Someone explain something to me....

[BreezyB84]

So... in my time here,I've learned . ...if a woman flakes on you,goes cold on,disrespects you, your basically supposed to let it roll and move on.. Can someone explain to me why?? How is this beneficial to an aspiring DJ?? What's reasoning behind this?

 

[AttackFormation]

Would be easier to answer if you told us what you think you should do instead.

 

[BreezyB84]

Would be easier to answer if you told us what you think you should do instead.

If I knew, I wouldn't have asked .

 

[Dan Bautista]

It's not about being a Don Juan that you've to move on when a woman flakes and disrespects you but it's common sense, really. She flakes you? Clearly not interested unless she has a REASON and counter-offers. She disrespects you? Clearly not interested in you.

You're supposed to move on because there's very less chance of you actually getting in the pants of a woman who disrespects you. Further, would you really want to be with a woman who has no respect whatsoever for you? You'd have to have low self-esteem if you would be okay with that.

A DJ's able to give many women sexual gratification and doesn't have to cling onto a single woman for his needs throughout his life. Moving on is exhibiting your ability to not be so clingy and get pvssy elsewhere. It's very unlikely you'll change the opinion of yours for someone else.

Honest opinion, being a DJ isn't something like following a religion completely different to your current one. It's about applying logic to scenarios most men go through to produce the best results at the end. It's like buying a new cell-phone after your previous one gets old.

 

[Trunks]

So... in my time here,I've learned . ...if a woman flakes on you,goes cold on,disrespects you, your basically supposed to let it roll and move on.. Can someone explain to me why?? How is this beneficial to an aspiring DJ?? What's reasoning behind this?

Because your time is more valuable than putting effort into something with a low likelihood of producing favorable results.

 

[Von]

What's confidence?

That's your answer

 

[Floydispink01]

So... in my time here,I've learned . ...if a woman flakes on you,goes cold on,disrespects you, your basically supposed to let it roll and move on.. Can someone explain to me why?? How is this beneficial to an aspiring DJ?? What's reasoning behind this?

If you went to a fast food restaurant and asked for a burger and the tender was rude to you, disrespected you and told you that their was none left....what would you do?

 

[BreezyB84]

If you went to a fast food restaurant and asked for a burger and the tender was rude to you, disrespected you and told you that their was none left....what would you do?

I would definitely tell her she was rude and complain to management lol..

In the game this would be unacceptable correct??

 

[GoodOne123]

Girls are people too, and shouldn't be treated as some sort of different entity.

If you just met some guy, and he disrespects you, you clearly would be done with that prick and would not consider him as a potential buddy.

Same with girls. She disses you and you clearly would not consider her girlfriend material. Flaking is a form of disrespect btw. She don't respect you or your time if she does that.

 

[Trunks]

I would definitely tell her she was rude and complain to management lol..

In the game this would be unacceptable correct??

Think of it more like you are an independent contractor and a potential client doesn't show up. You run your own show, what would be the wisest thing to do?

 

[BreezyB84]

Think of it more like you are an independent contractor and a potential client doesn't show up. You run your own show, what would be the wisest thing to do?

I can dig this.. but if you didn't need the money, would you still ignore it??

I am a man and I have pride, so to not say something is an absolute change of thinking for us newbies. I understand the thinking, yet it's still a bit submissive to me. but I get it..

 

[Dan Bautista]

I would definitely tell her she was rude and complain to management lol..

In the game this would be unacceptable correct??

Paying for a burger in a restaurant with respectful servers and in one with disrespectful servers, you're going to get a burger either way. But the experience you have while getting that burger will definitely be different. You'd rather be served by a respectful server than a disrespectful one, even if it's just getting a burger.

The point being is that though you should spend your assets on something worthwhile, you should also ensure your contribution of investing your assets is appreciated, for least.

There are many routes to get from one place to another but you ought to take the best one out of all.

You spend your time on a girl and she flakes? She's not appreciative of your time — your most valuable asset. Invest it on a girl who's appreciative.

 

[AttackFormation]

I am a man and I have pride, so to not say something is an absolute change of thinking for us newbies. I understand the thinking, yet it's still a bit submissive to me. but I get it..

So there it is, you did "know". You think you should say something. To try to get her back? or to let her know what she did was "wrong"?

 

[sazc]

Quite simply -you need to have standards for the people you allow in your life. One of those standards should be mutual respect for one another. If anyone is going to disrespect you, they are not worth your time. Move on

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Because the majority of the people posting about this kind of stuff are coming here because they don't know what to do and/or lack the experience to know what to do.

The easiest answer is just to move on to the next woman, and for that group of people it's absolutely the correct answer...they have to change their mindset and how they perceive things with women.

However, after you have been doing this for a while and having success and understand how things actually work, I personally have found that it's relatively easy to turn a flake into a chick that will fvck you in a short amount of time if you handle it properly AND she actually has some interest in you.

But to try and advise someone to do this if they don't understand what they are doing or how things work or if they don't have much success or confidence is just folly...it won't work. I'd consider this an advanced technique...

 

[Junach]

Because the majority of the people posting about this kind of stuff are coming here because they don't know what to do and/or lack the experience to know what to do.

The easiest answer is just to move on to the next woman, and for that group of people it's absolutely the correct answer...they have to change their mindset and how they perceive things with women.

However, after you have been doing this for a while and having success and understand how things actually work, I personally have found that it's relatively easy to turn a flake into a chick that will fvck you in a short amount of time if you handle it properly AND she actually has some interest in you.

But to try and advise someone to do this if they don't understand what they are doing or how things work or if they don't have much success or confidence is just folly...it won't work. I'd consider this an advanced technique...

And how is this done?

 

[wifehunter]

So... in my time here,I've learned . ...if a woman flakes on you,goes cold on,disrespects you, your basically supposed to let it roll and move on.. Can someone explain to me why?? How is this beneficial to an aspiring DJ?? What's reasoning behind this?

It's bad behavior, if you let it slide, you're contributing to codependency.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Because doing the same thing over and over in the face of repeated failure is the definition of insanity.

Letting someone go who doesn't or is not willing to meet your own view of them is perfectly logical. You have a world view of the situation and they have another. Why continue that until such time as those views are aligned.

I take an open door view. If someone chooses or happens to come back in to my life, and our world views are more closely aligned than before, so be it. If not, I spend my resources elsewhere.

Letting go of passed bad experience and the associated people is probably the greatest lesson that I've learned herein.

 

[sazc]

You've really got to buy into the idea that women are NOT scarce! Women want to meet men just as much as men want to meet women. We have different immediate intentions, which is why a male and female connecting right off the bat is harder, but we do want to meet men. It's never going to be completely obvious that women are not scarce, because that is not the way day to day life works, but we are not scarce.

I used to think men were scarce. Hindsight has me realizing that I wasnt making myself open enough to men, that I wasnt taking advantages of situations, like I should have. The men were there, I just didn't realize it.

The women are there and you will find them. Believe that so you dont waste your time on ones who are clearly not high interest. Women are not scarce. Make that your mantra so that when a chick isn't interested you can feel VERY confident moving on.