Not a topic about picking up women, however I’m really curious about this.
Anytime I’m out with a woman whether she’s attractive or mediocre, women will
stare at the woman im with with almost evil eyes. And if they glance at me their eyes will soften.
We could be in a restaurant, bar, walk, you name it. Other women just stare at her, in not a nice way; like hollow judgmental way.
What is the meaning of this and what’s going on?
@BeExcellent @AJ84
Here's my two cents. It has everything to do with the man in question. If the man is seen as desirable then other women want to know in essence "
Why HER and not ME" or "
Why is he with HER???" or "
What's she got that is so special"...and this manifests itself in all sorts of ways including what you noted
@flowtheory about how other women look at your gf with daggers in their eyes and their eyes soften when they look at you. If you are perceived as a player or a playboy this enhances the effect.
And in my experience this gets worse, not better over time...because if you continue to be seen out and about with the same woman, then eventually it becomes fairly obvious that it is more than just sex going on. That in turn begs the question (again it's worse if you are perceived as a player) "
What's so special about HER?" and it bugs women who may have designs on the man.
The woman can be the most graceful, modest, polite, beautiful woman around, and there are other women who will behave in a hateful manner. It's got everything to do with your desirability factor as a man and also with who the hater women are and very little to do with your girlfriend. Obviously you chose your girlfriend for a variety of reasons, and some of those reasons are not observable at a glance.
But at the end of the day its a competition thing. Women do it subconsciously as well as consciously. I've been dating someone for 9+ months now. Women are shameless in throwing themselves at my bf. Sometimes it makes him uncomfortable and a couple of times we have left venues at his prompting because of the vapid women looking him over, dissing me, and/or pawing at him. And he's not the only man I know who deals with this sort of behavior.
Now he's also naturally flirty and gregarious, which is fine to a point, but you add that to the aggressive nature of women who have an agenda and it can be somewhat annoying. And it goes on everywhere as you allude to. It happens while grocery shopping, while out on the town, while going for a walk, its ridiculous...but it speaks to a subconscious desirability factor that the man projects going about his day.
Some of the things that women have said to me and have said to him are unreal. And then he'll tell me what the women say, we compare notes at times and so on. Early on I thought this was dread game. Having seen it for myself it looks more like objectification and agenda talking. And that is where it gets tiresome for my bf. When you get the sense that you are seen as an object, even if its a trophy object, that is dehumanizing.
But I've seen this almost without exception when I'm dating a high value man. It's part of the landscape, can be annoying, but can be handled gracefully. And men REALLY appreciate a woman who can handle things gracefully. It's also been my experience that high self esteem women don't tend to behave this way. It's the women who are jealous and neurotic and lower value or lower self esteem that behave in this manner. But of course that is the majority of women.
