Some weird thing my gf said

[bob246]

Been with my gf for a month now and its been very cool. We're having a good time together and i could see us being together for quite a while.

Until she came out with something very weird yesterday. She goes "For our relationship to have some fun moments, we have to have more times with my friends, your friends, me and you, all together..more. We can't just spend all our time with only the company of eachother" I was like WTF?!

Now, we have once had a gathering of her friends, my friends out in a club. It was cool and all but wtf, the relationship is ME and HER! We are having some good times together without the company of others.

Seriously, is what she said.. true?

 

[bob246]

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[christz]

basiclly she's sayin i can't spend every wakeing minute with you. And i can totally agree

i like my friends but even my best friend will start to get on my nerves if we hang out for more than 5 hours at a time.

 

[bob246]

Thats got nothing to do with it. We meet up like at least 2 or 3 times a week. Its honestly got nothing to do with us two being together too much. Its prob the opposite.

 

[Chilli_pimp]

from the looks of it, ur probably spending a lil too much time with her... but i don't know the whole situation, so its hard to say... answer this, how many times a week are you 2 together?

(added in a few minutes later)

my bad, i never read the other posts... 2-3 times a week...

 

[christz]

2 or 3 times a week maybe that's to much for her.. maybe once or twice is all you should do.

there is no reading between lines with what she said, she made it perfectly clear

"i don't wanna spend every wakeing minute with you"

and she wouldn't say it unless she felt that way.

 

[saki]

agreed, she is apparently being smoothered, in her mind. date some other girls in the meantime : )

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Aren't you guys listening? She didn't say she can't spend every waking moment with him. She said she couldn't spend every waking moment JUST WITH THE COMPANY OF EACH OTHER -- she wants the two of them to spend time TOGETHER, with other friends also.

If she was being smothered, she would want to just go out with her friends. That isn't what she's asking for. She wants to go out with her friends, AND HIM, and his friends also, all together as a big group.

Chicks do this sometimes because they like to be the little social event planner. I wouldn't sweat it too bad unless you really don't want to do this.

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by christz
basiclly she's sayin i can't spend every wakeing minute with you. And i can totally agree

i like my friends but even my best friend will start to get on my nerves if we hang out for more than 5 hours at a time.

u never went on an overnight trip anywhere with any friends, ie at the ski resort or anything ?

 

[christz]

anytime i do i get really annoyed by the end of the day, IF i do happend to spend the night at somebodys house (to much drinkin) i usally leave really early in the morning like 5 or 6, just so i can get back to my place and go back to sleep.

i mean if somebody was comin over to your house every night on que each time they were there, at your house after you got off work, came home from school etc.. wouldn't you get annoyed? no matter how much you liked the person?

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by christz
anytime i do i get really annoyed by the end of the day, IF i do happend to spend the night at somebodys house (to much drinkin) i usally leave really early in the morning like 5 or 6, just so i can get back to my place and go back to sleep.

i mean if somebody was comin over to your house every night on que each time they were there, at your house after you got off work, came home from school etc.. wouldn't you get annoyed? no matter how much you liked the person?

no only if they did dumb **** or talked behind my back, otherwise its cool man,

u got some annoying friends or sumtin ?

 

[christz]

Originally posted by huge_guy_pimpin
no only if they did dumb **** or talked behind my back, otherwise its cool man,

u got some annoying friends or sumtin ?

lol no but if the same people came over every single night, all the time and stayed the entire night and left in the morning. like they were waiting in my driveway until i got home.. all the time from work, school or whatever

that would quickly get on my nerves.. i would need a break lol that's what happend with one of my friends when he broke up with his girl, came over every single night.. it was cool but then after a while i needed my alone time lol

 

[Climax]

All the replies in this post i find to be b.s, except for the reply by "Giovanni Casanova" ...

... You people need to learn to read and UNDERSTAND something before just jumping to answering something, read the post out loud to yourself if need be.

And another thing in reguards to the original post...

bob246: Am i not correct when saying that when u DO see her (no matter if itsonve, twice, 3 times, etc a week) you dont normally do things with her AND her friends and your friends all togeather?

The following things that i want to say would just be repeating "Giovanni Casanova" , so go and read what he said again, cause he seems to know what he is talking about

Well anyways... i hope things work out with the 2 of u and that u dont take what she said in the wrong way, and perhaps ask her what she meant by it.

Communication is VITAL if u plan to be in a relationship with this girl and make it work.

Keep well...

Laterz....

 

[bob246]

You and gio, seem to get the drift of what her point was.

Well anyway most of the time we are together, it is only the two of us. Just you know.. chilling out in the park, movies, at my or her house or wherever else.

It was just kind of a shock because i know us two are having a lot of fun together. We're on the same wavelength and hardly have any boring dates. I make her laugh, she makes me laugh, we can have some interesting conversations, etc. But then she came out with this, which was weird.

I'll be seeing her tomorrow, so i'll just ask her more about it.. face to face. I just thought id ask what everyone here, thought about what she was getting at. But im guessing as gio was saying, she would just like having big do's together, aswell as the lone time.

 

[Player_Supreme]

Originally posted by bob246
Been with my gf for a month now and its been very cool. We're having a good time together and i could see us being together for quite a while.

Until she came out with something very weird yesterday. She goes "For our relationship to have some fun moments, we have to have more times with my friends, your friends, me and you, all together..more. We can't just spend all our time with only the company of eachother" I was like WTF?!

Now, we have once had a gathering of her friends, my friends out in a club. It was cool and all but wtf, the relationship is ME and HER! We are having some good times together without the company of others.

Seriously, is what she said.. true?

Kid your doing what other stoopid fools on this site have done. ONce they get a girl they get all wrapped up in them and stop hangin with their friends as much.

You end up suffocating the girl and she becomes bored and then wants out.

She is giving you a DIRE WARNING so pay attention and let your ego go.

Women don't want you all symped out. They want a real man. NOt some weak ass mofo who will say to them

I don't know what I wanna do tonight what do you want to do?

And I sense your already there.

STOP and listen to the warnings!

Develop a life away from her. Give her the gift of missing you.

 

[frivolousz21]

you get tired of ur best friend after 5 hours?ive spent days in a row with my friends. while having girls who love me!!!!

your friends are the best asset you can have!