Speak LOUDLY!

[B-Lemond]

By Jeffy from RSD:

... you just want to
STAND OUT.

Real quick, here's a few ways you can do that.

The first is by TALKING LOUD. This sounds ridiculous, but
most people simply can not talk loud.

Physically, they are perfectly capable of doing so,
but the social conditioning is so great that it becomes
a literal impossibility for them to raise their voice
above a certain level when interacting with others.

I'm continually amazed at the shocking improvements I
see in new guys when they just amp up the volume.

It's like night and day.

Now, this doesn't mean bellowing like a wasted idiot,
but for most guys, even if they did that, it would
be a huge improvement over the whispering they're
basically doing right now.

It's about DOMINATING the environment, displaying an
ability to withstand the accompanying social pressure,
and having solid frame control.

That is the way to subtly imply higher value.

 

[Stackthestyles]

Subtly?

It is higher value.

 

[blinkwatt]

I am always told I talk to loud.

Meh,thats ubsurd,they arent talking loud enough.

 

[NoNickname]

My voice is way too weak to talk loud. If I talk loud, my voice will easily become too bright, which is definitely not sexy.
So, I need to improve my voice - I know there are ways of doing it. Any tips?

 

[B-Lemond]

My voice is way too weak Any tips?

Do a Search for Empower Your Voice by Senor Fingers.

 

[GloriouslyInsane]

Key is to speak loud AND deep AND slow.You'll know you're doing it right when someone tells you your voice has alot of "power",or when you say something trivial to a girl but notice her hanging from your every word.

 

[MuayThai]

Key is to speak loud AND deep AND slow.You'll know you're doing it right when someone tells you your voice has alot of "power",or when you say something trivial to a girl but notice her hanging from your every word.

Agree completely

 

[dirtyvibe]

not neccesarily deep, have you heard tyler durden, mystery and style? they sound like school girls. on the opposite end, hypnotica is deep and seductive. the key is calibrating it to your material (eg- for high energy stuff like the jealous girlfriend opener, use a td/mys/sty voice. when going direct, or trying to turn her on, go for more of a hypnotica voice) and PRONUNCIATION, be clearly understandable so she doesn't even have to think about what youre talking about

 

[BBX]

Naaa man only talk loud if it comes natural and usally it dosen't. I kno this kid who tries to talk loud and everyone calls him a fag. Point is, don't talk like a soft gay pvssy but dont be a loud obnouxis wanna be jerk.

 

[RabbitMan]

It is always great to read the thread of a very smart man, the voice is the key to getting the gorgeous babes, I speak as loud and as deep and as clear as I possibly can, I had to practise this alot but in time it has become easy for me to do it, I don't worry about trying to be ****y and funny, as I see that the tone of my voice is the key to success with the girls, nothing else really matters to me, :yes:

 

[GloriouslyInsane]

I think there's a big misconception about voice tone,many think that a deep,clear,loud voice is a confident voice..its not as simple as that.

A confident voice is loud,clear and deep but a loud,clear and deep voice does not nececcarily mean its a confident one.Theres another key characteristic,which is RELAXED.

 

[Docs]

A confident voice is loud,clear and deep but a loud,clear and deep voice does not nececcarily mean its a confident one.Theres another key characteristic,which is RELAXED.

And, you have to talk without doubt.

It's a instant failure if someone asks you a question, and all that you can come up with is "I don't know". NO decent salesman says that, at least they will say something like "name, I do not know of the exact answer, however here is some paper, write your number on it. I will come back to you with a answer."

Yes, part of it is a confident voice, but it also relies on not showing doubt in an answer. Never shotgun the answer unless you know it, or you will propose to follow it up.

 

[Duke]

Girls will believe anything if you say it confidently and congruently. I went out with a girl who was taking SPANISH and I pointed to the book "Don Quixoate" and I was like "Hey, Don Quix-Oat, thats a good book" (pronouncing it "Quicks-Oat") and she was like "Yeah, I liked it." Of course I laughed at her afterwards for not correcting me. :kick:

Yeah this is a good tip. If you talk loud most people will assume you're confident. Remember to have a fluctuating tonality.

Also, a good exercise to build rapport with your voice... I learned this by listening to how my natural friend talks and how I always found myself saying "yeah" and nodding my head and feeling really good in his presence. When you're talking to people, IMAGINE that you're saying "you know?" or "you feel me?" at the end of every sentence, but don't say it. Your facial expressions and voice tone will communicate it.

For example, "Yesterday I went out to x bar and it was so much fun [you feel me?]. I met this chick and we just clicked [you know?].

I find that if I do this, then my voice modulates itself in a way that gains compliance from people. And you don't look needy by saying "you know?" after everything.

 

[V-Don]

HA HA HA HA HA HA!!!!!!!!!!!! I hate loud people. The other night, I was with a dude that would not shut the hell up. We were both going after the same babe. What did do? I turned to her:

ME:
"Look at how insecure this guy is. He is sqauking like the hulk with a testicle amputation. Seriously, if he needs to do that in order to boost himself, its a cry for testosterone. Im sure when he shuts the hell up, hes a kind fellow that will not hesitate to bake you some cookies."

HER:
"HA HA HA HA! I agree."

Guess what happened? Dude, shut the hell up when he realized that stole his girl with a single line. I got the digits and something else.

Confidence is the key. Girls love a man that can show off talent and confidence. Anyone can be loud. Its how you do it. Just remember, if you act annoying there are guys that will turn that around on you. (like me) I never liked loud people and I am not afraid to show it.

Im not LOUD. I say what I need to say in a good and audible voice. If she has hearing problem, she can come a little closer. Be cool guys... Be cool...

 

[V-Don]

I wonder if anyone else thinks this is a good idea?

 

[V-Don]

I wonder if anyone else buys into this talk loud idea?

 

[Blusher]

Women tend to be more sensitive than us to the variation in tones. 9 times out of 10, talking loud, especially if you are trying hard will come over as aggression and will be a major turn off.

I tend to speak with a deep controlled voice when a addressing a target so you not yelling at her. If the only way you can get people to listen to what you saying is talking louder it probably means they're not interested in what you're saying to start with you're merely looking for attention.

On the other hand managing to speak in a confident and sensual tone instead of belting out sentences like a deaf heavy-metal singer will create a more intimate atmosphere and the girl will most likely mirror your voice and adopt a sensual tone on her own. That's the way to go if you want to pattern her for instance.

Having said that, one of the defining feature in most AFC is that they still talk like shy teenagers and can be downright inaudible. Only then should you make an effort to articulate more and project your voice enough to reach your listener ear. Communication will instantly get more dynamic and less one-sided, which can boost self-confidence.

 

[djbr]

PLEASE don't do this.

If you want to know why, next vacation buy a ticket to Brazil.

Seriously, it gets annoying real fast.

Confident people doesn't have to be screaming to be noticed.

 

[n00bPimp]

Nobody said anything about screaming. Talking loudly as in giving presence to your voice shows confidence. You dont have to open your mouth as wide as you possible, just give your voice more depth and dont talk like you're in church.

 

[SynapsyS]

HA HA HA HA HA HA!!!!!!!!!!!! I hate loud people. The other night, I was with a dude that would not shut the hell up. We were both going after the same babe. What did do? I turned to her:

ME:
"Look at how insecure this guy is. He is sqauking like the hulk with a testicle amputation. Seriously, if he needs to do that in order to boost himself, its a cry for testosterone. Im sure when he shuts the hell up, hes a kind fellow that will not hesitate to bake you some cookies."

HER:
"HA HA HA HA! I agree."

Guess what happened? Dude, shut the hell up when he realized that stole his girl with a single line. I got the digits and something else.

Confidence is the key. Girls love a man that can show off talent and confidence. Anyone can be loud. Its how you do it. Just remember, if you act annoying there are guys that will turn that around on you. (like me) I never liked loud people and I am not afraid to show it.

Im not LOUD. I say what I need to say in a good and audible voice. If she has hearing problem, she can come a little closer. Be cool guys... Be cool...

So what you're saying is, you got the girl by insulting those around you? I think a more positive approach, while it may not necessarily have worked better with this girl, may work better in the long run. Personally, I would have turned to him, and said "Listen, here's what you do, stop talking so much and so loudly. Now, I want you to, see that girl over there? I want you to go and try that on her, see how it goes " You win the girl you want, and you haven't crippled some poor guy because he doesn't have your skills.

Now, in terms of speaking louder, I disagree. Speak at your natural volume. Once you speak louder, your voice changes aspect. In some cases, it could, as Nonickname said, become bright and just not very attractive. Or you could come off as shouting. Just talk at your own comfortable level. And if you can't be heard, usher your target to somewhere a bit quieter.