]

Thnx for the support ppl!

Came for some last minute motivation, but I realized that all the motivation needed can be acheived by just looking at my pathetic life so far.


Should be back in around 2-3 hours to post results.

Off I go.

 

[Dj Tiesto]

OK.
MISSION ACCOMPLISHED.

I have to say, it really required going out of my comofrt zone.
I came all ready and confident. The first time I tried to do it I simply couldn't. It required about an hour of walking around thinking and drinking an espresso to wake myself up. lol

Eye contact presented no problem, all went perfect.
As for saying HI, I did it about 10-12 times, with girls only.
Some HI's were really quiet and I could barely hear it myself. other HI's were quite obvious.

All in all, not a single chick replied to my hi.
Maybe cuz it was my first time doing this $hit, maybe its cuz she doesn't know me. I had the impression most chicks thought I was some weirdo with a problem.

It wasn't easy, I'll admit it. At some momentsI was questioning my commitment. I had to pause sit some place and use music as motivation (I borught my walkman).

I realized that the boot camp, and especially this exercises, is supposed to make u more confident. Nothing less, nothing more. Just use ppl as ur target, u shouldn't give a fu(k about anyone. Thats what I realized and therefore started to feel better and felt that I'm ready to accomplish bigger goals. So I've talked with some dude I see alot but never talked to b4.

It is for sure that doing this exercise only one day won't make u more confident. As they say:"Practice Makes Perfect."

I decided to continue with the saying HI exercise and do it as much as I can cuz I wasn't really satisfied with today. But I guess I should be cuz it is a problem for many others as well.

Long story short:
U can't become a DJ in one day.

PEACE.

 

[MickoZ]

You get no reply, and you probably know why, you may have not make it clear that it was a Hi torward them, enhance some were barely noticeable! ;-)

You have to stand for your Hi, or anything. i.e. you see a chick, she looks at you, she wonder why you look at her, you say hi, before she pass, or after even.

You know they dont expect a stranger saying hi... they might even think it was not for them...

I remember while doing that sometime ago, I was doing it a lot and still do for the fun of it... (it is not just about DJ stuff, it is more than that, but it does help a lot the DJing!) one situation I found funny was I said it to one chick who was not paying attention on the street, 1-2 meter after that she turn back and say, "Hey, sorry Hi!" Like it was her that was not polite with me

It is important to get response IMHO, else you might just feel the fear, but do not really fight it! I applause your decision to start it back. It should be kinda funny to say hi to people near the same place... I never really set myself goal with a number but I lately though to do it (with other stuff than hi though... eh).

Also try to engage a conversation near Locker if you are at some kind-of school... that often work best. Go on the same path, daily, same hour, meet the same person, haha, do eyes contact, make them believe they know you by showing yourself to them often, they might get to believe you are really some kind of friend!

Another interesting one is to offer something... bring on some healthly food, like apple, or maybe orange will work best, and begin to share it with people you eat good quality and you share, oh sweet is that?

 

[showtime17]

maybe you should walk up to stationary targets...i dont know, strike up a conversation when you're standing in line or with girls going the same way you're going or just sitting next to you. it's not that hard actually, you just have to overcome your fears. most girls reply in at the worst a neutral manner. maybe ask for the time and when she tells you it, maybe strike up a short conversation like asking her what class she is going to..blah blah...it's not that hard, especially if you aint trying to pick up, picking up is the hard part. at a****er i think there's a food court or something and there's always girls sitting around there eating and there's little room. if there's no place to sit just walk up to them and ask em if a place near them is taken or if they're eating something weird, ask em what it is, humor helps as well...you might get cold responses, but most girls are nice and wont really try to put u down, it aint like the clubs either. if they're studying something ask em what they're studying and if it's hard, there are always plenty of fun conversations u can have with that. i do it all the time in the library, get plenty of emails, although that's about as far as i get, but trust me talking to people isnt the hard part. at the beginning of the year i was standing in line at the library and this really hot chick stands behind me, i mean really hot, porn star hot, like most possibly the hottest chick on campus...so i am like shyte i should say something, so i blurted something stupid out, she didnt pay much attention and just gave a nod or something, so i was like damm struck out again, but then i go to the counter and they didnt have what i wanted so i turn around to head out and she actually smiled!!!...so i made some funny comment she smiled again and i left and then i saw her again few days later walking to class..anyways i didnt have the guts to approach her, but one day i was just like what the fukk..so as she was walking i tapped her on the shoulder, she didnt notice me at first , but then she did and i started talking total nonsense, but she didnt leave and she was actually quite friendly, next time i stopped her again..all these were really afc attempts and asked her name, well i forgot it now...but the important thing is that whenever i see her again i say hi and so does she and with a smile usually..so it's cool..i am just too chicken to talk to her again and ask her out or something, cause she is always walking with friends, but i'll eventually try to do it somehow..anyways just talk..no matter what it is...talk for a short period and then when you see the chick again, she'll probably be acting like she doesnt know who you're, but stop her and ask her how her class is going or something, if that's what u talked about before and next time she sees u say hi and so will she and that way your foot is in the door...trust me i know a lot of chicks, the problem is the next step, but talking isn't that hard, you just have to muster up the courage...

 

[showtime17]

i dont know why it ** the word, but what i was saying was at water, the mall, and i think u guys also have like a small cafeteria at your school or something

 

[Six-String Samurai]

Hah, that's great, it censored "t w a t" in "at water"!

 

[Dj Tiesto]

MickoZ,

I know why most of them didn't reply. U r 100% right.
My HI wasn't too convincing and most of the girls I approached were alone walking in the hallways like they were rushing and had a cause. I'm just a stranger, they will never think that I would say HI. But my point of view is that this exercise is really good cuz it builds ur confidence (even tho not a single chick replied my HI). I just felt better today. Made convos with customers at work. I just feel now more comfortable around ppl.

Just sux I'm not in college, I don't have that many chances to talk and be social with girls.

So yeah, this exercise worked for me. Next time however, I will do it in a mall. I even thought about going to some department store where they sell clothes and walking around and seeing chicks trying on some stuff and giving different comments like: "Those pants look really good". Damn, I might even do it tomorrow.

Right Now, I'm in the confidence building stage.
Friday, I will probably go to a lub with my buddy and I feel really confident that I'm gonna be able to pull off some new $hit I didn't do before and will use every chance I will get to talk to chicks.


Showtime,

u r far more advanced than I am. I liked ur story with the p0rnstar chick. Just shows u that most chicks are polite and do say hi.
I will definitely take ur advice.
Iguess that the fastest way to get over the fear of approaching is to do as many approaches as u can.
This will be my new goal!

FINALLY, i FEEL LIKE I'M DOING SOMETHING WITH MY LIFE AND THAT TODAY WASN'T FOR NOTHING.

UHUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU!
LIFE IS GOOD AFTER ALL.

PEACE.

 

[Almighty_womanizer]

Thats the spirit!!!!

Thats how you do it!!!!

you have done a Great job at going out there and getting some experience. Keep it up, and you will get results. Im proud of you man, I see that "never give up no matter what" spirit in you.
I wanna see more reports on your progress.

-Elite Womanizer

"It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by the dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions and spends himself in a worthy course; who at the best, knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who, at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly; so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory or defeat."

-THEODORE ROOSEVELT
(Paris Sorbonne,1910)