Spin the ****ing bottle?!

[Pierce]

Why did you say "me, want to hold a GIRLS hand? Never!"

Made you sound gay as hell

 

[Jokerlsk]

She knows i was kidding...... Read my last post tho. That's what i'm worried

 

[Pierce]

You should have been like "o ya im tryna touch you girl"... just say that in a sarcastic way.

 

[Jokerlsk]

I've been feeling really bad the past week, sickness wise, and yesterday we played spin the bottle and truth or dare. The truth of the matter is that things didn't turn out my way, but my friend, who is more attractive, funnier, etc. actually did get to kiss the girl I'm interested in. It sorta felt weird to be honest. Like a mixture of jealousy and the sickness I've been feeling lately.

I hate the way my friends view me. They view me as this non-sexual, innocent, guy. You know, I'm gonna be honest. I usually don't let things get to me, but that **** ate me up inside. I haven't felt that way in a long time. I couldn't even sleep. You know? Why can't people view me in a better way? I'm tired of this, "Well, I could kiss Jokerslsk, but he wouldn't let me." I'm going to hear stuff like this my entire lifetime. Yeah, I am afraid, and I can admit that. I'm afraid of a bunch of things, and I shouldn't be. Even when it's right in front of me. I can't just go out and say, "**** it!" because i care TOO much. I genuinely care about people. I couldn't ever be a player, man *****, etc. But my friends, they view me as the complete opposite as that. They say I'm going to live in a monastery and be the actual 40 year virgin.... All joking of course, but still

I really, really, really, feel like absolute **** right now. I feel betrayed and it's like I've actually been hurt. Wow.

This

 

[CarlitosWay]

.well

This

Moping around asking why this and that...wishing for something isn't going to do jack. You can make it stop in the instance you read this message. Look at things in the 3rd person to better grasp where you need to improve. Keep your head up, do your best hope for everything and expect NOTHING. As to not let yourself down.

Finding a sport to excel in or a club of interest might do you good and help you keep you're mind from obessing over miniscule things that can graudually be changed. Getting a job in a real social environment helps tremendously. During high schooll I worked in a call center/research group. I literally was talking to hundreds/1000s of people every night and I got damn good at building good rapports with random people and making these strangers laugh!

 

[sageproduct]

Don't worry. Truly caring about other people DEFINITELY does not make you less of a man. A role model to show this is Batman in The Dark Knight. He is a man because he cares.

I think you can get over your sexual problem pretty easily. Just know that you are a man. With a penis. and balls. and you want sex. you like sex. and you're not afraid to show it. sex is good. girls are sexy. you want to have sex with girls. DON'T BE EMBARRASSED BY YOUR SEXUAL WANTS

 

[Jokerlsk]

Thanks sage.... I just am never successful with this stuff, so i think, "You know, this time is gonna be different." but when it isn't.... I feel even more disappointed. I'm pretty much effed in this situation, and my own 'friend' is gonna be reaping the benefits. It's such a messed up situation. I feel betrayed. I liked this girl a lot. I'm feeling the lowest I have in a long time.

And i'm not embarrassed by my sexual needs. It's just, people assume i am. I don't know how to describe it, but it's like I'm forced into the role that they GIVE ME, and I'm about ****ing fed up with it, because NO ONE can tell me who I am. I'm so tired of it.

 

[Desert Fox]

lol you sound like a little nerdy tool. you probably get good grades but no pvssy. or even kisses.

but i gotta give u credit u held a girl's hand! before she called u out and u retracted your little balls into your stomach.

sad sad sad. here you are on the fvcking internet venting to us and not doing anything about it in real life because you think talking about it is a substitute for action.

this is all very simple. do it, or do not. that's all there is. only 2 choices, do, or do not. pick one and shut the fvck up

 

[Jokerlsk]

Thanks Desert Fox, and I mean it.

You know what? I ****ed up tonight. I screwed up beyond belief. I turned into the worlds biggest *******. I turned into something I never thought i'd see. I said **** that I never thought I'd say, and I acted like everything was fine. This girl kept asking me what was wrong, and I kept putting it off until the opportunity was gone. I kept saying. I'm fine. But inside, I'm not.

Why did i act the way i did? Why did I not recover? Why do i feel so terrible? My friend, well he's twice the man I am. He didn't crack. I did. I ****ed up and I don't know what to do.

 

[Jokerlsk]

So i screwed up as i said. I really just jealousy get the best of me, and I am severely disappointed in myself. I mean, wow.... I've never acted that way before. I was just a straight up ****. I've never treated anyone that way, and all of my friends were treated like **** by me. I just felt so bad afterwards.

I texted her saying, "Hey, i'm gonna call you, okay?" and she said, "Sure.." so I called her. And we talked for 2hrs on the phone. I apologized for the way I was acting, and I probably screwed myself over even more, but i felt real bad about the situation. Was apologizing the right thing to do?

 

[Pierce]

wat u do

 

[Jokerlsk]

I was just a jerk to everyone around me. In my group I'm usually the reserved, nice one, but the past two nights i've just said whatever the f*ck i want, and albeit feels great, it also feels wrong.
I told this girl to shut up, and barely talked to her, and when she tried asking me what my problem was I told her to go away.

A lot of it was out of a jealous rage. My friend and her obviously have something going on, and I just didn't know what to do. I feel betrayed by my friend, but at the same time, I don't own her. I can't handle the situation.

 

[ENIGMA16]

A lot of it was out of a jealous rage.

I posted this earlier in this thread:

If your friend likes this girl, and is her "best friend" then he is not going to get anything from this girl. She views him as a friend at best and as someone she can order around and take advantage of at worst. She is not going to do anything with him.

Your friend is a complete AFC. You can try waking him up to the fact that it's not going to happen, but it sounds like he's too far gone and will just get hostile to that. If he's that far gone then I would just go for the girl anyways, because your friend is the one who has the problem and not you, and your friend is the one c*ckblocking you (the guy who still has a chance), and that is not cool. I'm all for bros before hos but when your "bros" start stepping on your **** and c*ckblocking you they're not your bro anymore.

With that being said, you'd have to accept the fact that you could lose your friend over this. My opinion, as I said before, is that I would go for it because I wouldn't want to be friends with someone that does that. Worst case scenario he'll stop being your friend, best case scenario he doesn't give a ****, but what will probably happen is that he'll get pissed off and then get over it eventually.

But like I said, you have to be prepared to take that risk. That's your decision. I say go for it.

It sounds like now you're the one being the jealous friend, and while you're not c*ckblocking him I'm sure you'd love to. You need to get your sh!t sorted because if you're going to get mad at your friend because he's hooking up with a girl that you failed at then that's your problem and it's not right to take it out on him or anybody else like you did.

 

[Jokerlsk]

He slapped me in the face... and that's what really set me off.
I was on the verge of beating his ass

 

[ENIGMA16]

He slapped me in the face... and that's what really set me off.
I was on the verge of beating his ass

Details?

Also, just saw this earlier in the thread:

And i'm not embarrassed by my sexual needs. It's just, people assume i am. I don't know how to describe it, but it's like I'm forced into the role that they GIVE ME, and I'm about ****ing fed up with it, because NO ONE can tell me who I am. I'm so tired of it.

You get treated how you do because of how you feel about yourself.

 

[Jokerlsk]

He said I was a little *****
and i said, "What was that? Get the **** out of your mouth and speak up."
And he said, "haha, that was a good one."
and i siad, "haha, that's what someone says when they get ***** slapped."
and he was like, "What did you say?"
and i said, "Sorry, you still haven't gotten the **** out of your mouth yet. Speak up *****."
and then he walked over and slapped me, and I grabbed his shirt and threw him against the wall. I pretty much told him if he ever touched me again i would beat the **** out of him.
THen he said, "Whoah man calm down."
And i said, "If you're gonna slap like a *****, i'm gonna treat you like a *****. Get out of my face."

 

[ENIGMA16]

Sounds like you were being a jealous b!tch, he called you out on it, then you got all offended and started talking ****, to which he responded by slapping you.

Granted, I wouldn't have done that, but you had something coming for acting like such a jealous b!tch. I would have just stopped talking to you.

Also, you should have punched him in the face. Even though you were wrong, the second he slapped you it was on and you should have defended yourself and your honor.

 

[Brighty]

He said I was a little *****
and i said, "What was that? Get the **** out of your mouth and speak up."
And he said, "haha, that was a good one."
and i siad, "haha, that's what someone says when they get ***** slapped."
and he was like, "What did you say?"
and i said, "Sorry, you still haven't gotten the **** out of your mouth yet. Speak up *****."
and then he walked over and slapped me, and I grabbed his shirt and threw him against the wall. I pretty much told him if he ever touched me again i would beat the **** out of him.
THen he said, "Whoah man calm down."
And i said, "If you're gonna slap like a *****, i'm gonna treat you like a *****. Get out of my face."

Woha. Are you sure that's what you said? Just seems like such a 180 from all of your previous posts and how the nice quiet reserved guy is suddenly calling people out on their **** and not just stuttering but actually throwing out some decent insults at the same time. I mean you were still acting like a complete ch0de and if you were my friend we'd probably never be close friends again, but at least you stood up for yourself. If it did go down like you said it did, good on you then, why can't you be more assertive and dominant like that in other areas of your life? Harness that testosterone and don't be shy about it, but don't be some roid rage gorilla who roams the hallways looking for a mate and drags one off by the hair... Just be ****y and nice and playful like you seem to be (Dont know about ****y, but you come across as nice and playful) but when you get those "moments", where you either convey to a girl that you're a man or a ch0de (like the "are you holding my hand" thing: that was a moment), that's when you tap into your testosterone and BE that gorilla (albeit a socially-acceptable gorilla) for a brief moment and MAKE THE MOVE. And the move is always context sensitive, it could be anything from you saying something a little risque and dirty, to moving in closer, to cuddling, or to making the first kiss. And kissing isnt hard to be good at, just pucker your lips up and mimic what she does.

Oh, and:

I texted her saying, "Hey, i'm gonna call you, okay?" and she said, "Sure.." so I called her. And we talked for 2hrs on the phone. I apologized for the way I was acting

WHYYY

 

[eaglez1177]

Wow this thread is really startin to confuse me...like brighty said, that just doenst seem like jokerlsk at all...people dont just go from completely reserved nice guys to complete and total douchebags.

And just for the record, YOU were the one who was being the b*tch. YOU were the one who got jealous of your friend, and YOU were the one who took a slap to the face and pretty much did nothing. I wouldve thought that someone who talked so much sh*t would at least be able to back it up. If I EVER got slapped by a guy, for whatever reason, I would punch that kid's fvckin face in. Like JLay said, as soon as that kid hits you, its on. Next time grow a pair and stand up for yourself.

 

[Recon]

Wow this thread is really startin to confuse me...like brighty said, that just doenst seem like jokerlsk at all...people dont just go from completely reserved nice guys to complete and total douchebags.

Eaglez and Brighty, I think the OP might have "accidentally" changed the story in such a way that it seems like he defended himself.

Here's a much shorter play by play...

Joker: (Brooding in the corner, *****ing and complaining about not getting the girl)
Friend: your a little *****
Joker: (akward silence, friends probably snicker) *insert random insult*
Friend: *Slap*(Laughing insues)
Joker: *Slams* friend onto the wall, and his friend laughs at him for getting so upset.

But jokes aside, I think that's a much more accurate incident given your posts and responses. Anyway, its your fault man. YOU waited to long. YOU let her get away. Then you act like a spolied brat. And to top it all off your apologize?!? FCK NO. DO NOT APOLOGIZE FOR ANYTHING! (I mean that in a way for social purposes, if you break someone's sht then yeah say sorry)

All your incident did, was bring out the women's motherly instincts which are to help the small child who is crying. Friend zone city..bud.

Here's my advice, please listen:

Its the New Year, it's time for a change! I did something similar for myself. DO NOT SPEAK OF THIS INCIDENT AGAIN. NO MORE "SORRY" NO MORE ANYTHING!

If anyone asks you about it, play dumb. "I dont know" "It's between me and him" "It's all settled now, no biggie"

You erase this **** from your mind and move on. If you are still on good terms with your friend then ASK him if something is going on rather than btching and crying about losing the girl. If not, assume he isnt and continue gaming as normal. Becoming lightearted and funny, girls dont want to talk about this sad sht alright?

Sidenote: This is just a random story of one of my friends who sounds EXTREMELY similar to you. In our little group he was kind of like the girls "pet". Whenever he would go off on his random tangents and cry they all came to his aid, thus he thought that they "liked" him. NO NO NO NO NO. When prom rolled around he was rejected by every single girl in the group. I personally, as in NO WAY a Don Juan, but you know what I had that he didn't? Self-Respect. And yes I did get a date, (My first k-close,Bj), but it was prom so everybody was doing it. So man up buddy.