It's amazing how a simple action such as committing oneself to avoid a website for a week can be the catalyst for a lot of self-discovery. I found a lot of interesting stuff, learn a lot about myself and set on a new path. Read ahead and you just might learn something to.
Day 1: Ok so I had given up sosuave but not the internet. Exhausted I came home with a little bit of time to spare and I went on the ol' net as usual. Seeing as I couldn't come here I thought it would be a good opportunity to explore other PUA communities. I searched for inner game because that was what I have been working on. I found some good stuff by Tyler Durden and his crew. Like this article about how
what's fun is mostly just what your addicted to. Somehow fitting, don't you think?
So right from the start I had removed a 'bad habit' and simply replaced it with something else similar. It got worse to. I went back to a forum I used to frequent all the time. Why? To check my connections with the people there. Like I was filling this 'hole' that I had created for myself. Yeah I knew I would doing it, and could have stopped, but gave in because I found it interesting what I was drawn to.
Ok I wont go in the rest by days as I'm unsure what happened when but I will just tell the story. I got myself a copy of The Game by Neil Strauss and am halfway through. It's a great read, even just for entertainment. It is an eye opening account of what all the PUA gurus are really like. It raises a lot of questions and issues but also a lot of curiosity. To be honest I didn't know a lot about Mystery before. I knew all the terms and the tactics but I learnt them all here, not knowing they were created by Mystery. Definitely seems like the real deal, but it seems fake, like an act. Still, I want to try some of this stuff now. Seems a bit out of place for high school, especially in a small town where I live. But I look forward to rip it up when I graduate and move.
In my social life I began to realize a few things. Recently I thought I was happy with my social life how it was. I was content, thinking I was popular and well liked. Now I'm not so content. At the latest party I realized my conversation skills need work, I perhaps don't know as many people as I thought and I'm not such a mean pimp when I'm stone sober. So around here you’ll probably see me giving advice less, and asking for it more. Kind of like how Neil Strauss was teaching a seminar but still considered himself a student (if you've read the game). From now on I'm going to introduce myself to every motherfcker I don't know like I did when I first hit the scene. All girls are fair game and I will go about seduction more artfully and structured than I did before, focusing on improve actual techniques. I will still have fun, but now I will have fun and improve as well. I want to be more likeable, more alpha, more outgoing.
Well there you go. I found The Game, which led me to material by mystery and juggler, which led to a whole lot of thinking and change. It's easy to forget there’s a whole world out there, not just sosuave.
Anyway as to these guys:
I dont think simply not using the internet for a week is going to suddenly change your life (sry lol). Everyone today spends a lot of time on the internet, so your definitely not the only one that could call themselves a "keyboard jockey"
Just because everyone is doing it doesn't make it the right thing or the best thing. Using the internet a lot because 'everyone is doing it' is a poor excuse. It is the no. 1 source of procrastination in my life, it is good for some things but takes up too much of my time. I have acknowledged this and plan to address this.
i agree with rockman, instead of cutting out for a week try to do something more gradual that would be more effective long term.
it'll be hard, but every day try to use the computer 10 minutes less than you want to (not counting homework, studying, etc)
decide whats a good amount to spend on the internet a day in your schedule and start cutting down to it
good luck, makes me want to cut down some too
Perhaps it might work for some people, but I know myself. All the time I tell myself "I'll just go on for a little while" and end up online all day. Setting goals and meeting them is a good feeling, even if it is just a little (or big) fast. That's why I'm going to cut it out for a week, it will be an experience if anything. If I don't go on there I can't get sidetracked and seduced by it into spending more time on it that I should. It is just a habit. I have tried cutting down loosely but it didn't work to well. I think it would work with enough dedication though. Whatever works.
I learn how much of a crutch it is though. Posting on this forums makes us feel like we are good with women, without actually doing anything. We can read material and discuss theories without actually having to go out in the real world and face rejection. We can falsely believe that we are DJs when in fact we just simply can't bare act against our self-image that we aren't good with women because it is too painful.
Yea i thought about it some more and im defenetly doing it.
Ill be back on in one week.
Haha, yes, one person did it. Look forward to hearing back from you.
