Spinning plates - want to pick one

[The Duke]

Going from marriage to fvcking some way post wall/menopausal hoes from OLD sounds like a major downgrade to me. I don't understand how you can stomach the thought that those 3 are having sex with other dudes and you can literally kiss her today after she sucked some other guy's dyck yesterday.
Furthermore what do you even talk about with 40/50yrs old women? They're damaged goods, are you going to start a family with one of them?

Pipe, how come we never hear about your personal stories and the details of your relationships? I know you are King of the Virgins and under 25 world or was is 22. Your response is always the same when it comes to age. We'll see if you still feel that way when you are 50.

 

[Toddy]

Pipe, how come we never hear about your personal stories and the details of your relationships? I know you are King of the Virgins and under 25 world or was is 22. You're response is always the same when it comes to age. We'll see if you still fill that way when you are 50.

There's some really nice 40-50's out there, they treat me so well, because most guys are chasing 10 years younger. Which means they have guys in their 60's chasing them, that puts me in such a strong position going in with so much confidence.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I've not had the exclusivity chat with any of them, but suspect they believe it's implied both sides.

If you want to date multiple women, it's best to state to them that you're into Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM).

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

You're dating and in the novelty sex stage any man with any experience with women will be aware this phase doesn't last with young women let alone ones past 50 who are slowly becoming men

"Novelty" usually runs out much sooner than 7-8 months - at least for me.

Over the years, I've noticed your inability to accept that others have different experiences than you do.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Ahh yes, like clockwork. OP: I told ya!

Going from marriage to fvcking some way post wall/menopausal hoes from OLD sounds like a major downgrade to me. I don't understand how you can stomach the thought that those 3 are having sex with other dudes and you can literally kiss her today after she sucked some other guy's dyck yesterday.
Furthermore what do you even talk about with 40/50yrs old women? They're damaged goods, are you going to start a family with one of them?

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Don't have one, but if I had, I would make sure she was. If there isn't anything special about her, why would I make her my woman? Just having a pair of tits and a pvssy doesn't qualify, those are relatively cheap to come by.

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[RangerMIke]

As others will tell you I really don't like the term 'spinning plates'. It is casual dating... dating is supposed to be fun, if it is not fun then why do it?

In the OP's situation he would like to be in an exclusive relationship. That's fine, if that is what someone wants... then your purpose in casual dating is to sort through people that works with what you like and are willing to do. If at any time you discover in the dating process that a woman is too much work, well then you just have to let that go. Date... dump... date... dump... rinse and repeat. Eventually you will find someone that likes you for you and build something based on reciprocity.

If all you are doing is just dating and not interested in a relationship... that's fine too. There are women out there that want the same thing. The key to finding them is to be up front and honest about what you want. However, expect that she might change her mind and decide she wants more... if you don't... well you have to let her go. This happens to me a lot... it's not easy and it stinks, but it is a whole lot harder trying to pretend you are something that you are not.

Another thing is if you are playing the field and casually dating, you have to expect she is doing the same... and you have to be okay with that. As long as she is present when she is with you then you shouldn't worry about what she is doing with other men when she isn't. But the minute she starts talking about other dudes she is dating, dump her, not because you don't like that she is with other men (because it is casual and it shouldn't bother you), but because it is bad manners and disrespectful to talk about other people you are seeing with the person you are out with. Having said that, you the man shouldn't talk about other women when you are out with a woman... again... it's bad manners and disrespectful.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I've not had the exclusivity chat with any of them, but suspect they believe it's implied both sides.

It's never implied.

 

[pipeman84]

Pipe, how come we never hear about your personal stories and the details of your relationships? I know you are King of the Virgins and under 25 world or was is 22. Your response is always the same when it comes to age. We'll see if you still feel that way when you are 50.

All those words that people throw around when talking about relationships such as love, commitment, genuine attraction, etc to actually mean something, the woman has to be as young and as notch free as possible. There's even a thread in the Hall of Excellence about this, so it's not like I discovered anything new. Why wouldn't I feel the same when I'm 50?

You couldn't pay me to sit there and listen to some 40yrs old woman's BS about her daily life and her teenage kids, all in the hope she'll put out on Saturday when she has a couple hours free. Furthermore, with OP being from the UK, what are the chances he's dating a Kate Beckinsale?
I'd much rather take a plane to Amsterdam, visit the city and fcvk till I'm dry. #winwin.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

All those words that people throw around when talking about relationships such as love, commitment, genuine attraction, etc to actually mean something, the woman has to be as young and as notch free as possible. There's even a thread in the Hall of Excellence about this, so it's not like I discovered anything new. Why wouldn't I feel the same when I'm 50?

You couldn't pay me to sit there and listen to some 40yrs old woman's BS about her daily life and her teenage kids, all in the hope she'll put out on Saturday when she has a couple hours free. Furthermore, with OP being from the UK, what are the chances he's dating a Kate Beckinsale?
I'd much rather take a plane to Amsterdam, visit the city and fcvk till I'm dry. #winwin.

And there it is. BAM!

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

You couldn't pay me to sit there and listen to some 40yrs old woman's BS about her daily life and her teenage kids, all in the hope she'll put out on Saturday when she has a couple hours free.

I would bore her to tears talking about my teenagers and after that she would prefer to have sex and not talk.

 

[BeExcellent]

The old lady has HIGH libido. Sometimes higher than my husband, who is younger. Menopause is NOT sexopause as @Pierce Manhammer stated.

The idea that menopause stops sex drive is quite silly.

Some 30 yr old women have no sex drive. Choose wisely. I chose men who I had genuine desire for when I was dating. That focus has never failed me.

I do wish I'd go through menopause, lol. I'm totally OVER periods, but I remain regular. Turns out women who are late to menopause live the longest...all things being equal. So I guess I got that going for me.

OP, enjoy your social life & look for characteristics that matter to you. What the rest of us think doesn't really matter. If you decide to drop a plate, let her go. And know that plates will at times let you go as well.

It's a 2 way street.