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Master Don Juan
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I've had a cynical view on women yrs before I got involved with my ex. Think about it, most women are pieces of sh*t, am I right? Even you said most women are messed up. Anyway, my "cynical" view developed in early 2000 when I began hanging out with this chick from college. She totally strung me along. I remember she'd flake out on me, show up late, not call me back, etc. etc. Now note at this time, I'd never experienced this kind of behavior with a woman before, not even in high school(high school's a whole other story, as my experience with women was a lot less complicated, if complicated at all. All I remember about high school, was how easy and smooth dealing with a woman was). So, now this chick comes along in college and pulling all these stunts, and I'm thinking to myself, "Jesus Christ, what the hell is going on here with this girl?" It was frustrating the sh*t out of me, to where I eventually asked her, "What the hell was up?", although it did no good, as she kept it up. Eventually I got rid of her, but not till after about a month went by. Now add on about several other chicks in the following year who would go on to do the same to varying degrees. That is what the "cynical" view is attributed to. Years of head games. This is what ALL guys will experience with the greater majority of females, the hot ones in particular. Then my ex who is pushing for marriage comes along, and forget it, my beliefs and perception of women become even stronger.DJKid said:I'm very curious to know what the reason was that your ex broke up with you. It's clearly framed you with a cynical view on women/relationships.
Yeah, my ex broke up with me because she claims our arguing made her fall out of love. Now note something here..when we argued, we never argued as if we were at each others throats. It was passive arguing. She did warn me prior that the arguing was affecting the relationship, which I understood and took seriously, as I didn't want to jeapordize anything, but she would do act in certain ways that I would feel wasn't "girlfriendish". For instance, a month before we broke up, before everything started spiralling downward, we had an argument because I was annoyed we weren't having sex as often as we used to(a common issue in relationships, I know). When I confronted her about it, you know what she tells me? "Well things change". That's what she tells me. This coming from a woman who according to her is her "soulmate, the one she wants to marry and be with forever eternally, the one she's never felt this way about before". So, we talk about how the sex has tapered off and cut it short. At this point I'm thinking to myself, "Well maybe she'll change now that I called her out on how the sex has tapered off, maybe she'll try to make an adjustment on her part, afterall, she is my girlfriend who is supposed to love me and show she loves me". Nope. She doesn't do anything to initiate sex like she used to, but at the same time, nor is she refusing it either. So, now at this point I'm thinking, "Ok, my girlfriend must not be into me anymore". So, the next time I go to initiate sex with her, I have all this stuff I'm telling you laying in the back of my mind. So, I go in one night to have sex with her, start taking my clothes off, but see she's not taking her's off. So, I'm thinking, "Yep, she's not into me and doesn't want to have sex". So, I confront her about it, and she goes on the defense. She starts to cry. After the argument ends, she tells me, "I feel distant from you", implying that the our constant arguing has made her feel this way. The arguing continues and everything just keeps spiraling downward. The day she breaks up with me, she tells me, "all the arguing stole something special we had and how she has lost her love for me". She tells me, "I was trying to see in the last month if I would get my love back, but it never came back." And that was that, it was over forever.
What pissed me off too, was how she attention wh*red with me, after we had broken up. I'm saying to myself, "Damn, this chick does enough damage, and now she's playing games and attention wh*ring with me on top of it. I couldn't believe it. That had solidified my beliefs about women even stronger. So there you go, now I guess you can see why I choose the path I choose.
Sorry to keep it so long dude, I just felt I had to explain in detail to better allow you to understand where I'm coming from, lol.