Someone please help me understand this, because I don't.

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My best friend is about to have a nervous breakdown and I feel so bad for him that I really don't know what to do.

Last summer he started going out with a girl. He was madly in love with her and she seemed to like him a lot too, however she was a bit suspicious of him.

She said that he seemed like a good guy, but that she had been cheated on and lied to way too many times and that it was difficult for her to truly trust him after what she had lived through with other guys. Basically, she was saying that some guys in the past had broken her heart because she fell in love with them and then realized that they just wanted her for sex then dumped her when they had enough or had found another girl. She wanted a guy who could love her for who she was, a guy who could be there for her and care honestly about her for unselfish reasons.

So, basically, the girl told my friend that if he wanted to be her boyfriend he had to prove to her that he really loved her for who she is. Simple: no sex for six months. That was the rule. She said that they wouldn't have sex unless they could date regularly and get along well for six months.

My friend, who was madly in love with her, didn't even think twice before accepting.

So they started going out, and it seemed as though they were pretty happy together, except for the fact that they weren't having sex. The girl's father died during the summer and my friend didn't leave her side for one second to help her through it.

So, now is the fifth month, and suddenly the girl wants to dump him. Basically, she says that she has nothing against him, but that she doesn't feel quite ready to get into a relationship at that point in her life, and that she needed time by herself.

Worse, after having spent thousands of dollars on that girl in dinners, presents, etc., my friend now finds out that she had been sleeping around more often than a street ***** :down:

Now he can't help but look behind him to make sure that the entire world isn't laughing at his misfortune. I'm the only one he can talk to because we've been friends since like first grade.

Anyway, I want to ask you guys... what can I tell my friend? Also, how can I make sure that I never get caught in something like this? I can't even begin to understand how humiliating and painful it must be to have dedicated yourself to a girl for 5 months without getting anything in return then finding out that she had been sleeping around with pretty much anyone she felt like, guys who probably wouldn't even have given her the time of the day on most nights.

I've always been very polite and generous, not only to girls but basically to everyone I've ever known. Is this kind of situation really what society gives generous people as a reward for their actions? Would you see this as just an isolated incident or is it, in your experience, commonplace for a girl to play with a guy's emotions like that?

I'm impatiently waiting for your answers, and honestly I think that I'm about to lose faith in humanity.
 

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I don't know what you could tell him. but in my experience this is the way most women operate. They're duplicitios and can't tell the truth, and most importantly they'll walk all over a guy if he's nice to them... "No good deed goes unpunished".

Everyone on here realizes this except maybe frivilous and wyldfire. Even if your story was trolling, no matter this stuff happens a lot. Just tell your friend many, many girls do this to many guys, and you can't give into women's demands, that's the reward you get when you do.
 

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In my AFC days I used to fall into the same no sex dating scheme offered by some women until I realized it was all a scam.

No sane and healthy woman will date a guy without sex unless she is getting it from someone else.

That is why I adopted the three strikes your out policy. No sex by the third date, fourth tops, she is out the door. This weeds out the users and losers.
 

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I hate comments that state that all of a certain group behave in a specific manner. You attract what you put out into the world. If your expecting women to be ho's, who cheat and lie, that is what you will get. Us vs Them mentality isn't a very good mindset.

He got ****ed over because of his actions. Set your rules and live by them. No need for all the hate that guys have for women.
 

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Tell him to come here and listen to Tom Leykis from 3 - 8pm


Good thing I wasn't him cause I would of fvcked that ***** up bad and wish she never was born.
 

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The following will be cold. It will be cruel. It will be heartless.

But it will be factual.

Your friend's girlfriend laid a test on him and he flunked it. Period. The old "prove yourself to me" stunt has been played on me before, except sex wasn't the object of the game that time.

Before I even got halfway through your post, I already knew that you were going to say he got dumped. Why? By accepting her "no sex for six months" challenge, he was immediately moved into the Friend Zone. That's the way it is.

The proper response(s) would have been to tell her that....

1. "I'm not 'every other guy' and I refuse to pay for their sins. Screw that and screw YOU."

2. "Look, either you want to be with me or not. I won't play any games like this with anyone."

3. "Okay, if you're tired of having sex with me, I'll move on to someone else. Next!"

It sucks, but that's how women operate. I'll also bet that he displayed some form of AFC behavior that led her to pull this on him. What she was really doing when she dropped the "test" on him was dumping him. It just didn't appear that way on the surface. This allowed her to hang on to him as a friend while she found someone else.
 

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I don't know what you could tell him. but in my experience this is the way most women operate. They're duplicitios and can't tell the truth, and most importantly they'll walk all over a guy if he's nice to them... "No good deed goes unpunished".

HELLO, HE IS A FYCKNG IDIOT.

THIS IS 100 PERCENT HIS FAULT....100 PERCENT.


GOOD DEED? YOUR THE ONE WHO NEEEDS TO OPEN THERE EYES!


he stays with a girl who says no sex..becuase I was a ***** AND fycked my x bfs in a week.






Everyone on here realizes this except maybe frivilous and wyldfire. Even if your story was trolling, no matter this stuff happens a lot. Just tell your friend many, many girls do this to many guys, and you can't give into women's demands, that's the reward you get when you do.

cant see what?

That I choose to date the most genuine women I can find?????



Just tell your friend many, many girls do this to many guys

yea guys who dont know any better.
 

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The replys here BLANTENTLY show..

so many guys go out...TURN A BLIND EYE to the SITUATION...get F'ED over.


come here and say women are evil.


well shyt..the guy dates a girl who says no sex for 6 months to prove yourself....but I used to ***** it out?


COME ON
 

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the best thing you can tell your friend is to come and
visit this website.

he will learn more visiting this website once than you counseling
him for months. convince him to come here.


convince him for the love of god,
his AFC soul needs to be saved.
 

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Originally posted by librito
the best thing you can tell your friend is to come and
visit this website.

he will learn more visiting this website once than you counseling
him for months. convince him to come here.


convince him for the love of god,
his AFC soul needs to be saved.
True
 

ketostix

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Just because some naive, love-blinded guy let a girl trick him and screw him over, doesn't jusitfy her actions. My point was that most women do stuff like this and look for an AFC victim that will let them get away with it. Never said all women are evil, some of them are, but just about all of them are crazy...
 
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