Sometimes it's better when things DON'T line up (rant)

[sangheilios]

You'll see all sorts of posts on this forum, as well as others pertaining to the dating world, about a man complaining that he didn't get a 2nd date, got rejected, etc. You'll see crap like where a guy gets a number but doesn't get a response or have a date come from it. The mental gymnastic games begin about how it was because he double texted or how he didn't wait 3 days before reaching out. Maybe it was because he didn't kiss her on the first date, or maybe it's because he was boring. Maybe this, maybe that......we all know the drill. The trend is that it's always the man's fault and that he should chastise himself over mistakes that may or may not have even been made.

However, at the end of the day this makes it seem like when things don't align it's always your fault and that it's ALWAYS a loss. Maybe the girl you've been talking to or gone on a couple dates with could have been nothing but a nightmare, and the universe or god or whatever you want to call it saved your punk ass? Maybe the girl you've taken on a couple dates that later lost interest had herpes? Maybe the girl you've been talking to that you met at the grocery store has a crazy ex bf that ended up hospitalizing the guy that ended up taking her out on a date that same week you met her? Maybe the girl is literally bat**** crazy and would boil your pet cat alive? Maybe the girl is just some phony bimbo who just uses men for attention, free dates, etc.? Maybe the girl that you've gone on a few dates with, who otherwise appears normal, has a drug problem?

Sometimes it's best when things don't align in your favor. I'd wager that EVERYONE who posts on this forum or reading this has crossed paths with females like this, they just often times weren't even aware of it. I'm noticing that many women of the "Gen Z" cohort have hidden issues that would be very problematic to deal with, especially behavioral issues and problems associated with drugs/self medicating.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

She rejected you, didn't she? It's okay, probably not your fault.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Aesop.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Aesop.

The tortoise and hare?
The fox and the grape?
Or maybe The lion and the mouse?

 

[sangheilios]

Aesop.

Aesop - Wikipedia ?

 

[corrector]

That is just cope.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Aesop - Wikipedia ?

If you like fables.

 

[Gamisch]

You'll see all sorts of posts on this forum, as well as others pertaining to the dating world, about a man complaining that he didn't get a 2nd date, got rejected, etc. You'll see crap like where a guy gets a number but doesn't get a response or have a date come from it. The mental gymnastic games begin about how it was because he double texted or how he didn't wait 3 days before reaching out. Maybe it was because he didn't kiss her on the first date, or maybe it's because he was boring. Maybe this, maybe that......we all know the drill. The trend is that it's always the man's fault and that he should chastise himself over mistakes that may or may not have even been made.

However, at the end of the day this makes it seem like when things don't align it's always your fault and that it's ALWAYS a loss. Maybe the girl you've been talking to or gone on a couple dates with could have been nothing but a nightmare, and the universe or god or whatever you want to call it saved your punk ass? Maybe the girl you've taken on a couple dates that later lost interest had herpes? Maybe the girl you've been talking to that you met at the grocery store has a crazy ex bf that ended up hospitalizing the guy that ended up taking her out on a date that same week you met her? Maybe the girl is literally bat**** crazy and would boil your pet cat alive? Maybe the girl is just some phony bimbo who just uses men for attention, free dates, etc.? Maybe the girl that you've gone on a few dates with, who otherwise appears normal, has a drug problem?

Sometimes it's best when things don't align in your favor. I'd wager that EVERYONE who posts on this forum or reading this has crossed paths with females like this, they just often times weren't even aware of it. I'm noticing that many women of the "Gen Z" cohort have hidden issues that would be very problematic to deal with, especially behavioral issues and problems associated with drugs/self medicating.

That's the game. We want the box, so the box becomes valuable. No way around it.

Thus results will indeed be dependent upon details. Basically as soon as you show cracks in your frame, your results will get worse.

No two women are the same. Heck, on the same day one woman can respond differently to the exact same thing. Each man individually will notice the latter and adjust his tactics accordingly. Remember;

Women aren't fun. Or happy. Most are cranky 24,7, and due to an abundance of men, d1ck is disposable. You gotta find a way to deal with this.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Women have assumed far too much power within dating

Even 30 years ago they weren't able too dictate terms they way they are today , 50 years ago a woman wouldn't dare ghost a man or flake on a date with a man

All modern phenomenons ushered in by social media , swipe apps and male thirst

Women now mostly play they game on their own terms which they have stacked in their own favour

Men around the world seem to have just accepted it which is why forums and social media is awash with content around " how to win her over " , " what to do if she ghosts you" oh god the state of it

So look you either withdraw from dating all together or establish your own terms / rules with a strong enough frame to support them

You drop any woman who starts trying to gain advantage with these silly playground tactics

 

[Scaramouche]

The tortoise and hare?
The fox and the grape?
Or maybe The lion and the mouse?

Hi Pierce,
Or to cue on Amsterdam,belling the Cat?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

All modern phenomenons ushered in by social media , swipe apps and male thirst
....establish your own terms / rules with a strong enough frame to support them
You drop any woman who starts trying to gain advantage with these silly playground tactics

Indeed.
This is why the more experienced / older members of this forum have (on average) more success with having women on their terms, because they have established their 'frame' before the onslaught of social media.
If men abandon dating apps and social media and only the wimps and simps stay there, women will start bemoaning the absence of real men (as they are doing on FDS) and they will also abandon the dating apps, leaving only the attention wh0res there to fight for the validation of incels.

 

[SW15]

Women have assumed far too much power within dating

Even 30 years ago they weren't able too dictate terms they way they are today , 50 years ago a woman wouldn't dare ghost a man or flake on a date with a man

This is very true. Male thirst has increased women's power.