Epi,
Fair enough. I applaud your standpoint and efforts to that end. It's what any responsible husband and parent should do. I genuinely mean that.
My problem is you, sir, have this knack for swooping into threads and using some extreme case as validation for why single men should strive to be like you. Why single men shouldn't spin plates. You agreed with a poster earlier in this thread who called a controversial banned poster "beta." That poster was many things, and agree with him or not (I didn't always), but being beta was not something any realistic person would ever describe what he wrote. At all. But since being called "beta" here is akin to being called gay in Jr high, why not pile on, since you never agreed with him to begin with, eh?
Then, the OP, who has been through a bad experience recently and has, obviously and understandably, become gunshy makes a heartfelt post regarding being sensitive to people and you jump all over it as confirmation of why we have to be respectful blah blah. Of course we do. But failing to wear a condom doesn't mean that game is disrespectful. And it's bot confirmation that we shouldn't spin plates and every last one of us should strive to get married and have kids.
The thing is this....Someone reading this thread probably, and rightfully, would think I've been coming off half-****ed. But I've read your comments in this discussion through the prism of your previous posts. Specifically, a post of yours about a month ago where you pretty much said that anyone who spins plates, by virtue of simply playing the game, automaticly was of low morals and probably had illegitimate children they haven't taken responsibiliy for, etc.
Nothing personal, and I'm seriously not trying to be argumentative, but I have never seen something so patently offensive or absurd posted here. Ever. And it appeared to be a blatant attempt on the part of someone with an agenda contrary to what this site is about to undermine the word and spirit, fundementally, of what has always been taught here. Abd, in sorry, but I've been HIGHLY suspicious of anything you've posted since.
I can quote the post if you like. I'm on a phone so it's not that convenient.
Meanwhile, I live in the freaking south. You can't drive down the street without seeing some church organization billboard for marriage building. These pseudo science backed programs for why marriage is liberating for everyone blah blah. It's everwhere. They are just setting people up for tragedy in our modern age....probably because churches need revenue. It's the kind of thing they do on weekends for young people when they aren't trying to write creation theory textbooks. And I find it nauseating.... no church ever paid anyone's alimony or child support.
So, you see, it's not that I'm an a$$hole. It's not that I want to flame or sh1t up the boards. Its not that I dont respect what you posted above.
It's that I have gotten a lot from this site over 7 years here. I hope to get more. I hope to share more. And I hope others can do the same. It's that I've seen your posts in the past and I, frankly, just don't trust your motives for being here. Especially when what most of what you have to say is, frankly, very blue pill. I don't think we caught you on a bad day when you posted that. I think we caught you being completely and entirely honest about what you think of us and why you are here.
Again, nothing personal. That's just how I see it.
