Some thoughts about "She has a boyfriend"

[Tango-Kid]

I see that this subject seems to be quite popular on this site. I have also noticed that many of the donjuan-students see it as a big obsticle, if the girl they have approached, has a boyfriend.

For me, it doesn´t really matter. I have noticed that MANY girls rather choose to be with a total AFC than to be single. Probably they keep this AFC for somekind of social proof, I´m not sure, but I think that for most girls it´s more scary to be "single" than it is for us guys. This means, that they are keeping their current AFC boyfriend only until they find someone better. Like me

I have found that it´s easy to "steal" other guy´s girlfriends many times. But I don´t concider it as "stealing" - in my philosophy, the girl has a right to choose who she wants to be with. If some other guy stold my girlfriend, I wouldn´t blame the guy, but I would blame myself for being such a wuss that I can´t keep her interested in me, or I would just think that the girl wasn´t good enough for me/ wasn´t my style.

I think that blaming the guy who steals other guy´s girlfriend doesn´t make any sense. It´s the same as blaming the gun for murder - not the chick who pulled the trigger.

I hear already some of you guys saying "It´s not ethically right to steel other guy´s girlfriend!" Feel free to think this way - I think the opposite. I even think I´m doing a big favour for the guy - at least his girlfriend is dumping him because of someone good .

Do you understand my thinking? Any of you guys think the same way?

Ok, then there´s another aspect. You might think "Who wants to be with a girl who so easily dumps her boyfriend and has no loyality?" Ok, here you can think whatever you want. But I can say that non of the girls I have "stolen", has dumped ME (but neither have I married any of them).

SO, to my tips:

1) If she says that she has a boyfriend (even if true) - don´t let it stop you! It might make things slower, but not impossible! Think about the divorce-rate in your country... quite high, isn´t it? Now, think about how many of your friends´ "relationships" have ended because of another man... quite many, eh? So, the mission is NOT impossible!

2) Don´t think it´s "wrong" to date girls who have boyfriends! You´re doing a big favour for the boyfriend by showing him that his girlfriend has no loyality.

These are just my thoughts. Remember to always follow your heart and moral. If you feel it´s wrong to steal a girlfriend from somebody - then don´t do it. I have just tried bring up some points why it is not tactically nor ethically a wrong thing to do.

I hope you understand what I´m saying, this is a difficult subject for my english.

Tango-Kid

Ps. Remember to look out for the jealous boyfriends..

(edited: typos + some adjustments)

 

[So pimp its scary]

That's good and all, but just watch out for when one of some dude Bubba just got out of jail to find out you were slamming his girlfriend.

It's alot less likely when you don't steal someones girlfriend... and it might not be stealing for you, but it very easily could be.

 

[fukuy]

that's true. but one more thing, the job would be harder and longer if the girl does have a boyfriend. So it's your call to consider its worthiness. ( we're not talking about unloyal biaches here)

 

[Spike_Tha_Cowboy]

If it's true love you should wait a lifetime, no matter if she has ten boyfriends lined up ahead of you.

 

[barbarianthemadserb]

Tango Kid

U R a fvkin slimball trying to justify and make sense your slimbiness. I have run into slimballs like you before and slimballs like you go down with broken legs. Don't ask me details on this.
M

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

No such thing as a 'boyfriend' - if she is sexing dude then she is a ho and he is just the next pimp in line!!!

 

[il_duce]

Re: Tango Kid

Originally posted by barbarianthemadserb
U R a fvkin slimball trying to justify and make sense your slimbiness. I have run into slimballs like you before and slimballs like you go down with broken legs. Don't ask me details on this.
M

Uh, no. Tango-Kid is right.

Seriously, how the **** are we supposed to get laid when 75% of all girls who are HB7s and above have boyfriends, at least 2/3 of which are AFC boyfriends? Because that's the case, at least where I'm from. All it is for them is a matter of ****ing you, and then eventually breaking up with their current boyfriend to be with you. That is how it works my friend, sorry to break it to you. Hot girls are in demand, and they almost always have "boyfriends", even if they are doing two other guys on the side.

If anything, it is the girl's fault for being unfaithful to her boyfriend. Although I wouldn't blame her for striving for something better (a.k.a. me). That's just natural instinct.

 

[Tango-Kid]

Puertorican, what most of us guys think about the word "boyfriend" is something like "almost a husband" - while girls might concider it as anything between "That guy who is following me" and "The prince of my dreams". I´m also trying to show, that if a girl has a "boyfriend", it doesn´t necessarily mean that she has a boyfriend in a way we think. In my opinion, it doesn´t make her a ho if she dumps that "boyfriend" cause of someone else - maybe she never had sex or even kissed the previous one. She just called him "boyfriend" for the facts I tried to bring out before.

il_duce, you got my point exactly

barbarian you got some nice arguments

 

[barbarianthemadserb]

First of all, this is MY position. If I find out a girl has a boyfriend, I will NOT pursue her any further for two reasons:

1) In my heart and mind I will not be the person to cause a break up in someone's relationship for a piece of azz.
2) If I did pursue that girl and she did leave her bf for moi, then she would just as easily leave me for another which makes her a bonafide hoe.

If I were to go against points 1,2 above, then I too would be a fvkin slimeball. Hey, these are my morals and scruples that I live by. I have seen too many slimeballs hitting on girls that have boyfriends and their usual line is "He'll never know". Slimeballs I put in the same category as ho's and homos that have the morals of an ally cat all for the sake of getting their **** wet.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Originally posted by barbarianthemadserb
First of all, this is MY position. If I find out a girl has a boyfriend, I will NOT pursue her any further for two reasons:

1) In my heart and mind I will not be the person to cause a break up in someone's relationship for a piece of azz.
2) If I did pursue that girl and she did leave her bf for moi, then she would just as easily leave me for another which makes her a bonafide hoe.

If I were to go against points 1,2 above, then I too would be a fvkin slimeball. Hey, these are my morals and scruples that I live by. I have seen too many slimeballs hitting on girls that have boyfriends and their usual line is "He'll never know". Slimeballs I put in the same category as ho's and homos that have the morals of an ally cat all for the sake of getting their **** wet.

The girl is already unhappy in her relationship if she even considers cheating on her bf with you and then eventually leaving him for you. True trust is a hard issue with these types of girls. I've never pursued girls with bf's, but if they pursue me (wanna hook up) I'm not going to stop them.

And Tango-Kid's absolutely right, the current AFC bf should thank us rather than wanna kick our @ss. Why? Because his AFC @ss was holding on to a ***** who he thought was his little princess.



PIMP

 

[CLOONEY]

Wow, this is a tough issue and one I have been on both sides of the fence with, depending on my circumstances at the time.

Right now I dont see it as black and white as some of u dudes.

I find that a LOT of the time, u can get the girl to cheat.......does it mean she loves her boyfriend any less? no

Does it mean he is an AFC? no

I know some dudes who were total DJ's, did I steal their girlfriends? no

BUT I did get their girlfriends to cheat, I got them in the right situation, got their emotions flowing, and they cheated. After realising they really loved their boyfriends. Some will keep cheating, but will never dump their boyfriends because ultimately they wouldnt be happy without their boyfriend, even if you are the new main man in their lives.

Another one I got to dump her boyfriend, I got with her for 2 weeks only and then got rid of her. She went back to her boyfriend, now has bought a house with him and is married to him.

Is it morally wrong? I think so. However, sometimes you just gotta look after yourself and do what you want. Ultimately, if that dude had a chance to break up you and her if you were the one with her, he would probably do the same, or at least fukc her if he got the chance.

Right now I just see it as you have to look after number 1 in life, and that is yourself. Ultimately EVERYONE looks after themselves. Girls who say they dont, are lying. If your girlfriend meets a guy who blows her away, she will most probably dump you for him, even though she says she loves and cares about you so much (didnt happen to me, but I have seen it happen to others).

Conclusion: It is morally wrong to try and steal another guys girlfriend, but fukc it, everyone has morals they talk about, and morals they actually abide by in the real situations. Most of the time "blinding" themselves to the actual reality that their morals are as poor as everyone else in the world.