Something interesting happened to me last night !

[yoyoing]

I had an interesting night out with long term girlfriend last night. A little backstory . We have been dating for 3 years and it's been up and down mostly on my part from being unsure about the whole relationship at some point since we have very different character.

Anyways to make a long story short there is this coworker of hers ( you could say some kind of a boss ) who I never really liked. Get a weird vibe from the guy always high fiving my girlfriend and wanting to go for drinks on Fridays with her and other co worker ( he has a girlfriend but she is never there ) .
I mostly never go out with them because I trust my girlfriend and I mostly want to take it easy on Friday night. They don't go out every Friday but maybe once twice a month.

Last night she went for food and then told me they were going to a gay bar for dancing her and co workers. Of course it was just my girlfriend another girl from work and him and his gay friend. I decided to tag along this time because I didn't really trust that whole situation and figured it's good to show my face once in a while and there is something really sleezy about that guy . I am not a really jealous guy in general but I have to tell you I was a little suspicious about that whole thing. I would even be ok to have an open thing if it was agreed upon.

Anyways we first go to his place to have drinks and everything is ok . We then go to the club and and have fun and dance.
We have very intimate moment me and my girlfriend and it feels nice to be out together dancing and stuff. Then after a while I go to the bathroom and when I come back he is on her back dancing with her you know bump and grind. They are not really bump and grinding but you get the picture gentle touching etc. My girlfriend immediately sees my face and immediatly stops and come towards me. I then tell her wtf are you doing. I then say let's get the **** out of here before I start fighting the guy. She immediately follows me.

Now I told my girlfriend this was really disrespectful and innapropriate. She swears she love me and that it was just playful ... bla-bla-bla .

I basically tell her that I am done with that bull**** and that I blamed her has much has the guy.

Are you guys with me on this or I grossly over reacted. The balls on this guy to think it's ok to dance with my girlfriend while I am gone to the bathroom and I barely know him ...

Anyways just needed to vent . Now it's weird has **** since she work with him everyday and I am the jealous boyfriend who stormed out of a night out .

Sry for bad English not first language.
What's your tough on this . The only thing I really regret is not telling him right to his face that he shouldn't touch dance or try anything on my gf . Anyways just needed to vent a little . I don't know if this relationship has a chance after what happened tonight .

 

[TheGambino]

Good job

 

[RichardTheFrog]

I guess you handled it right, but unless you have someone to replace her with, then it didn't improve your life any

 

[sosousage]

but did he touch her ass? if not, then they were just dancing?

 

[El Payaso]

Nothing wrong with setting a boundary.

 

[yoyoing]

To reply to sosouage . I came out of the bathroom and I see that little prick behind my girlfriend and they are dancing ass to **** lol . I didn't really take the time to notice in detail everything and I know they were not full contact ( or any contact at all ) but I felt it was really innapropriate i would never dance like that with anyone's girlfriend especially if they where around.
Just so you know I blame her has much has him for putting me in that weird situation .

Imagine if I was not there . His gf is out of the country suddenly he wants to go dancing and they had a big diner last night until 11pm with other co worker.
I also know that he is always there when they finish late at work and he wants to go out all the time I see this guy coming a million milles away. Honestly it's fine but that little dancing move was off limit .

 

[logicallefty]

I don’t think you did anything wrong. If anything you might have been a little bit too lenient on her but probably not. I had this happen before. A tiny bit different as my girlfriend and I at the time had only been together 4-5 months. At first I just sat and watched her dance with another guy, and she didn’t seem to care. Then I started texting another woman I liked and wanted because I was bored. Finally I just got up and left. No goodbye. Just left her there. I dumped her not long after. Then I hooked up with the other woman. My gf dancing with the guy just gave me the excuse that I was looking for to make the change. She knew it was wrong. She was just sh!t testing me and it didn’t work so well for her. No regrets

 

[jaymbrs]

She's cheating on you with him. I've been in her coworker's shoes before. Whenever he walks off, it would be fun to get up on his girl (who I'm banging). When he comes back, I'll play it off like nothing. Why else would she have let him get on her and then all of a sudden stopped when she saw you? If it was innocent fun, she would've kept dancing.

 

[yoyoing]

Yeah I can almost guarantee she is not cheating with him but I have seen weirder things happen in my life . She is very loyal and the tough of having open relationship or other people in our sex life does not jibe well with her .
To be fair she stopped when she saw the look on my face lol .

But that's what he is trying to do ... I just can't believe he tough he could get away with it right in my face. Buying her drinks , constant stream of high five ....

Now it's weird has **** because she work with him every day he is like his ''best friend '' from work .

Anyways that was a weird night. I can't believe the ball on some people.

Has for the girlfriend we will see I was already thinking about ending things from time to time .

Last night she said she would fight for us and that I should trust her a 100 % ...
but has we have all learned actions speaks louder then words .

 

[jaymbrs]

Yeah I can almost guarantee she is not cheating with him but I have seen weirder things happen in my life . She is very loyal and the tough of having open relationship or other people in our sex life does not jibe well with her .
To be fair she stopped when she saw the look on my face lol .

But that's what he is trying to do ... I just can't believe he tough he could get away with it right in my face. Buying her drinks , constant stream of high five ....

Now it's weird has **** because she work with him every day he is like his ''best friend '' from work .

Anyways that was a weird night. I can't believe the ball on some people.

Has for the girlfriend we will see I was already thinking about ending things from time to time .

Last night she said she would fight for us and that I should trust her a 100 % ...
but has we have all learned actions speaks louder then words .

I hope you're right. Just giving me 2 cents as I was that other guy fairly often.

 

[yoyoing]

I understand where you are coming from with all this but it couldn't be farther from the truth .

I would love an open relationship I am the one who brought it on multiple occasion i would even be open to let her have a go at it first and go with that guy from work if she want to.

To only thing that bothered me about this situation was the disrespect shown in the situation. And your right the only thing I regret is not have told anything to the guy but might been better off after a day of cooling off.

If there is anything in this relationship it was always that she cared more then me about the whole thing . Honestly I am a bit on the fence with this one I would love my freedom and experiencing but I also care about her and she's a good person. She was also very surprise about my reaction and did not know how to feel because it's showed I cared about her.

Btw they were not like grinding or anything but enough for me to be pretty pissed... now she swear she would not have gone out if I was not going and that I should trust her she would never go over the line with anyone etc .

But don't worry I am not one of those guys that is kidding himself and being controlled in the relationship . Been there done that ...