Someone Please help me, really EMBARASSING situation:(

[CantGetADate]

Ok so I went out with this girl and we are about to have sex and I lose my erection, totally. I try and try and I can't get it back up....I don't know what's going on, very scary. I had only slept 4 hours the night before, if that, so maybe that could be it? I was also hungry, and somewhat tired because of the lack of sleep. Also I haven't had sex in 4-5 years so maybe I was nervous? I apologize to her and all that and she seems totally cool about the whole thing, and she wants to see me again tonight. Now I'm worried it's gonna happen again. Now if I don't see her I feel like I "failed" and I'm giving up cause I couldn't get it up, not the best feeling. I like her, I want to see her, I'm just worried it will happen again. Anyone got any tips, anything at all, this really blows I feel like such a loser I can't believe this.

 

[TTAG]

NEVER SAY SORRY!

GO GET VIAGRA, Any doctor will give you a prescription. get your pen1s hard and fvck that girl like there is no tomorrow!

 

[CantGetADate]

LOL wow never say sorry, hardcore heh.

Viagra? Hmm I don't have time to go to a doctor today, she wants to go out TONIGHT, so nervous now. Is there anything I can buy at the store that will make me hard for sure and screw like a rabbit all night long?

 

[TTAG]

only the little blue pill does it, tried and tested! gives you a bloody headache, but its well worth it!

otherwise, lick her out, go into a 69 til you get hard and then screw her!

 

[CantGetADate]

Ohh 69 didn't even cross my mind, good idea. I was gonna eat her out but didn't. Can't you catch std's from that? Like could you get AIDS from doing that? I will tonight I guess if you can't. I guess I'm gonna go for it and try again, it's like I have no choice but to try again, my manhood is on the line here, I cannot fail.

 

[TTAG]

one big tip....dont think about satisfying her, just enjoy the moment, no pressure, no worry, just fun!

i think you can get STDs from oral sex but it is rare, has she slept with _____ guys before hand? if only a handful, just ask! dont insult, make it C+F.

 

[CantGetADate]

Ya few I think, only a handful, she's like 19 and lost her virginity at 18 she says.

What does C+F mean?

And yea I need to try and relax, I'm sooo nervous though.

Know what else sucks, I'm the first guy that this has happened with for her, really blows. She seemed really cool about the whole thing and wants to try again etc so that's kind of surprising.

 

[Big Pappy]

There are a lot of good reasons that you weren't able to perform.
Fatigue, hunger, nervousness all are factors. It happened to me one time and it really freaked me out. Just be glad she was cool with it!

I promise you, a vitamin supplement will do you a world of good. Particularly, Vitamin E. Vitamin E increases circulation of blood, which you should know, has a lot to do with getting an erection.

Best bet: get some rest, have a nice dinner - Oysters might be a good choice. Keep the alcohol consumption down to a minimum, and most important - don't think about it!

 

[drixsa]

ok i can tell you what to do but u will not enjoy the sex:

1. (easiest) jack off before the date

you will be able to get it hard later on but you will literally be a human dildo

2. have her give u a bj before sex. similar effects to option #1 but less drastic(sp?) and you will have more feeling

3. if u do not go with 1 or 2 buy a regular condom

4. if you go with 2 or 3 buy a condom with extra sensation

5. only do 1 or 2, NOT BOTH

6. buy a extra sensation condom but during sex change your rythem and movements, if u are coming pre maturely, id have to assume that you arent quite the demon in the sac yet, so this may not be your best option

7. if this continues and u only jack off 1 a week or so, make it 2-3 a week

8. if u dont want to go with option 7 and have a girl that is patient and will help you, just keep ****ing her until u get your sh!t together**


** 8 is usually best applied with a f-buddy that really likes you and is patient

hope that helps

 

[CantGetADate]

Originally posted by Big Pappy
and most important - don't think about it!

Ya I know, this is what I gotta try and do, it's hard though. Especially considering I wasn't thinking about it last night and well it didn't go so well. Good to know that fatigue and hunger played a role cause I was definitely both. I was also nervous of course, really nervous. God I hope this goes well tonight, I will defnitiely post here and let you guys know what happened, hopefully it goes well and we have great sex.

 

[chlywly]

Dude, relax; there could be a million reasons... Don't be a chic, don't begin to cry and lose your composure...

If anything this website should be teaching you is; REMAIN CALM!! USE COMMON SENSE, AND BE A MAN!!. YOU ARE IN CONTROL REMEMBER??

Now with that said; consult a doctor if you're so stressed about it.

If it happens again; it's not the end of the world... besies the chic is bound to think its her fault for not being attractive enough or for not turning you on.

You're stressing, lack of sleep bad diet, all these things account for it.


Just relax and have a good time, or ill beak your knee caps.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Only errection issues I have is that I have them too often... I can get them whenever I want and I get them all the time when I don't want to either :|

Btw jerking of before a date is good because you stress down and a sedative is released into your body so you feel relaxed... Another thing is that for many it makes them last longer under sex if they've wanked of a bit earlier.

 

[awake]

Another tip: change your user name!

You already have a date, don't you?

If you want to keep them coming stop with the self fulfilling prophecy that your user name implies.

 

[NewMan]

It's happened to me before.

I can attribute it to several things in my case.

1) Drunk to much
2) was not turned on by the women

Now my belief is that your problem occured because you had perfomance anxiety (sp). You don't need viagra - your not even 20 yet.

I don't think it's attributed to anything your not doing - it's just in your mind. Your probably concerned with the performance more than anything else.

But, let me suggest something to add to your diet.

Zinc - helps maintain erections.

Blueberries - there's a chemical in Blueberries that enables men to maintain a strong errection - I recomend everyone eat these.

Brazil nuts - there's also a chemical here that helps maintain healthy sperm.



1) To answer other questions. It's possible to catch AIDS from oral sex should you have an open wound in your mouth.

2) it is very easy to catch an STD (e.g. HERPES) from oral sex. Should the woman have an outbreak at that time or is shedding.

Educate and read up on both AIDS and STD's BEFORE YOU HAVE SEX WITH ANYONE.

If you don't know how you catch these things - then in my opinion your not mature enough to have sex.

Would you sit in and drive a $100,000 car if you didn't know how to drive?

Next thing, when your in a the "Going to have sex" phase with this woman, relax.

Give her a massage, explore her body, take the pressure of you and give her attention. This does the following.

1) Now your focusing on her. Your massaging her (naked of course) fondling her, feeling her and playing with her. She's getting lots of action here, and your not in a pressure situation.

2) you get to look at her naked. As you explore her body - it will relax you, and I bet you'll get a stiffy when your playing with her.

3) She'll enjoy the **** out of it. You can even go down on her and give her the big 'O' - she's not going to think you can't perform, in fact she'll probably love it - and it'll set you apart from the other 19 yr old's who have fvcked her, and are probably all "come in a flash" - "let me just get it in" guys.

Have fun. If you not ready to fvck her, don't force it. Do it on your time.

 

[LikRetsam]

Foreplay. Spend alot of time turning her on/getting yourself turned on. Have her dance around naked etc...
She's coming back tonight even hungrier then before.