Some Things Never Change

[Desdinova]

Last weekend, I went to my usual hangout looking for some fun. Unfortunately, when AFC friends get GFs, they become unreliable. Nobody showed up, but that normally doesn't stop me from having fun.

Anyway, I know one of the women who works there, and we usually end up chatting, although I usually tease the hell out of her. But, this other chick walked in that I knew from my sarging days.

She comes up and gives me a hug and I reciprocate. She asks how I am and how my gf is. I tell her everything is going well. She gives me another hug and goes to sit down.

This woman is average, and I flirted with her back in the day just for social proof. Unfortunately, that stuff doesn't go away so quickly. All throughout the night, she'd come to my seat, hug me, and give me a peck or two on the neck. I never kissed her back.

Stuff like this begs the question of how to deal with a flirty woman who knows you're taken. My answer is to let her do what she wants (within reason) and remain faithful to my gf, but keep my value much like rock stars do.

 

[WestCoaster]

Your linked post is some of the best stuff I've read here (the illogical post). I wish I knew it 20 years ago.

People need to remember, women are emotional, men are logical. That will help cut through a lot of the B.S.

* Is it me, or are there a lot of "I want my ex-gf or I found the perfect one" posts returning here?!

There are no perfect ones, period.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Flirt back. What matters is what actions you take afterward. If you feel any guilt, there are other things going on beneath the surface of you and your relationship that you may consider addressing.

 

[Desdinova]

If you feel any guilt, there are other things going on beneath the surface of you and your relationship that you may consider addressing.

There's no guilt, but the fact that she feels it's okay to display this type of affection to a man who's in a happy relationship really turns me off. It's a sign of disrespect.

I'd prefer to tease women who can actually respect my relationship status.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I'd prefer to tease women who can actually respect my relationship status.

Explain...

 

[Desdinova]

A woman who's willing to fvck me (or lead me to believe she would) knowing very well that I'm in a happy relationship is a homewrecker and a wh0re.

A woman who can enjoy the pure fun of teasing (and tease back) without making an effort to lead me astray shows she has respect for my decision to be in a LTR. And hell, I enjoy it and I'm quite sure she does too.

I'm not looking to number close, nor am I looking for another woman to fvck, I just like having fun.

 

[TheTrader]

A woman who can enjoy the pure fun of teasing (and tease back) without making an effort to lead me astray shows she has respect for my decision to be in a LTR. And hell, I enjoy it and I'm quite sure she does too.

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that only shows that she wants your attention without having to put out.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

A woman who's willing to fvck me (or lead me to believe she would) knowing very well that I'm in a happy relationship is a homewrecker and a wh0re.

A woman who can enjoy the pure fun of teasing (and tease back) without making an effort to lead me astray shows she has respect for my decision to be in a LTR. And hell, I enjoy it and I'm quite sure she does too.

I'm not looking to number close, nor am I looking for another woman to fvck, I just like having fun.

Did I miss something? What did she say that let you know that she wants to lead you astray?

 

[DarkLight]

There's no guilt, but the fact that she feels it's okay to display this type of affection to a man who's in a happy relationship really turns me off. It's a sign of disrespect.

I'd prefer to tease women who can actually respect my relationship status.

A woman who's willing to fvck me (or lead me to believe she would) knowing very well that I'm in a happy relationship is a homewrecker and a wh0re.

Might just be that her perspective is askewed in regards to what would personally "woo" you. And she's actually acting on the intelligence of her biology here, in regards to attraction. Knowing that your a desired man, through your relationship, etc.

The fact that you see it as disrespect, I can understand as a man. But as a woman in the jungle of life... your asking for social manners to overtake biology. To put it short... she just doesn't understand the dynamics of game, and is trying to attract you through sexual displays of interest. Hoping that will ignite the same in you, and then be reciprocated.

Can't blame the woman's ignorance of tact, and acting on life's impulse through genetic demand.

 

[CaptJack]

If you play with fire than don't bitsh if you get burnt or smoke in your eyes....no women ever broke up a home or LTR that was rock solid....

Don't go out in the jungle if you can't handle being considered fair game...

 

[Desdinova]

What did she say that let you know that she wants to lead you astray?

Verbally, she hasn't said anything. Besides, I believe a woman's actions over her words. She may not be intentionally leading me astray, maybe just acting on how she feels about me. In the past, I made out with this woman at the bar just for the hell of it, but never gave her anything more. She might want revenge for never taking her out, she might want to finally have a piece of me, or just continue where we left off. Personally, I don't really care about what she wants.

The fact that you see it as disrespect, I can understand as a man. But as a woman in the jungle of life... your asking for social manners to overtake biology.

Darklight, I've enjoyed your view on this and I agree with your viewpoint. I guess that I'm still somewhat blown away at the lack of logic in the common woman. When most women get jealous, they usually say some 5hit like "I'm happy for you" even though you can tell they're jealous as hell. This one's a little different.

Can't blame the woman's ignorance of tact, and acting on life's impulse through genetic demand.

Yeah, no 5hit. A Don Juan is a treasure in a world full of AFCs.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Verbally, she hasn't said anything. Besides, I believe a woman's actions over her words. She may not be intentionally leading me astray, maybe just acting on how she feels about me. In the past, I made out with this woman at the bar just for the hell of it, but never gave her anything more. She might want revenge for never taking her out, she might want to finally have a piece of me, or just continue where we left off. Personally, I don't really care about what she wants.

Ahhh, this in itself says a lot. In a nutshell she's doing what a typical woman does; she's looking for attention.