Spinoff AZNmen-whitegirl: think darker guys would have a better chance with blondes?

[backbreaker]

how many times will **** like this be posted, before it is realized that most women are open to alot of different things, but in general, different people have different set perfrences

 

[Mr. Unique]

Hey man, dont get mad at my brother he only uses his acount once in awhile, but dont worry about it, im planning to do a spinoff: why so many racial threads

 

[backbreaker]

alot of black/asian/hispanic guys like white women, and shoot themselves down because one girl turned them down or wasn't interested

little do most know, the probem more than likely their skin color, it was them...

someone said it best.. it's hard to look in the mirror and see what's wrong with you.. it's alot easier to place blame elsewhere (oh, she doesn't like black guys, that's why she didn't date me)

I have yet to find a girl that would turn me down simply because I am african american.. if I play my game right, and she is somewhat interested in the first place, I can sell the rest, regardless of skin color..

alot of women are willing to date outside their race.. however the problem isn't with the girl, it's with the guy who is an unfinished product trying to sell himself to "finished" women (i.e hotties) of any color

 

[Mr_knowit_all]

Originally posted by backbreaker
alot of black/asian/hispanic guys like white women, and shoot themselves down because one girl turned them down or wasn't interested

little do most know, the probem more than likely their skin color, it was them...

someone said it best.. it's hard to look in the mirror and see what's wrong with you.. it's alot easier to place blame elsewhere (oh, she doesn't like black guys, that's why she didn't date me)

I have yet to find a girl that would turn me down simply because I am african american.. if I play my game right, and she is somewhat interested in the first place, I can sell the rest, regardless of skin color..

alot of women are willing to date outside their race.. however the problem isn't with the girl, it's with the guy who is an unfinished product trying to sell himself to "finished" women (i.e hotties) of any color

This racial crap is really silly, and I think people post this shyt to get others riled up. But I will say this. Backbreaker, you're an idiot.

Most people will date their own race....that's just the way it is. Hollywood likes to portray this multi-cultural dating world, where all blondes lust after black men, and all asian women want hot white men..the truth is...most people are most atrracted to their own race.

It's not being racist, it's how people generally tend to be.

Now I know there will be people screamning about how they see black men with the gorgeous white women...and I believe them...but it's not the norm. People can date who they want, but most of the time that happens to be their own kind.

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by Mr_knowit_all
This racial crap is really silly, and I think people post this shyt to get others riled up. But I will say this. Backbreaker, you're an idiot.

Most people will date their own race....that's just the way it is. Hollywood likes to portray this multi-cultural dating world, where all blondes lust after black men, and all asian women want hot white men..the truth is...most people are most atrracted to their own race.

It's not being racist, it's how people generally tend to be.

Now I know there will be people screamning about how they see black men with the gorgeous white women...and I believe them...but it's not the norm. People can date who they want, but most of the time that happens to be their own kind.

so you call me an idiot, and then proceed to regergitate varbatium what I said?

of course!! we aren't in a color blind world where every other couple is of the mixed varity

People for the most part usually tend to stick with their kind.. simply because people are attracted to their own race


however, just because people are attracted to their own race, doesn't necessarly mean that people aren't attracted to other races as well.


There are variying factors for why a woman will/won't date outside of their race, it's not simple. I am black and I do well with women of all races, but I am pretty good looking, in shape and I am well off finanically.

Ironically for me, it's black women I have the hardest time "(not a hard time, hard is realitive) with because I get the "I don't come off as the type that likes black women" line alot.. and I do, I love black women.. it's just that I love ALL women, not just black women.

I mean what you really have to ask yourself is, if a woman honestly sees nothign wrong with you, and says you know what.. you aren't white or you aren't hispanic or whatever the case may be, is that someone you want to date anyway? I sure as hell don't... I have never beent urned down because of my race so I have never had to face that problem head to head, but that is still not a person I would be too keen on dating anyway, and would be glad she saved me the time /trouble.

 

[mroriginal2]

Since when did this thread become about blondes craving blacks?

To me dark guys= italians-spanish or as what the ausie djs would call them ''wogs''.

I agree with mr.know it all, we are most attracted to our own race the most. only a few people in the world are attracted to another race instead of their own. where did I ever say blondes go crazy about blacks,asians, indians? BUT If you look at an italian or some south americans they are some what european but with darker features that most white girls like, thats the only race or whatever youwould like to call it that would have it easier with scandinavian or just white women in general. As a matter of fact being black or asian I see it as a disadvantage(no offence). but what do I know? im only 18

 

[Mr_knowit_all]

Originally posted by backbreaker
so you call me an idiot, and then proceed to regergitate varbatium what I said?

of course!! we aren't in a color blind world where every other couple is of the mixed varity

People for the most part usually tend to stick with their kind.. simply because people are attracted to their own race


however, just because people are attracted to their own race, doesn't necessarly mean that people aren't attracted to other races as well.


There are variying factors for why a woman will/won't date outside of their race, it's not simple. I am black and I do well with women of all races, but I am pretty good looking, in shape and I am well off finanically.

Ironically for me, it's black women I have the hardest time "(not a hard time, hard is realitive) with because I get the "I don't come off as the type that likes black women" line alot.. and I do, I love black women.. it's just that I love ALL women, not just black women.

I mean what you really have to ask yourself is, if a woman honestly sees nothign wrong with you, and says you know what.. you aren't white or you aren't hispanic or whatever the case may be, is that someone you want to date anyway? I sure as hell don't... I have never beent urned down because of my race so I have never had to face that problem head to head, but that is still not a person I would be too keen on dating anyway, and would be glad she saved me the time /trouble.

What I was referring to, is your claim that your skin color doesn't exclude you from dating certain women. The truth is, some bytches will not date you because you're black. Most white women won't date you because you're black. Not necessarily because they're not attracted, but society, or family can hinder them from ever doing it.

It goes a lot of different ways though. Some white women won't date their own race. Yet they call you racist for only dating white women...

Color shouldn't matter, but it does.

I also agree that most white women are attracted to the Italian/Spanish dark featured look.

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by mroriginal2
Since when did this thread become about blondes craving blacks?

To me dark guys= italians-spanish or as what the ausie djs would call them ''wogs''.

I agree with mr.know it all, we are most attracted to our own race the most. only a few people in the world are attracted to another race instead of their own. where did I ever say blondes go crazy about blacks,asians, indians. BUT If you look at an italian or some south americans they are some what european but with darker features that most white girls like, thats the only race or whatever youwould like to call it that would have it easier with scandinavian or just white women in general. As a matter of fact being black or asian I see it as a disadvantage(no offence)

I take it both of you are still in school?

Because that's the mindset alot of young women take, ones still in college and have their pick of the litter with literarly thousands of guys of their own race to choose from within a 2-5 mile radius

alot of the problems that guys my age have I usually don't, because I don't date women my age for the most part... I usually tend to stay around the 25-30 age range, everyonce in a while, if she is attractive enough, my age, never younger.


However, when school is over, and you start dealign with.. women and not girls, horizons broaden. Alot of women who wouldn't think about dating a black or asian or hispanic or italian guy, or visa versa, a black girl that wouldn't think about dating an asian guy in the past, is more open to it know, assumign he has his **** in order.

this one girl i was messing around with for about half a year last year, 25..grew up in one of the most redneck cities in america (Cabot, AR), never dated a black guy her entire life until she met me.. and we didn't date





however she said that she always found black guys attractive, however when she was younger, it would have been social sucide to talk to one, let alone **** one


like I said.. it's like handicapping a horse race.. you can't point to one thing or another and say "this is why, blah blah blah".. yeah, some women, you just aren't going to get through to them.. some you need to catch when they mature a little, and get out of school,s ome would love nothing more than to **** a black guy.

I've ran into all three in my life.. i know a very very attractive redhead that won't talk to a guy if he isn't black.

Then I know the girl, well the one I messed around with.

then I know a girl that is so worried about her social status, she won't talk to black guys, as in date them.

however that's life in 2006.... there are literarly BILLIONS of women on earth.. whatever your perference is, there is someone/ones out there for you

 

[backbreaker]

what you have to understand is the aspects of what women look for at what age.

you are correct, in HS/College, unless you are like me (very good looking ) your going to have a hard time dating outside your race

It's not because necessarly white or hispanic women don't find you attractive, it's becuase it doesn't help her achieve her goals at that present time.

In HS/College, a woman isn't necessalry dating a man of a guy for you, but what she does for him.

This really transends though life however...

In HS/College, because really no one has earning power, the emphsis is placed on social status. In college, espically high school, social status is probably the most important thing you can have, even more so than straight A's in class, because you are still years away from making money and YEARS away from making any real money.

Interacial dating may not be frowned upon, but it's not necessarly glorified either.

Even though I was starting my own business when I was 20, actually by then I was running my own business, if you put me up against an average white guy, for an above average white girl, the white guy would probably win 9 out of 10 times.. I even understood that when I was 19-20.

and it's nothing I did wrong, it's just the way the social chain works... Business or not, I do nothing for her at this point in her life, and what I mean by that is she is condered to be more "in" by dating someone her own race at that point in time in her life.

However, when you get out of school, it's like the day you graduate, you see it all the time, prorities change.

Just last night, i went to a mexican resturant, and there was this guy I went to HS with.. had so many women it used to make me mad, he's mixed, hispanic and black, girls used to drool over him.

And he is a year older than me, sitting at the table with 4 girls that couldn't have been older than 17.. because as we got older, things change, prorities change... being "cute" only does it for so long if you are a guy, and his being "good looking" only got him so far with women his age.. one of my two best friends has this problem, dating girls in high school/early college becasue he hasn't grown up yet and matured into something that an older woman his age would consider dateworthy, and he is good looking.. I tried at least 4 times to hook him up with women my age, all stop talking to him, an tell me he needs to grow up.


anyway back to the subject at hand.

Once you are out of school, really out of that enviorment where your peers dont' LIVE with you, and you have to earn a living and put food on the table, social values change... being popular isn't as important as a good provider.. being good looking is great, but not as important as other aspects (but always better than being NOT good looking)

My old oneitis, had this problem with me.. now that I look back on it, I see why she wouldn't date me, even though I know she liked me to some extent (she is hispanic/white)... all her friends were white and I didn't fit in at the time...

However she was smart... she always kept me around.. I mean, I dont want her now, but she graduates in a year and she has told me on a number of occussions she knew her and I would "end up dating once she got out of school" (little does she know)

However I still think if I wasn't a total AFC I would have had her.. just goes to show how much she did like me, because as AFC as I was, and I was pretty bad, she had feelings for me.


Back to the subject at hand... well that's pretty much it now that I think about it


Reserve judgement until you are out in the world, making a living..

 

[Mr_knowit_all]

I'm in my late 20's dude, and I certainly don't see a bunch of women suddenly wanting to date interracially. It seems like a lot of black men want to perpetuate this myth, but I simply don't see it.

The argument is, that white women are secretly lusting after black men, but society is keeping them from pursuing their desires. I'm telling you bro, it doesn't work that way. The simple fact is, MOST WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO AND DATE THEIR OWN RACE.

I don't find that white men have as much of a problem with interracial dating as black men do. You don't see spanish guys, or oriental guys screaming about all the white chicks they can get. But black men seem to want to perpetuate this idea that they can get so many white women. If you can..that's good for you, but why do you think that bothers white men? We get our share, and don't begrudge anyone else.

I say date who you want, but just because it's your experience, doesn't mean it happens everywhere.

Good luck with the sarging bros.

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by Mr_knowit_all
I'm in my late 20's dude, and I certainly don't see a bunch of women suddenly wanting to date interracially. It seems like a lot of black men want to perpetuate this myth, but I simply don't see it.

The argument is, that white women are secretly lusting after black men, but society is keeping them from pursuing their desires. I'm telling you bro, it doesn't work that way. The simple fact is, MOST WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO AND DATE THEIR OWN RACE.

I don't find that white men have as much of a problem with interracial dating as black men do. You don't see spanish guys, or oriental guys screaming about all the white chicks they can get. But black men seem to want to perpetuate this idea that they can get so many white women. If you can..that's good for you, but why do you think that bothers white men? We get our share, and don't begrudge anyone else.

I say date who you want, but just because it's your experience, doesn't mean it happens everywhere.

Good luck with the sarging bros.

Like I said, you are taking one part of what I am saying, and focusing on that, when in reality, there are many many many factors going into what women do and why they do them.

No one said all white women are lusting for black guys on the DL, if that is the preception that I am giving you, then I apologize for being off kelter.

What I am saying is women, of all races, are lusting for successful Men, and if he happens to be black, then alot of women will wonder outside of their race.. some won't, but more so than you would probably imagine.

However, alot of men, white black asian whatever, don't want to date outside of their race for one reason or another. That also has to be taken into account as well for why you don't see as many interacial couples, because every black guy doesn't secretly lust for white women either.. I think I am , wait, I know I am only one of my friends that dates outside my race, and I'm not just talking about white women, I'm talking hispanic, asian, anyone outside my race.

I have a pretty good unerstanding of how things work.. I am currently.. I don't know what you want to call it, I'm not dating anyone, seeing, 4 different women on a constant or semi constant basis... out of thoose 4, 2 are white, one is hispanic and one is black. One of the white girls I only see like one time a month, I try to keep a distance, but I might end up cutting her off pretty soon, as she is trying to demand too much of my time, time I am not willing to give

the mistake you are making, is making the arugment that black men just want to date white women, just because they are white women.. I never said just white women, I said anyone, male or female, dating outside their race, which you automatically assumed black men dating white women.. sure it's the most common senerio, at least the most common one protrayed by media, however it could be any race/type... people in general do stick to their own kind, rather you be white or indian or alien

Actually I'm glad you brought that up because that's another pet peeve of mine, and that's the polar opposite of what we are talking about.. people who date people just BECAUSE they are a certain color.. i.e a black guy that dates a white girl just because she is white, or visa versa.. she could be fat, out of shape, not very attractive, but white and he is on her like white on rice (no pun intended), not saying all black guys do this, but I have seen it before.. girls I wouldn't look at twice these guys are happy to soak up.

Like I said, i have an EX that only talks to black guys, and she is as white as snow.

My standards apply to all races.. hot is hot, fat is fat

You are right, we are both aruging the same point, the same exact point to be exact... for the most part, people are going to stick inside their race.. but what I am saying, is that as you get older, if a woman is made to chooose between say, a very successful black guy and an average/below average white guy, assuming they look the same, the older she gets, well not the older, but at 20, she would very wel choose the white guy, well at 25-30, I am not saying she would automatically choose the black guy, but she would give it a hell of alot more consideration more than likely

If forced to choose between two guys of different races, no matter the age, that bring the same to the table in looks, earning potential, etc, a woman or man will choose the same race more times than not

 

[Silverback82]

Originally posted by Abbott


One thing I've noticed though, is that the richer someone is, or the higher social status they have, the less willing they are to have relationships with someone who isn't of their race.

that is very true

whether people want to admit it or not a white girls value is lowered if she is known to be romantically involved with a black man

 

[Silverback82]

Originally posted by backbreaker


Like I said, i have an EX that only talks to black guys, and she is as white as snow.

anybody who doesn't like their own race either can't attract their own race, wishes they were a different race, or is just a plain freak with serious issues

enough of the blacks on blondes crap too

just because a few pigs are willing to have sex with black guys for money doesn't mean ****

I guess guys that look like Ron Jeremy have hope

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by Silverback82
anybody who doesn't like their own race either can't attract their own race, wishes they were a different race, or is just a plain freak with serious issues

enough of the blacks on blondes crap too

just because a few pigs are willing to have sex with black guys for money doesn't mean ****

I guess guys that look like Ron Jeremy have hope

she's my ex for a reason.. i'll leave it at that. She's good looking, but like I said.. she's my ex for a reason

 

[everywomanshero]

Interesting

It's interesting.. however, the problem may be in our accuracy of perception. A blonde woman with fair skin will stand out much more to our eyes if she were with a very dark black man. By the same token, a light skinned white man with a black woman would also tend to jump out at us.

When I go out with attractive black women (I'm white), I get 10x more attention than if I am with an attractive white woman. Women may realize dating a contrasting look reaps more attention, and this could be one possible motivator.

The truth is I don't really under stand this, and I'm in no shape to try to study it. However, it is worth knowing that attractive members of differing races, especially in race sensitive areas, may work to your advantage.

There are women who like certain looks, certain occupations. certain personality types. Some of this is most likely genetic and should hold true for similar members, other things may be highly cultural yet appear genetic because similar people tend to align themselves with what the other, similar members think is cool.