Danger said:
BBbardot,
I know you're young, and many girls your age dream of finding that alpha Mr. Big prince charming who sweeps them off of their feet and declares his love. But you will find life does not work that way for the majority of women.
Instead, you will fight and claw your way for quite a few years to get pieces of the alphas that you want. At first you may be successful and getting their time for a little while, but you will grow angry and resentful as they chase other women too.
Finally, by the late 20's, you will realize (if you are smart) that your window of opportunity is closing. Then, to acheive the family you so desire, you must settle for a less exciting, not nearly so hot acceptable man, whom you will always project your alpha fantasy desires on, and while you will grow to love him, it will never measure to the flame you had for those guys in your 20's.
The irony is that this man will worship and cherish you. But that matters not one bit. You will continue to dream about that alpha man who gave you special nights for at least a short time in your life.
Ah, true love.
the thing is, i'm not a random skank and I have much more than my body. there is not such a thing as a window of opportunity closing at my late 20's
I've actually found my love.
that post sounds like a bitter post of guy that thinks he is "good enough but not great" and that thinks life just doesn't get better than this....
the thing is I never see what you talked about happening around me. My mother found her love at 35 and he is the brightest most handsome most successfull person i know. he is her dream man they love each other, they argue, they fix things, they love each other even more.
you can stick to that sad and pathetic version of life, and i stick to mine. I think i'm mature enough for my age, my brain is kind of set by now, and i know how things roll, I know how many men are, my bf is just like any other, but we are smart enough and we love each other enough to make things work for ages, it's my beleif, it's his.
When i stopped being in love with my alpha millionaire ex bf, guess what, i walked away. So don't expect me to settle for a guy i don't admire and love by the fear of being alone, in the foreseeable future^^.
I think you should start seeing life a bit brighter. Life is hard, keeping a hopefull sight of life and not beleiving in fatality is the only way to have it beautifull and happy.
your sight is pretty depressing, and might be true for many persons, but being right about that won't make you happy ( and by happy and beautifull i'm not saying it will be like that all the time. But when you will die and look back, you will be able to say youve known happiness without lying to yourself)
there is many things that you should know the sad truth about, cause it permits you to watch out for it and maybe prevent it from happening. But being aware that life might get horrible at some point doesn't fall into that category.
at the end of the day i'm 17 and deep in love with a wonderfull guy. And you hang out on ss looking for some light trying to convect your sadness to a young woman. I don't mean to say it's pathetic, but please don't try to put me down while being in that position... that's just foolish...