Sometimes it's not you! Its your status..

[freshprince]

What i mean by my title is some people or maybe most people may think the reason they get rejected is because something they did wrong, an act they did that led to them being rejected. Well from my past experiences i began to realize that its not you that is the problem but your current status. What i mean is the category your in.
In my case, i am a marketing student at a university. I do not work, i live with my parents, i have no source of revenue except for allowance every month, i don't have a car, I'm not rich.
Eventually a girl who i encounter and who i may want to engage in a relationship with will eventually find out these things, increasing my chances of being rejected. Not because of ME but because of my rank.
I'm may not be the kind of person she wants with certain credentials she would need. I may be a nice, good looking, smart or whatever but i still get rejected. Your game could be 60% or more but you may still get rejected after a time, no matter how many sweet words you amalgamate and put in her head.

That's the harsh truth. Guys who may have all those things or a few of what i just mentioned above have a better chance of getting lucky that you do. He could be ugly, fat, it does not matter. That's the way women think...
I tend to think women think short term and not long term. (if you get what i mean here) She may say to herself what can this guy give me, what can i get out of him besides love or whatever...

Sure you might find a girl that might overlook those things but the chances are pretty slim and you'll have to be lucky. At my university the guys with the cars or money usually always get's the girls while the smart guys spend their time shaking dice.

This is not just observation but a 22 year told woman i was hustling but eventually became my friend sat me down and told me this for my own good, simple and straight. Of course i had already knew this but the she telling me confirmed my belief.

This varies on whether your in high school or college

Anyways that's all. Like the post or don't like it, I don't care. If you already knew this before or someone post something similar then i still don't care. It's just i see so many post here with guys saying they got rejected for this reason and that, i just decided to post this so whatever...

I know my post may not be well structured because i suck at English but hopefully you still get the point

 

[PapiChulo]

Yes. Thank you very much. +1 rep. When I was in uni I had both money and cars, the problem was is that I worked and basically earned everything myself as opposed to the upper middle class kids who didn't work, partied on weekends and went in vacations with their cool posse every break, while their privileged old folks paid for their school.

 

[thinkinblue613]

No doubt about it man. This whole getting laid business is about how "valuable" you are in her eyes. Whether it is short term and/or long term.

In case you haven't noticed, whenever you interact with a new girl/woman.. One of the first few things she will evaluate is your looks and how you present yourself to the world. If that passes her standards, she will then ask about whether you're working, going to school or what's going on in your life. Of course, if you don't present yourself to the fullest truth, they will sniff out the act.

If you're working, she will want to know what kind of job you have. If so, is it a career or a part time type of work while at school. Ever since she was little, she had been brainwashed to believe in Prince Charming to save the day. He may be a gentleman, a nice guy, but the subliminal message given to these Princesses when they're young is to go after the gold. She will want to know what your aspirations are, goals in life and gauge where your head is going.

If you're in HS, it depends what group you're in and reputation. That is a no brainer. Also, girls are real immature in this age group. So don't expect a lot of girls who are down to Earth and chill. If you do, that is quite rare. Even then, don't get attached. A lot of the hot ones will go to college, join a sorority and date the frat guys who have it made. This brings us to our next topic..

If you're in college, she will ask about your major. She will want to know what potential career you can provide. What can she brag about with her parents and friends? She is smart enough to know which careers have the highest salaries or potential.

Also, from what I've noticed in my experiences.. Chicks get more impressed to hear which school you're attending. If it is some no-name school or community college, you're SOL. Your value drops immediately. Even though going there may be the cheaper or more logical way to go about your life, she will not see you as valuable as someone from let's say, USC or Stanford.

So yes, you are right about value. She will look at your clothes, shoes, hairstyle, nails, teeth, eyes, skin, breath, goals, habits, attitude, humor, personality, car, friends and family. Us men are judged by everything and anything possible. All she needs is one of those to be a 'no-no' and you're out. Just one little, excuse to move on to the next one to bag. Like a sack of rotten potatoes, you are tossed into the bin.

For us, we are simple creatures. We evaluate women with what I like to call the 4 B's. Booty, Boobs, Beauty and Baggage. But even when we do find a girl who messes up in one of those categories, we tend to find reasons to stick with her...

The worst 'B' we tend to ignore seems to be the BAGGAGE. The others are more of her looks, so they vary and can be compensated. (Like if she has no Booty, but a nice rack, we will stay.) Anyways, back to baggage. Whether she has kids, disorders or a drug history, we usually give them a 2nd chance. It is a lot more difficult for us to say no. After all, when we finally find one who sticks around for a little while longer than usual, we fall for them.

Long story short.. Women will look for value in everything about you, inside and out.

Men find more value on what's on the outside. This is TRUE. You only talked to her, looked at her, thought about her, dreamed about her, because you wanted to get in bed with her. That is it.

That is why when these chicks, who played the game really well in their 20's finally settle down for the nice, rich guy who was the nerd in the library working his ass off and not getting laid in their 30's.

A wise man once told me, "the better the grades you get in school, the better the quality of women you'll choose from when you're older." He also told me, "Never buy... Always lease." (Metaphor for women being cars).

Good luck guys. Hope I didn't bore you. Holy ****! I posted a long one.

 

[SamTheHobit]

Im curious, what happend to the mentality that you should qualify her?

 

[freshprince]

@ Thinking blue
Very nice post dude. I agree with it all the way.

Women say how its hard being a woman, i say its hard being a guy also.

Some may look and judge a guy based on marital look. Is this the kind of kind of guy i want to marry in a few years, those kinds of things.
some are fast girls or what most guys call "shine eye" They like flashy, expensive stuff that they parents won't buy for them or can't buy for themselves so they lean to you because you may have that and want what you have.
Some might see a guy with a lot of potential to be someone great in the future but they won't take that guy. He may not have a lot now but he will in the end because of his ambitions. They would rather wait until you actually become that guy to get interested.

The clingy type girls are always the best guys. I once stayed with a girl simply because she liked me back, she was the clingy type. She liked me a lot and liked to be around me and thought i was the best thing out.
Sometimes its not who you like but who likes you and whether or not you should give that person a shot.
I'm not trying to degrade women, I'm just being a realist

 

[r0cky]

Logically, that makes a lot of sense. But I've seen way too many "high status" girls maintaining deadbeat bf's too many times.
If you have a logical relationship with her, of course she's not going to be attracted to you, she's going to see the relationship from a logical point of view, and she will rationalize all the reasons why she shouldn't be with you. Which won't only involve status, but physical appearance, popularity, and other shallow bs.

The beauty about attraction is that it causes chicks to rationalize reasons why they SHOULD be with you. This is why this website was invented. Read the DJ Bible please.