Starting a LTR with a hook-up??

[Broham]

What's up ya'll? I'll keep this short and sweet. Basically I went to my buddy's college party on Friday around 11:15. I was havin fun, talkin it up with people I've never met, flirting with lots of girls, goin real easy on the booze. So an hour or so passes and this girl comes in wearing these retarded looking paper glasses, and has an entourage of 4 friends (girls) She's pretty cute (7) and I find out its her 21st bday. So I start immediately macking and get her a drink. The kino started right away, hand holding etc...you could tell she was buzzin, but that didnt bother me. Anyways, we start talking and asking most of the ?s, telling a little bit about myself. FInally I get her to go outside in the hall and right as we're about to leave, her friends call her on her cell!! Damn! So I'm like whatever I'll chill for a bit and get her alone when I can. In like 10 min, she's dancin and some chump is tryin to dance with her. I step up and grab her giving the chump a "good try bud" look. So we're grindin and talkin, and finally I get her to go outside. We step into my 325, which she loved, and started making out. I guess her rm and her bf were in her room so we couldnt go there. So we took a drive, stopping 3 times to make-out/grope, use your imigination. She wouldn't stop complimenting me and dug absolutely everything about me. (Looks, my job, music taste, etc...) I've never had a girl initially be this into me in my LIFE. It was absolutely amazing. We finally get back and before going back up to the party, I led her to the lounge downstairs and we really went at for like 5 min until her friends kept calling her. Obviously this girl gave me her # and we kissed goodnight. Now I'm def calling her tomorrow.....do I even need to say anything creative? Despite that she was horny as hell, she did seem pretty cool so I might want to take this further....and I don't care if I need to put off sex for a few weeks. What do you guys think?

 

[JohnJones]

Originally posted by Broham
you could tell she was buzzin, but that didnt bother me.... I guess her rm and her bf were in her room so we couldnt go there.... What do you guys think?

Before you go any further with her, if that is what you want, bear in mind that she cheated on her b/f -- so that should be a huge red flag toward an LTR.

 

[squirrels]

I think he meant her roomie and her roomie's BF were in there together.

Just take it slow and easy, man. You just met the girl that night, and most of your time together you were drunk and playing tonsil-hockey.

I mean, DEFINITELY call her up and see if she's good for another round. I don't think you need to worry about "putting off the sex" as you put it if she's that all-over you on first meeting. I'd be cautious about getting attached, though.

It's amazing...and society thinks it's always the GIRL who gets all attached and clingy after sex.

 

[JohnJones]

Originally posted by squirrels
I think he meant her roomie and her roomie's BF were in there together.

Oh, good point. I may be too quick to judge these days.

Yes, everything that squirrels said.

 

[Genghis Juan]

In my opinion, and I am more judgemental than others, she is just fling material. I wouldn't look for an LTR with a girl who goes out and has a one-night stand. But then again, you're all in college; so people are looser at that age. Do what squirrels says though, date others for sure. But I highly doubt this girl is LTR material.

 

[Reto]

Originally posted by squirrels
Just take it slow and easy, man. You just met the girl that night, and most of your time together you were drunk and playing tonsil-hockey.

I agree. You're psyched. You had a great time.

I see AFC behavior right around the corner. Just be cool. Call her in a few days. Don't jump too soon. Don't let the memory of the evening cloud your judgement.

Remember it was just one night...

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by Reto
I agree. You're psyched. You had a great time.

I see AFC behavior right around the corner. Just be cool. Call her in a few days. Don't jump too soon. Don't let the memory of the evening cloud your judgement.

Remember it was just one night...

Agreed there....Take it slow bud. You met a cool chik, had a cool time, that was it. This kinda thing happens to alot of us DJ's on a weekly basis. Take it with a grain of salt. You may end up with a STR, maybe a booty call, or heck, she may have awoken the next day in a cloud of a hangover and remembered little. Don't be suprised if this chik does a complete 180 once she is sober. Its happened to me many a time.

Good times, Im glad ya had fun. That night is what being young is all about.

 

[Broham]

All advice is appreciated guys. I don't know how one could do this on a weekly basis...but I guess hard work pays off. I'm not necessarily looking for an LTR but instead someone who I can talk to when need be (I'm really sick of my friends), and obviously get ass from whenever I want.

 

[Genghis Juan]

My Rules

Actually now that I think about it my rules regarding this are simple:

If I get a woman to spread her legs for me before exclusivity in some sort of relationship context...then I put her in the fling/STR category....hasta la vista to the LTR.

One-night stands? Forget it. She is placed in the hor category, no chance for redemption. I will then use her, if I can, for a supply of free sex.

But, thats just my set of rules.