Speed Dating today Nov. 10 7:30PM - 10PM

[DJ SO STEVE]

A friend and I signed up for speed dating which takes place today. I'd like to start spinning more plates. I got no plates spinning ATM.

It's at a bistro bar and I'll have 5 minutes with upto 15 women one at a time of course

I wanna stay away from the lame typical questions 9 of 10 guys would ask. I figure keep it mysterious, DHV, and create a connection.

Any suggestions on how I should approach?

By the way the age range is 24-35
The price is 39.95 + tax and it is the same price for women as well

 

[spinaroonie]

http://roissy.wordpress.com/2008/05/29/speed-dating-sucks/

 

[DJ SO STEVE]

http://roissy.wordpress.com/2008/05/29/speed-dating-sucks/

This link is very exagerated and is not true. I've been once before, got this HB8's number but didn't even call cause I always said I'll call later, but never did.

Still looking for suggestions on the approach.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

I'd probably arrive early and scope out the scene to see what girls were there and ask a few retarded questions to them while getting their phone numbers or setting something up at a nearby lounge or bar right after the event.

Screw all those questions while sitting across from them. Make small talk and set something up immediately. Break the rules of those things. I've never went but I'd do me and not follow their crappy advice.

Most guys will probably be huddling in the corner before it started. I'd go right up to the women good and not so good looking to get immediate "social proof" that everyone "craves" these days. You chat wit hthe Ugg's and make them laugh the other's will get curious.

DO NOT WAIT OR SIT AROUND FOR THE EVENT TO START. MEET THEM A.S.A.P

Questions I'd ask while mingling before the event:

Do you kiss on the first date? If so, how soon can we go out?

I hope your last relationship didn't end with a restraining order?!

Do you have any cute friends? (brothers, sisters?)

What is your favorite drink? (Whatever she says: Say good. You can buy me one right after the event at so and so and I'll see. Then I'll buy you mine.

How many hours a day do you spend working on your Facebook page?


I know we just met and this might seem a little sudden ... but could I borrow two thousand dollars? I owe it to a Nigerian scammer I met on an online dating site.

You wouldn't mind if my mom joined us if we go out on a date, would you?

Didn't I meet you in 2002 at the Star Trek Convention in St Louis?

Could you excuse me? My cat gets jealous if he doesn't hear my voice on the answering machine every hour.

Do you give your pets birthday and Christmas presents? I bought mine a Verizon Droid!

If there was an extra hour in the day, what would you spend it doing? Besides checking your Facebook?

Are you banned from attended your high school reunion?

What is your favorite number? Mine is C!

 

[DJ SO STEVE]

Okay just received an email informing the event is postponed until next Wed because they do not have enough guys attending... Probably not enough women attending. So next week Wednesday it is...

 

[ChumpNoMore]

Please post up with a follow up once you have attended. $ per head, it's not that bad of a cost, just the selection can be disappointing.

I went to one of these events years back, and while I feel I shone among the men (thanks to the advice here on SS, ****y, funny, well groomed, laid back alpha gestures), the females were substantially lacklustre. The organizer did email me after offering me "free" attendance at her future events, she admitted a majority of the women had checked me off on the "would like to contact further" boxes. I was pretty MEH, the only one I checked off had some AW traits.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Stevie,
Look this site was worth it for the Roissy thread alone...Quote:

30 Year Old Woman
“There is nothing more pathetic and… alien… than a pre-menopausal aging childless woman throwing herself headlong into the chaotic vagaries of dating. When a woman doesn’t have children to nurture and raise by her early 30s she morphs rapidly into a sad and tragic creature — a shell entity of raging cynicism that can do no more than go through the motions — that no one wants to be around. Whatever is left of her innate femininity, beauty and sexiness is destroyed to dust by that point.” This is sheer Bluddy poetry
Stevie,Please keep us all updated...

 

[DJ SO STEVE]

Hey guys the event is in two days, I'll keep ya'll posted

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

I'd like to ride up on a horse to one of those things, Man With No Name style.

 

[Zarky]

Here's a tip: instead of talking for the couple minutes you have with each woman, just sit there staring into her eyes and licking your lips over and over.

 

[DJ SO STEVE]

Okay my mistake again, the date is actually this coming Wednesday lol... November 24th. But just received an email from them saying that there are 3 spots for women and 5 spots for males left to fill... If this thing gets postponed again, that would suck big donkey balls.

 

[DJ SO STEVE]

Okay guys the event is in less than 4 hours.
One of my friends who signed up with me bailed on me cause he claims he's got food poisoning... Gay...

Let ya'll know how it went after the nights over.

 

[DJ SO STEVE]

Okay speed dating was quite interesting.
I didn't check anyone off as a yes meaning I could come back one more time at no cost.

The age range was 24-35. I didn't see anyone below the age of 28 which was kinda dissapointing cause I like the younger chicks (who doesn't lol). Out of all of them, there was one italian gal that was an HB7. Thats the highest one out of the 12 that showed up.

I dressed up casual with jeans and a cool t-shirt, flat black casual dress shoes and a brown cowboy hat. I definately stood out of the crowd of everyone at the venue. More than half of the women comented on my cowboy hat, I let some women touch it and whoever did giggled with excitement. I said some crazy stuff like I was a shoe shine repair man, and a breakfast sandwich specialist which caught women's attention. I kept it mysterious.

In the end I had dinner at the venue with the italian girl and her friend with myself and my friend Kenny.

I had no expectations going in so it went well. I pulled the best friends test on the two girls and the gigantic room and cube game which got the italian gal thinking I was a psychologist. They still don't know what I do for a living.

I tried to close on the italian girl after dinner (which everyone paid separately) by saying we have alot to talk about and should talk more but how can we contact each other? She didn't make a suggestion so it didn't go as smooth as I thought so I asked for her number. Her response was, "well we'll see when the results come up". Basically if we liked someone we would place a checkmark beside their name.

I told her I said no to everyone because this organized meeups are not my thing. So I asked for her number again. This time she brought out a paper from her bag and her own pen. I wrote my name and number down aka the breakfast sandwich maker and autographed it.

If she calls it's game on, if she doesn't whatever...

This is the first time I used the cowboy hat and I'll tell you this much, it got everyone's attention. Some women were saying they'll always remember the guy wearing the cowboy hat they met at that bar.

Interesting eh...

 

[Royal-tiger]

When a chick does not give you her number, it is most likely not going to happen. To me, it appears that you came on too strong.

 

[Zarky]

When a chick does not give you her number, it is most likely not going to happen. To me, it appears that you came on too strong.

I agree with the first sentence, but wouldn't necessarily agree with the second. Not enough information to deduce why she wasn't interested. But clearly she wasn't interested.

I also can't tell whether the hat was cool or too over the top.

Looking forward to hearing about the next one. Thanks for posting your experiences.

 

[Neon Owl]

I'm thinking you might have played that a bit too lightly. It's cool to be jokey and mysterious and all but you have to mix in some serious questions/answers here and there otherwise they'll just remember you as "the funny guy in the cowboy hat".

But then again I have little experience in this field so I could be dead wrong!

 

[DJ SO STEVE]

Well those mind games do go a long way. Women find them fascinating. When I was running those games it was just for fun and I wondered on how I ran the game on those women would react. It was all good I can tell you that for a fat fact.

I'm going to try running those games on women who are not organized on meeting people like this speed dating bullcrap.

I know it works, the women I played these games on are just test subjects.

If you really think about it, women need excitement which gets their attention. You either know the first half which is job/hobbies etc. Or know the second half which is excitement, more personality. I believe at first the lattter works best because you can meet someone who is successful but if there is nothing else, it's all downhill from there. But from a guys point of view, it's the latter that makes the big difference. It's not like you're going for a girl that doesn't have a job and is helpless is most cases anyway.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ra70O9nps6E

 

[Buddha_Mind]

Well it's the passion and fire in people that make them most lucrative. Boring Boringsville Betty is no fun to hang out with. Where's the life adventure?

I wonder if half of these women are just horny. Do people really think they'll meet someone meaningful at these?

Seems best strategy is those outline above by Naughty Ninja (hilarious post) and use it as social practice and try to bend the rules.