Stages in success at approach

ksoileau

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Stage 0: You don't think women like to be approached.
Stage 1: You're afraid to approach, you see women you like but never approach for fear that something terrible will happen.
Stage 2: You learn that women won't be rude to you and their boyfriends will not suddenly appear and beat you up, but you're still nervous about it and frequently pass up opportunities.
Stage 3: You learn that approaching is fun, you do it more often but fail to close the deal by getting a number, or at least an email address.
Stage 4: Approaching becomes a hobby, something you look forward to doing and you get good enough at it that women sometimes offer their card or their number before you ask for it.
Stage 5: Approaching is no longer a hobby, you do it without thinking and get consistently good results.


At which Stage are YOU?
 
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Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

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Definitely stage 4, though it's taken me 6 years to get there! Although I think stage 4 should include YOU asking them for instant dates and phone numbers and you getting a yes most times.
 

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There is a stage 5. When you give it up as a hobby, stop thinking about it and it all just happens naturally in the course of your day to day life.
 

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DJCT said:
There is a stage 5. When you give it up as a hobby, stop thinking about it and it all just happens naturally in the course of your day to day life.
In that case I would say I am at stage 5 as this stuff is a natural part of my life and who I am now.
 

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stage 0: Not realizing women like to be approached
 

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Based on comments, Stages 0 and 5 have been added to the original post.
 

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Stage two here.

It sucks, but running has helped me get in state, and usually from there it's stage three :0
 

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ksoileau said:
Stage 0: You don't think women like to be approached.
Stage 1: You're afraid to approach, you see women you like but never approach for fear that something terrible will happen.
Stage 2: You learn that women won't be rude to you and their boyfriends will not suddenly appear and beat you up, but you're still nervous about it and frequently pass up opportunities.
Stage 3: You learn that approaching is fun, you do it more often but fail to close the deal by getting a number, or at least an email address.
Stage 4: Approaching becomes a hobby, something you look forward to doing and you get good enough at it that women sometimes offer their card or their number before you ask for it.
Stage 5: Approaching is no longer a hobby, you do it without thinking and get consistently good results.


At which Stage are YOU?
Somewhere between 4-5 for clubs , 3-4 for streets .

Im still working on it .
 

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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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