DJ Rook
Don Juan
Okay this site is great for helping out people, however there is a lot of information overload on the site. That's bad. One piece of advice may contradict another. So how do you know what is useful, and what is not? Well I'll break a few things down for you, about how I changed. And change is important. But only if it leads to progress.
I used to be awkward with chicks. I just didn't have any game whatsoever. I didn't know how to talk to them. I didn't do very well. Today I do very well with the ladies. In fact I put forth zero effort, and score all the time. Friends ask me all the time how I do it, and basically I tell them "I don't know I'm just me". But here I will tell you how I do it, and it is so easy anyone can.
When I started trying to "be a DJ" I decided to overcome my fear of girls by being friends with as many as I can. I thought that if I surrounded myself with enough women. I would be more successful with them. I would understand what they wanted. I would understand how they thought etc. Well I learned all of that, but they never helped me get laid. In fact my friend base became 90% women. That was stupid. You don't want girls that are friends. The only thing that I gained out of that period was conquering my fear of women. So if you have that fear. Do this but understand that the friends you have gained are going to be cut out of your life at some point if you want to ever get any action. Being friends with women will ultimately only hurt your game. My mannerisms became feminine (slightly) I adopted words like "cute" etc. Human social development/interaction is highly attributed to your surroundings. If you surround yourself with chicks you will start to interact like a chick. You may not see it, but it's there. So the advice of "become friends with women" is stupid. Like I said earlier if you have problems talking to women, and are scared of them then by all means get some friends that are girls and conquer that ****, but it is only a reconissance (sp?) mission. You get it...learn what you need to, and get the hell out.
Get a life. Seriously. Throw yourself into work or a hobby, or a sport, or something. Seriously.. that advice is on here, and it is good stuff. If you hate your job start looking for another. If you don't have a hobby find something that really interests YOU. Photography, Painting, Carpentry, Sculpture, Vintage Posters, Travel, Volunteer, Cooking.....Get something. If "nothing" interests you need a shrink. Play sports, or chess, or poker or something. Just fill your life up. WITHOUT GIRLS. You'll find that if you can't be happy without girls you'll never be happy with girls. So be happy do stuff that you love. Take informal classes. Expand your mind/body/wealth. Girls generally will detract from those things which brings me to my next point.
Girls are BELOW you (no joke intended). You are a male. The whole "Equal Rights" "Woman's Suffrage" stuff has seriously hurt men's ability to percieve their position in this world. No no I am not saying women shouldn't have the right to vote, or make equal pay etc., or for you to be a misogynist, but your perception of women as equals needs to change. Women do not belong on pedestools. Not one. They have no say in decisions... they can add there thoughts, but only if they choose too, and you have the ultimate call. The woman's roll in this world can be anything, but durring social interaction OUTSIDE of the workplace they are below you, and you must always keep that at heart, and ingrained it into your head.
I never approach women. NEVER. I can, but I don't. I put myself in social situations where women are going to be. Parties are a big thing. Bars clubs etc, are okay. Going out to dinner works. Whatever you choose just go to social situations. Girls will appear at random. Some are single, some are taken. The ones that are single will let you know that they are single. But here is the most important piece of advice. You are not trying to win over chicks...no...you are going to be winning over the guys. I know that sounds stupid/weird, but it is the truth.
Male status/dominace is a giant factor in determining which guys get the girl and which ones don't. Now there are different ways to achieve a high level. Brute Force (Big muscles, kicking people's ass or the ability to kick people's ass) Money (nice house, nice car, nice job) or respect (this is the one that will win over all the rest). You must be a leader or totally garner the respect of every male in every social situation. You can do this a number of ways. Being funny/entertaining, making decisions on what the group does (and having them be well recieved/successful), being a source of advice/guidance for other individuals. Start being more assertive and garner more respect from males. Don't be a sheep that just tags along. Be proactive in the decisions the group makes. If you don't like the vibe or situation, start making the preparations to lead the group somewhere else. Once this mindset starts becomming part of your personna people's view of you will change, you will garner more respect, and respect is everything.
Okay now you have the respect of your fellow men, you don't pay attention to women...how they hell do you get some action?
Women will pursue you. Right off the bat. They automatically percieve who has respect. Who is the leader. Who has the social dominance. When you don't pay them any attention they will have to seek out your approval. It is what gives them the feeling of acceptance.
Here is an example that happend friday (I am writting this sunday morning)
I went to dinner with a friend at hooters. He wanted to go there. I was cool with it (meaning if I didn't want to eat there I would have said "No let's go somewhere else" I am no sheep) so we went. We of course had some super busty blonde. When she comes to the table, my friend immediately starts trying to charm her. I don't even look at her I am looking at the menu because that is why I am there. To eat, not to make some bs chitchat with some waitress chick. She asks for our drinks. I look at the beer menu. look straight at her --the very first time-- right into her eyes (looking into peoples eyes is important. ANYTIME I am talking to ANYONE I look at there eyes it signifies the "I am going to **** you or kill you" subliminal message ) Her eyes automatically widened (just a little..you will start to notice this a little when you start doing this with women) Told her what I wanted, and then looked back at the menu.
She walks off. She comes back the exact same scenario as before happens when she takes our order. My friend flirts. I am all business. We hang out she comes by like a waitress should, does her job, and engages with some more chitchat with my friend. Then she asks about me right infront of me. "Does he ever talk?" He says "That's just how he is (I don't know if he was trying to barb me or just stating the facts either doesn't bother me... you'll see my reaction) I looked right into her eyes again..."That's just how I am". She drops the bill I pay with my card my friend gives me cash (I don't have time for playing the "who got what?" game just give me money for what you got, and I'll take care of the rest. If you haven't given me enough I'll let you know) I leave her 20% I always do no matter if its a dude or a busty blonde (I used to work in the service industry. its my standard unless the service was stupid then they get less and I don't care who they were) On the way out she says "Bye guys thank you"... I don't even acknowledge her
Now that is how I interact with people all the time. Espicieally women. They are nothing special. Even if they have a nice rack.
Now here is the killer...the next night saturday. I am at a party. I'm talking with some guys about the upcomming NFL draft, shop, etc. when I get a tug on my sleeve. I automatically turn my head in the direction knowing full well its a chick. No guy tugs on another guys shirt. My expression turns serious and I look right into the eyes of guess who...but the busty blonde from last night.
"HEY! I waited on you yesterday." I give a typical "yeah" she says something like "I can see your more talkative tonight". "yeah well I'm in the middle of talking with the boys I'll talk to you in a minute" again looking into her eyes She smiles says okay, and I turn back to my conversation like nothing happend. The guys immediately ask who the hell that was and I just say "some waitress" and continue with the previous topic.
Later I am fixing myself a drink and tug tug guess who again. I turn and say "it's you again" She seems a little unnerved by this, but introduces herself and we chat for a little bit. Long story short I slept with her that night. She gave me her number, but I haven't called yet I got other **** to do.. She asked for mine, and I was hesitant in giving it to her, but whatever she's hot if we get it on again that's fine she was hot and decent in the sack.
She told me that night "I have never met a guy like you...you're differnt. I knew I had to have you"
And here is why she got that message:
The whole point of me writing this long thing is just to shed some light on how social interaction really works, and what YOUR role as the man SHOULD BE. If you don't take advantage of this that's fine, but don't come on here crying about how/why things aren't working.
In short
Girls are girls...nothing special. If they dominate any part of your life you need to change that ASAP. They are below you and will get in the way of your life, but its your decision to let that happen. not theirs.
Get a life - Life should=happiness. You and you only have absolute control over this. If you don't like where you are now. Make the steps to change.
Be a leader/respected individual among your fellow men - no chick wants grunt..they want the general...
Hope this helps.
I used to be awkward with chicks. I just didn't have any game whatsoever. I didn't know how to talk to them. I didn't do very well. Today I do very well with the ladies. In fact I put forth zero effort, and score all the time. Friends ask me all the time how I do it, and basically I tell them "I don't know I'm just me". But here I will tell you how I do it, and it is so easy anyone can.
When I started trying to "be a DJ" I decided to overcome my fear of girls by being friends with as many as I can. I thought that if I surrounded myself with enough women. I would be more successful with them. I would understand what they wanted. I would understand how they thought etc. Well I learned all of that, but they never helped me get laid. In fact my friend base became 90% women. That was stupid. You don't want girls that are friends. The only thing that I gained out of that period was conquering my fear of women. So if you have that fear. Do this but understand that the friends you have gained are going to be cut out of your life at some point if you want to ever get any action. Being friends with women will ultimately only hurt your game. My mannerisms became feminine (slightly) I adopted words like "cute" etc. Human social development/interaction is highly attributed to your surroundings. If you surround yourself with chicks you will start to interact like a chick. You may not see it, but it's there. So the advice of "become friends with women" is stupid. Like I said earlier if you have problems talking to women, and are scared of them then by all means get some friends that are girls and conquer that ****, but it is only a reconissance (sp?) mission. You get it...learn what you need to, and get the hell out.
Get a life. Seriously. Throw yourself into work or a hobby, or a sport, or something. Seriously.. that advice is on here, and it is good stuff. If you hate your job start looking for another. If you don't have a hobby find something that really interests YOU. Photography, Painting, Carpentry, Sculpture, Vintage Posters, Travel, Volunteer, Cooking.....Get something. If "nothing" interests you need a shrink. Play sports, or chess, or poker or something. Just fill your life up. WITHOUT GIRLS. You'll find that if you can't be happy without girls you'll never be happy with girls. So be happy do stuff that you love. Take informal classes. Expand your mind/body/wealth. Girls generally will detract from those things which brings me to my next point.
Girls are BELOW you (no joke intended). You are a male. The whole "Equal Rights" "Woman's Suffrage" stuff has seriously hurt men's ability to percieve their position in this world. No no I am not saying women shouldn't have the right to vote, or make equal pay etc., or for you to be a misogynist, but your perception of women as equals needs to change. Women do not belong on pedestools. Not one. They have no say in decisions... they can add there thoughts, but only if they choose too, and you have the ultimate call. The woman's roll in this world can be anything, but durring social interaction OUTSIDE of the workplace they are below you, and you must always keep that at heart, and ingrained it into your head.
I never approach women. NEVER. I can, but I don't. I put myself in social situations where women are going to be. Parties are a big thing. Bars clubs etc, are okay. Going out to dinner works. Whatever you choose just go to social situations. Girls will appear at random. Some are single, some are taken. The ones that are single will let you know that they are single. But here is the most important piece of advice. You are not trying to win over chicks...no...you are going to be winning over the guys. I know that sounds stupid/weird, but it is the truth.
Male status/dominace is a giant factor in determining which guys get the girl and which ones don't. Now there are different ways to achieve a high level. Brute Force (Big muscles, kicking people's ass or the ability to kick people's ass) Money (nice house, nice car, nice job) or respect (this is the one that will win over all the rest). You must be a leader or totally garner the respect of every male in every social situation. You can do this a number of ways. Being funny/entertaining, making decisions on what the group does (and having them be well recieved/successful), being a source of advice/guidance for other individuals. Start being more assertive and garner more respect from males. Don't be a sheep that just tags along. Be proactive in the decisions the group makes. If you don't like the vibe or situation, start making the preparations to lead the group somewhere else. Once this mindset starts becomming part of your personna people's view of you will change, you will garner more respect, and respect is everything.
Okay now you have the respect of your fellow men, you don't pay attention to women...how they hell do you get some action?
Women will pursue you. Right off the bat. They automatically percieve who has respect. Who is the leader. Who has the social dominance. When you don't pay them any attention they will have to seek out your approval. It is what gives them the feeling of acceptance.
Here is an example that happend friday (I am writting this sunday morning)
I went to dinner with a friend at hooters. He wanted to go there. I was cool with it (meaning if I didn't want to eat there I would have said "No let's go somewhere else" I am no sheep) so we went. We of course had some super busty blonde. When she comes to the table, my friend immediately starts trying to charm her. I don't even look at her I am looking at the menu because that is why I am there. To eat, not to make some bs chitchat with some waitress chick. She asks for our drinks. I look at the beer menu. look straight at her --the very first time-- right into her eyes (looking into peoples eyes is important. ANYTIME I am talking to ANYONE I look at there eyes it signifies the "I am going to **** you or kill you" subliminal message ) Her eyes automatically widened (just a little..you will start to notice this a little when you start doing this with women) Told her what I wanted, and then looked back at the menu.
She walks off. She comes back the exact same scenario as before happens when she takes our order. My friend flirts. I am all business. We hang out she comes by like a waitress should, does her job, and engages with some more chitchat with my friend. Then she asks about me right infront of me. "Does he ever talk?" He says "That's just how he is (I don't know if he was trying to barb me or just stating the facts either doesn't bother me... you'll see my reaction) I looked right into her eyes again..."That's just how I am". She drops the bill I pay with my card my friend gives me cash (I don't have time for playing the "who got what?" game just give me money for what you got, and I'll take care of the rest. If you haven't given me enough I'll let you know) I leave her 20% I always do no matter if its a dude or a busty blonde (I used to work in the service industry. its my standard unless the service was stupid then they get less and I don't care who they were) On the way out she says "Bye guys thank you"... I don't even acknowledge her
Now that is how I interact with people all the time. Espicieally women. They are nothing special. Even if they have a nice rack.
Now here is the killer...the next night saturday. I am at a party. I'm talking with some guys about the upcomming NFL draft, shop, etc. when I get a tug on my sleeve. I automatically turn my head in the direction knowing full well its a chick. No guy tugs on another guys shirt. My expression turns serious and I look right into the eyes of guess who...but the busty blonde from last night.
"HEY! I waited on you yesterday." I give a typical "yeah" she says something like "I can see your more talkative tonight". "yeah well I'm in the middle of talking with the boys I'll talk to you in a minute" again looking into her eyes She smiles says okay, and I turn back to my conversation like nothing happend. The guys immediately ask who the hell that was and I just say "some waitress" and continue with the previous topic.
Later I am fixing myself a drink and tug tug guess who again. I turn and say "it's you again" She seems a little unnerved by this, but introduces herself and we chat for a little bit. Long story short I slept with her that night. She gave me her number, but I haven't called yet I got other **** to do.. She asked for mine, and I was hesitant in giving it to her, but whatever she's hot if we get it on again that's fine she was hot and decent in the sack.
She told me that night "I have never met a guy like you...you're differnt. I knew I had to have you"
And here is why she got that message:
The whole point of me writing this long thing is just to shed some light on how social interaction really works, and what YOUR role as the man SHOULD BE. If you don't take advantage of this that's fine, but don't come on here crying about how/why things aren't working.
In short
Girls are girls...nothing special. If they dominate any part of your life you need to change that ASAP. They are below you and will get in the way of your life, but its your decision to let that happen. not theirs.
Get a life - Life should=happiness. You and you only have absolute control over this. If you don't like where you are now. Make the steps to change.
Be a leader/respected individual among your fellow men - no chick wants grunt..they want the general...
Hope this helps.
