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Don Juan
Last week I emailed a girl who I used to be dating, but who became exclusive with another guy. So, I decide to try out Ross's BF destroyer pattern. I figured this would be the most effective pattern to use over the internet, because you're not linking pleasure states to yourself, you're linking negative states to someone else.
I was extremely flagrant about the pattern. I one sentence of preface and closing that were my own, and the rest were basically copied and pasted. The gist of the pattern is to mention her boyfriend's name, then get her to imagine forgetting and losing all her feelings for someone (duh guess who) and then get them to move the submodality for her boyfriend to the place where people get forgotten.
Here's her reply:
Hey Dan,
Um, that was rather confusing. I dont get it, so youre saying you want me out of your life or something? Youre trying to forget me and make me less important? I dont understand how you could be saying this when just a few weeks ago you were explaining to me all these "feelings". I dont understand how those "feelings" could have been real...I mean, I know when I get real feelings like that, they never ever go away. Ever. Even if youre with someone else those true feelings will be there, not that you want to really be with that person...its just that thing you get...but it sounds like you dont really know what thats like. All I really know about our situation is that I definetly want to still to at least to be friends, I'm not sure if you want that. Just know that your friendship really does mean a lot to me, Dan. It tears me apart to not be able to talk to you anymore, I feel like this has happened so suddenly, and I have no control whatsoever of what happens...I guess its all up to you...
I guess I'll talk to you later...
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First of all I was shocked that she didn't recognize that I was trying to 'destroy' her boyfriend, but she also thought I was trying to 'destroy' her to myself! I also find it hilarious how she tells me that those 'true feelings' (which she said she had for me) last forever, and now she's going out with someone else. Not the sharpest tool in the shed.
I'm tempted to call her on her BS, but I think I will just continue my policy of ignoring her in real life and also on IM and emailing her some copy and pasted patterns to see their effect.
Post your thoughts
--GF
I was extremely flagrant about the pattern. I one sentence of preface and closing that were my own, and the rest were basically copied and pasted. The gist of the pattern is to mention her boyfriend's name, then get her to imagine forgetting and losing all her feelings for someone (duh guess who) and then get them to move the submodality for her boyfriend to the place where people get forgotten.
Here's her reply:
Hey Dan,
Um, that was rather confusing. I dont get it, so youre saying you want me out of your life or something? Youre trying to forget me and make me less important? I dont understand how you could be saying this when just a few weeks ago you were explaining to me all these "feelings". I dont understand how those "feelings" could have been real...I mean, I know when I get real feelings like that, they never ever go away. Ever. Even if youre with someone else those true feelings will be there, not that you want to really be with that person...its just that thing you get...but it sounds like you dont really know what thats like. All I really know about our situation is that I definetly want to still to at least to be friends, I'm not sure if you want that. Just know that your friendship really does mean a lot to me, Dan. It tears me apart to not be able to talk to you anymore, I feel like this has happened so suddenly, and I have no control whatsoever of what happens...I guess its all up to you...
I guess I'll talk to you later...
-
First of all I was shocked that she didn't recognize that I was trying to 'destroy' her boyfriend, but she also thought I was trying to 'destroy' her to myself! I also find it hilarious how she tells me that those 'true feelings' (which she said she had for me) last forever, and now she's going out with someone else. Not the sharpest tool in the shed.
I'm tempted to call her on her BS, but I think I will just continue my policy of ignoring her in real life and also on IM and emailing her some copy and pasted patterns to see their effect.
Post your thoughts
--GF