Someone give me a swift kick in the nuts

[Serg897]

I had a great opportunity for a # close today. And somehow I blew it.

Im 95% sure this girl in my Yoga class (super hot) is very interested. She was very receptive to me talking to her, we walked together after class and it felt very natural. We just started to part ways before I could bring up the whole "let me get your number" business.

I'll see her next week. Someone should kick me in the nuts to make sure I # close next time.

 

[WhtRbt]

I think you not going for the number is enough of a kick in the nuts in itself yes?

Whenever I'm talking to a girl and want her number, I just say 'hey I gotta get going, but what's your phone number'.

It's best to be the first to leave anyway. This way you cut the interaction first, and you get her number. Yay!

 

[DJDamage]

Dude she is in your Yoga class and you practically know her and talk to her.

Instead of asking for her number and be afraid of a swift rejection, why don't you ask her for coffee or something and based on that reaction (you are looking for a positive reaction only!) then its easier to get her number because she already agreed to meet you somewhere outside of class.

 

[Serg897]

Dude she is in your Yoga class and you practically know her and talk to her.

Instead of asking for her number and be afraid of a swift rejection, why don't you ask her for coffee or something and based on that reaction (you are looking for a positive reaction only!) then its easier to get her number because she already agreed to meet you somewhere outside of class.

Good advice, however we are both busy with other classes right after we are done with Yoga, so I don't think that will quite work - I would have to ask for digits right away anyway.

Plus, I could be wrong, but it seems like this girl is interested just gauging from the way she talks to me. I would be surprised if I got rejected - but of course it could happen!

 

[j0n024]

Good advice, however we are both busy with other classes right after we are done with Yoga, so I don't think that will quite work - I would have to ask for digits right away anyway.

Plus, I could be wrong, but it seems like this girl is interested just gauging from the way she talks to me. I would be surprised if I got rejected - but of course it could happen!

Sounds like your making excuses now.

Since you talk to each other on a daily basis I agree that you should ask her out OUTSIDE of "Yoga," Class. Maybe ask her out to minature golf or laser tag....and if she is boring at least you can have fun...and maybe pick someone else up.

 

[Dannyrt34]

If you don't like to ask for the number straight up. Ask her something else that would lead to you needing her number. So ask her if she'd like to go out for coffee with you sometime. When she agrees, just be like "Well, let me get your number so we can set up a time."

There you have it.

Oh and I also live in the northeast part of the USA, so I'm not too far. Maybe me and you can meet up, so I can officially kick you in the nuts.

 

[rushing dude 123]

north east usa is usually bit far for me to travel for a kick in the nuts, but for u i will make an exception. lol

Jk, whats the problem sounds like ur already angry at urself has it is, don't sweat it u will see her again. Try not to put to much pressure on urself, u might end up thinking about her bit to much this week and end up coming cross bit desperate. So for now just relax, learn from ur mistakes and when u get in yoga class, listen to ur heart, which i am sure will say "close" then just do it.

One more thing if it is messed up don't worry plenty more fish in sea and u have not lost anything.

 

[SuavePlaya]

I got next after rushing dude.

 

[Lockheed]

I agree that you should invite her to another place, maybe not exactly after the class, if she agrees, ask her phone number to schedule everything and now you have a date and the phone

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Say, I was thinking we should hang out sometime out of yoga class. Whats your phone number. Keep a smile and its as simple as that.

 

[izza]

Shoe in mail - you know what to do

(I honestly don't think this is kick-in-nut-worthy).

I still haven't heard why you didn't # close this time. Were you nervous? Did you feel you wouldn't succeed? Let us know if you'd like to share what was going through your mind at that moment.

Izza

 

[Serg897]

Just an update - on Tuesday I got the number

I did it exactly like this:

Say, I was thinking we should hang out sometime out of yoga class. Whats your phone number. Keep a smile and its as simple as that.

There was no problem this way - it seems her response was good. I cant call her until Sunday since I'm going away this weekend - by then I should have a plan to meet up somewhere.

I kinda want to do it before we meet up in class again on Tuesday. Any ideas to bounce around?

 

[The Bat]

Hmm, that's not too bad. You don't have to do it before Tuesday. Just be your normal self when you see her again on Tuesday.

Do NOT mention you going away on vacation (unless you already have) when you see her. And do NOT mention the fact that you didn't call her because of so and so.

Just be your normal self. Tell her that you want to meet up with her on Fri/Sat for drinks at place X.

By doing this, you show her that you're not needy or desperate enough to have to meet up with her before Tuesday or that you feel the need to explain yourself regarding why you couldn't call her before Tuesday. You are indirectly showing her that you are a busy guy who is surrounded by girls all week and weekend long. And then by telling her to meet up with you on Fri/Sat for drinks shows that you've got balls of steel and won't resort to asking her out over the phone when you can do it in person instead.

 

[rushing dude 123]

does this mean i can't kick u in the nuts anymore?, i already bought my ticket to north america and **** lol.


But on a serious note, just don't over complicate it, keep things simple, she likes u, u like her. No need to operate, operation valkeyrie lol. So yeh just b keep it kool, kind of like what bat was implying.

 

[Serg897]

Hmm, that's not too bad. You don't have to do it before Tuesday. Just be your normal self when you see her again on Tuesday.

Do NOT mention you going away on vacation (unless you already have) when you see her. And do NOT mention the fact that you didn't call her because of so and so.

Just be your normal self. Tell her that you want to meet up with her on Fri/Sat for drinks at place X.

By doing this, you show her that you're not needy or desperate enough to have to meet up with her before Tuesday or that you feel the need to explain yourself regarding why you couldn't call her before Tuesday. You are indirectly showing her that you are a busy guy who is surrounded by girls all week and weekend long. And then by telling her to meet up with you on Fri/Sat for drinks shows that you've got balls of steel and won't resort to asking her out over the phone when you can do it in person instead.

So you are saying I shouldn't even bother calling her until later this week? And just see/talk to her during class like normal? I guess its not a huge deal that I do this before Tuesday, but I kinda wanted to set something up before our next meeting in class.

She already knows that I went away this weekend because I was absent in class today - and she was there when I had a conversation with the teacher about why on Tuesday (I have a graduate school interview tomorrow). At least she knows Im driven and I have goals.

So what Im thinking is perhaps just a lunch/coffee meeting either on Monday or Tuesday before class at some point - just to have more in depth conversations with her and get to know her a little bit more. Then for a second "date" I can invite her out to one of my favorite cafes/bars on the weekend - assuming I like her and it goes well the first time.

Feedback is appreciated.