Yo DJKADASH,
We've got yo' back here in THIS branch of the Sosuave Army, soldier. I will tell you right off, that much of this talk of strategies, techniques, and manuevers you should use to engage women DEPENDS upon the situation or circumstance.
Nuianced approaches are weapons that EXPERIENCED DJs may be skilled at using, but I would suggest to you that YOU take a more DIRECT approach----that is, until you have developed a certain level of mastery over our "weapons of choice."
I must FIRST remind you to always think of yourself as a man of action. YOU have things to do. OTHER interesting activities to indulge in. OTHER women to attract and/or target. And AS such, NEVER waste your valuable time tip-toeing around communicating to a woman you are a man of value and decisive action.
Never run the risk of coming across to a woman as timid, tentative, or BENIGNLY flirtatious. Women DO this kind of shyt----WE DON'T. Women, especially shameless attention whhore types, believe there's such a thing as HARMLESS flirtation----WE DON'T.
In MY branch of the Sosuave Armed Services, we KNOW that there is no such thing as harmless flirtation. Why?
Because when WE flirt----We mean HARM.
We're on a mission around HERE, goddamm it. Even though we are calm, cool, and collected, we STILL let women know through the confidence and decisiveness that we exude that we ARE NOT interested in being their muthafukkin' girlFRIEND. We let them know just by the sensuality and sexuality that we project towards them that we are MEN.
Indulging in tentative and trepidatious behaviors makes men come across as flaccid in the eyes of most women-----especially the ones who ARE NOT really digging us in the first place. This behavior only accomplishes one of two things: She will either think of you as a harmless, nice guy who CAN'T handle her sexually, OR worse----as has been already stated, she'll think of you as just a tool she can use whenever she wants to stroke her own ego.
This is NOT your goal, soldier. No. Your goal is to be more direct. Don't fall for the propaganda that women are these magical, mystical creatures with powers and abilities far beyond those of mortal man. This mindset only succeeds in painting a picture of women in most men's minds that women are somehow ABOVE them----and that they have to walk on goddamm eggshells, and do everything "just right" or else SHE'LL judge him as unworthy.
This is just a subconscious way of putting a woman on a pedestal, and placing yourself FAR beneath her----like a fool, or a clown who has to always perform or turn tricks in order to keep HER interested in HIM.
But the TRUTH is this:
A man can get away with, or successfully pull off, almost ANYTHING that he does, as long as it comes from a position of strength, confidence, and a relaxed sense of humor.
This overestimation and overglorification of the power of women is mostly delusional, and ALWAYS self defeating. Like a tired old magic trick, it's just smoke and mirrors----a "slight of hand" technique used by staunch feminists and feminism SYMPS (sympathizers) as a smokescreen that they conveniently hide behind in order to avoid admitting the truth that some woman actually have LOW INTEREST in a man.
Read the following statement, memorize it, and repeat it OUT LOUD to yourself whenever you feel yourself starting to overanalyze how you come across to a woman:
The rules of engagement between men and women within a relationship context is like an advanced class of higher learning in the Art of War. And AS such----don't even MINOR in tryin' to figure the Biitch out. Let the Biitch MAJOR in tryin' to figure YOU out.
What I mean is this:
When you engage a woman in a calm, cool, confident, courageous, and SEXY manner---and without exhibiting any signs of being intimidated by her, THIS is your best chance of her taking special notice of you. THIS is when something usually clicks in her brain and then she'll try to "figure out" why YOU are so different from all those other guys who just "flirt" with her in the restaurant, bar, grocery store, or wherever.
You see, she EXPECTS you to be blown away by her beauty and attractiveness----like all the rest of the guys. And she EXPECTS you to openly salivate uncontrollably when you're in her presence----like all the rest of the guys. And she EXPECTS you to come across to her as over eager and desperate-----like all the rest of the LESSER men do. So when you come across differently, this can give her pause.
And IF she has ANY interest in you, this is the point at which she begins to show SOME signs of it.
You see, no matter the demeanor, status, education, or personality of the woman, there is NO escaping the fact that women who LIKE you---HELP you. Unfortunately, if this woman actually did like you, it would appear that you have lowered her interest level in you by continuing to use a shy guy, tentative approach.
But evidence that you HAVE stepped up at some point though, is that she DID give you her number---and that's good. You should at least take credit for THAT.
And since you've already established that this is a chick that you were able to see whenever you wanted to, I can understand you falling into the trap of WAITING a little too long BEFORE you manned up and asked her out (or OVER) for a romantic date.
But I believe this may have proven to be your undoing. Again, you MUST start to think of yourself as a man of ACTION. Why? Because most women tend to "wait" for the guy to initiate things. This is why if you had been direct, and asked her out (or over) for a no-bullshyt, romantic date ASAP, you would NOT be in the position you are in right now.
No. Had you came at her THIS way, confidently, decisively, RELAXED, yet with a SUBTLEY seething cauldron of sexuality in your eyes as you looked at her, this woman would have revealed what her true level of interest was in you right there on the spot.
She would either have said "YES", "NO", or she would have hem, hawed, or hesitated-----thus exposing her true RELUCTANCE to get to know you OUTSIDE of her work environment and in a more intimate way.
It would appear that it MIGHT be too late with this girl, but you never know. Ask her out on a date next time you see her in person at the restaurant----that'll tell the story, no doubt.
But bottom line:
Be more of a man of action. After you have interacted with ANY woman enough to display a certain amount of your confident, sexy, BUT self-controlled personality to her----MAKE A MOVE ON HER. I don't give a damm if it's 2 minutes OR TWO WEEKS----first check your gut, then MAKE A MOVE ON HER.
Because if you can make her say "YES", "NO", or "MAYBE"----you'll have your answer as to whether or not this chick is either not interested, a confirmed attention whhore, OR someone worth investigating further to explore the depths of her interest level in YOU.
Oh, and by the way, just for the record, ALWAYS interpret "maybe" as "NO", and treat it accordingly. Remember, soldier, there are TOO MANY chicks out here that would LOVE to get with a man of the caliber of DJKADASH----so BELIEVE this, my friend.
And ACT on it.
And don't waste anymore unneccessary time with women who either have NO GOOD TASTE, or who are just not interested in you.
Better caliber, and MUCH MORE INTERESTED women are out there looking for a few good MEN, soldier------so don't you DARE keep them waiting...
March on.
