Someone Please Enlighten Me....

[STR8UP]

humans dont engage in behaviors that don't provide some kind of benefit to them. there is a reason women behave the way they do - they get something from it (and its usually a guys ball in a sling).

Agreed. Sh!t test? Power play? Whatever it is/was it's just a chicks way of trying to exert power and control over the relationship.

and you guys want a positive thought to chew on. i truly believe that in the next 20 years men are going to become Gods (well not actually gods, just dominant once again). I believe that while women are learning how to be more and more manipulative - its leading men to become wiser and more mature. Men are no longer chasing p*ssy just for p*ssy, they are focusing on evolving so that they are happy with or without a woman.

In the next twenty years (maybe sooner) i believe women are going to get called on their sh*t and it will be funny as hell. The headline in your local newspaper will read something like "Study finds men now significantly more evolved than women."

Everything comes and goes in cycles. Feminism CANNOT last forever! Men will once again have their day, and it will likely be within our lifetime. I can feel it changing already.....websites like this are proof positive.

 

[TooColdUlrick]

Strike One!



Strike Two!



STRIKE THREE! YERRRRR-OOOUT!



OK,...Here goes,..



But, if you can master a woman's covert form of communication and 'imply' with your behavior or 'infer' confidence from your speech that you are in demand and are someone for whom she should 'feel' she ought to be competing for, then you can set the balance for your relationship with her.

no man will ever be able to master this because as you rightly mentioned, it is the way women are hardwired, and the way men are not. they are off the charts in this form of non verbal communication.

you can however, be better than the rest of the chumps out there in this regard.

as to the original post...one emotion that women are wholly incapable of dealing with is GUILT! they will avoid it like the plague. hence the subtle clues, and rationalizations in her own mind, of "get lost buddy" without saying "get lost buddy". and since you are a man, you are wondering, "why doesn't she just tell me to get lost".

it doesn't happen that way i'm afraid, esp if you are a decent guy but she's just not attracted to you.

 

[Vulpine]

...29yo hot blonde...giving off positive vibes over the last couple of weeks...I usually go in once a week to have lunch...to interact. This has been going on for a few weeks........

So, it sounds like everything was fine and good until...

Response -- You don't know where I live otherwise it would be OK

She had told me weeks earlier what street she lived on

Me -- I'll just drive down "X" street blaring my horn until I get to the right one - you can flag me down

NO RESPONSE...

Text. Text = e-mail = sterile = confusion = misinterpretation

It is impossible to remember every conversation of every day when you are a waiter/waitress. She obviously didn't remember telling you where she lived. ("You don't know where I live")

So, you coming back with "I know where you live and I'm going to stalk you" is hella creepy, not to mention needy and chasing.

Simply put, you creeped her out. She misinterpreted your texts as crazy-stalker style, and you were going to climb the highest mountains, swim the deepest oceans, and drive around until you found her.
:crazy:
Now, had you been on the phone, you would likely would have corrected her: "You told me what street you lived on, but you're right, I don't actually know EXACTLY where you live... where do you live?"

Nevermind your motivation, you mis-gamed her, plain and simple. Oops. Better luck next time, or, good luck recovering from creeper mode.

 

[DJKadash]

Well, as an update I saw her at lunch today, about 6 days since I talked to her. I got the polar-ice cap treatment, which I guess I expected, so I pretty much kept to myself. You live and learn. Humbling experience I guess.