SS is bad for me

[DonJuanabe]

Now this is the key phrase out of all of this (from Sodbuster):

"...once she gets emotionally invested in an idea, you can't change it and she won't."

A woman will reinvent reality if necessary to justify how she feels about something. It doesn't matter if the facts/reality are false or never existed other than in her mind, all she cares about is how she feels. You can't change this. Even if you present her with incontrovertible proof that her facts/reality is false all she will think is that you are making her feel bad by disagreeing with how she feels. You win the battle but you lose the war.

Look at it like this. In the male-female relationship, how the woman feels is the ultimate arbiter for how good or bad the relationship is. Game is something a man uses to influence how a woman feels, but in the end those feelings rule. The battles are the interactions b/w the man and woman - they are factual in nature (this was said, that was said, this happened, that happened, etc.). The war is how she feels. You can win every battle by being factually correct about everything that happened between you and your woman, but if she feels negatively about you you have lost the war.

 

[backbreaker]

last night i took my wife to Il celio which is fancy little resturant here in LA with a nice outdoor patio. usually both of us are very pratical and when we go out we like **** we like; i like red lobster and make no bones about me liking red lobster i dont' care how mainstream it is, she likes cheap mexican food, litlte hole in the wall mexican resturants that you an just gorget he hell out for like 20 bucks lol. but every once in a while, usually ocne a month or once every few moths we go out out. last night one was one of those nights


and we are sitting out there and i mean, my wife is very beautiful and i see that on a daily basis, but you know you see someone everyday you get sued to them, you sometimes take it for granted. last night she had on this brown dress with these heels and she just got her hair done earlier in the day and she's sitting there with me on the patio and like every guy there is sneaking peeks at her, lol probably at her with me honestly, but still she is sitting there and we are talking and she's dangling her shoe off her foot (which he knows turns me on) and i am sitting there after a few
drinks and i realize.. man my wife is hot as balls. she really is. and she knows it. even at 34 she's smoking hot.


and i don't say that to brag. i say that to say, there is absolutely, unequivocally, no way in hell i could have dated her, let alone married her, let alone not only marry her but have her actually marry me beucase she likes me lol, without this site. none. whatsoever. zero. zilch.wayyyyy out of my league before i got to this site. and not just hot. classy, not a ***** or a ****, very sweet, just a good natured woman.

and not beucase i had not i was not successful or what not, this site has very little to do with how i make a living and the things i've done for myself but, just the mentality to keep an attractive woman with a lot of options who isn't bat**** crazy interested in me for a prolonged period of time, to keep a relationship fresh after years, to not have to beg/buy or grovel for sex, no freaking clue before i got here.


so while i am quite sure there are issues with the site, and trust me i know, you are better off here. just pick through the bad ****. don't let the people get in the way of the message of the site.

 

[Boilermaker]

you are 29 and your wife is 34 ?

dude !


Edit: Well, the real troll is you in fact. You have to come and vomit your irrelevant sh!t about your life and your dinners when nobody cares. Look up the definition of troll.

And just next to this post, I saw your comments on "ItsJustMe"'s girlfriend, and out of your little computer, with zero information about facts, you called her a "ho".

So you can dish it out but you can't take it yourself? Your wife is 34. Is that not a fact? At least I am not out like you calling other people's significant others ho's or c0ck-swingers. Don't share your life secrets with strangers if that's going to burn you when it's repeated to you later.


I don't like you either. You are a troll, a shallow narcissist and a second rate con-man (or a sales-man in your proud way of putting it). That's my sincere opinion. And by the way, I am sooo scared by your little threats,

or are you going to threaten to leave the forums and come back 24 hours later?

Good luck,


Edit2: Since you are busy editing, let me reply here, Just read your own post and put a word count on how much irrelevant sh!t you are sneaking in there; while making a point. If you don't your wife to be in the discussion, why are you typing 10,000 words about how she dangles her shoe and stuff like that? Is that even remotely relevant?

Don't try to justify your little story by pretending you are helping the OP. When you say you don't say sh!t to "brag" it doesn't make you humble. It's just insulting everybody's intelligence.

I repeat: You are the real troll of this forum.

Edit 3: Here's what you had to say about a woman you had never met. You just read half-assed descriptions of this woman, described by the OP. This woman will never know you. This woman is still dear to the heart of another member. They could possibly end up together. You don't have an idea.

Now let us compare your style and my style. Let's see what our guru had to say:

your girl is a hoe. there is no more basic way to put this than that. hoes don't know they are hoes lol. nbot like she's going to say yeah itsjustmet, i'm fighting this hoe bug i really feel like being a hoe right now but i know it's not right. she just gets the urge to do what she does and thats hoe. she likes to fvck guys.

some more words of wisdom; if somebody can decipher that:

she is probably at c0ck robbins rights ow trying out all 31 new flavors of it right now and emails you just for the simple fct that she knows beyond a shadow of a doubt if **** gets real bad

Here's the post
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1945182&postcount=118

Such hypocrisy!...So you can see yourself fit to cross, invade, and rape lines like that; but you can't take a FACT you stated to be read back to you? Hmm... You must be really a guru when it comes to this.

 

[backbreaker]

you are 29 and your wife is 34 ?

dude !

Bolilermaker,

I don't like you. I don't think you particularly like me. that's not why I am even bothering to respond to your post.

I am in fact however responding to tell you this; whatever war or troll that you are planning you better keep in mind that the woman that you are talking about, is actually my wife and the mother of my son. and that is some **** i don't play around with.

question me, what i do, how i make a living, rather you give a **** about me or not, i don't give a fvck. i really don't. but don't ever say **** in any derogatory manner about my wife or i will make the little beef on the main forum with brad and cordo look like chuck e cheese time.


I have done nothing to you. i don't respond to your posts. i have not called you out i have not said anytihng in any derogatory manner towards you, but that's fine. if you don't like me that's cool., i can live with that. but you will leave my wife's name out of your mouth or we will have a problem

leave my wifes name out of your mouth. the fact that you don't see the imangarly line not to crss with **** like that, shows me and everyone else just how clueless you are with women. u don't do that

the only reason I even bothered to respond to this post is to show the OP look, there is good on the site. now i am dealing with trolls talking **** about my wife.

 

[Boilermaker]

I am glad I managed to shut the Backbreaker machine up for a while by exposing his real self.
It's cool and relieving to see he has nothing to say when he is so horribly insulting when it comes to people he doesn't know; yet he seems to be childishly sensitive when it comes to something as benign as his own wife's age, while he's vomiting and cursing at other people's loved ones and he gets to claim to be the valiant man!... He will soon propose to take it outside with me, I am sure.

Sorry to derail the original thread here, I just can't stand such overt hypocrisy.

Edit: Reply to Cordon

I have exceeded my post limit so I am replying from here Cordon.

What happened was I was genuinely surprised by the reverse age difference in his relationship and I expressed my curiosity. Backbreaker thought I was insulting his wife; but it's completely wrong. The real reason why he overreacted is; lately I have been exposing his little ego-injections in his tirades; like how he pretends that the details of him taking his wife to an expensive restaurant are so crucial to the actual point he's trying to make, they can't be left out from his stories. Of course this is all bull-sh!t. And I have been calling him out on those. Of course he didn't like that. This is the real reason why he doesn't like me and he automatically blamed me for insulting his wife although all I said was to recall her age which he voluntarily stated.

When it comes to It's Just Me, although I agree with the premise of a slap in the face most of the time, nobody (especially childishly vulnerable people like Backbreaker) is justified in making those vile comments for a woman he doesn't even know. You can't be a foul mouth yourself and then claim taboos about how people talk about you or your wife for that matter. That's why I don't like the guy. To me he's the epitome of the fake. But I don't see any reason why we can't co-exist. Occasional brushes like this are usual.

I just wanted to get the truth in before the thread is sprayed by BB, thanks for your attention though. Much respect to you, thanks,

 

[cordoncordon]

I'm not sure what the argument here is about. I think because BB felt you insulted his wife boiler? And I see on another thread that BB you are leaving again??

Anyway, while I know that BB and I have had our disagreements at times, I do think what he said to itsjutme needed to be said, and it was pretty accurate. Not sure how familiar you are with that itsjustme thread boiler, but that guy really is in need of a huge reality slap. Maybe he can get it here.

Anyway, you are both good posters here. Each of you have your own style, but the content is usually always pretty good. Hope you two can work it out.