Some problems I want to overcome

[GetBetter]

Hello fellow DJs,

I am Aastikya Tiwari, 16 years old and from India. Like everyone else I am here to become a Don Juan! But I think I am not able to attract lots of women :/

Problem 1: I've been reading a lot of articles and news letters by SoSuave but that has just improved my confidence level because I haven't applied those things my real life yet, because I don't want to flirt with just any girl.

Problem 2: I read in most of the articles to have fun, but to be honest no one told me how to have fun. I am kinda find fed up with same daily life routines and always want to do but I don't know what to do. Moreover if something hits my mind, I don't do it because I don't want everyone to laugh at me or consider me as a retard :/

Problem 3: I think I am average looking guy. Here are pics: http://sphotos-e.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-prn1/75539_336857056415030_583598966_n.jpg & http://sphotos-d.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash3/534433_286210914812978_2036192964_n.jpg

Problem 4: I do not have very good conversation skills that's why I really can't last longer in conversations until it's debatable, I guess...

So guys help me improve and tell me some tips what I can do to be super impressive and be able to overcome these problems?

Thanking everyone in advance.

~Aastikya

 

[NorwegianDJ]

I think you look rather cool.

There isn't any getting around this. You will be confused and you will have to take actual chances. Things work themselves out eventually.

Check my sig

And your "0" post count confuses me.

 

[goundra]

about half of my game is gone, in countries where I can't take a gal hunting/shooting. If you are in India, that's probably the case. I'm fairly certain that India has a martial art. Teaching karate draws a lot of interesting women, dudes. They are not much into grappling, because the latter requires too much strength and weight, which they are NEVER going to have, without male steriods. They grasp this intuitively. So they want to learn to gouge eyes and pop nuts, basicially. How to do serious harm without having to "close' with the guy.

 

[LearningSlowly]

1. Figure out who you are
2. Be loud about it so people notice
3. Revise your belief of who you are as you learn
4. Revise until you can be proud.

When you are proud of who you are and project that self loudly, you will have confidence.

 

[DanZy]

Ignore everything Goundra says. He's either a troll or a fvcking dumbass, actually both.

1) Lower your standards and actually make an effort. You won't get anywhere if you don't try at all. Come on.
2) You don't know how to have fun? Seriously? Come on dude, that's a joke. Actually take some risks.
3) Do whatever you can to improve your looks. Dress properly, hit the gym etc.
4) Try! You'll never have conversations skills if you don't make an effort.

 

[GetBetter]

Thanks a lot for the advice guys! I am thinking to write all my characteristics, good or bad, on paper and keep revising it so that I am proud of and confident about my good traits, on the other hand, I know what I have to improve at.

About the girls, I will approach as many as possible. But I'd like some tips on that too. Like what's a good technique to approach?

Look, smile at her, observe her, go to her say 'Hi' and compliment the thing you liked the most about her?

Thanks for help so far

 

[goundra]

yeah, If I say gravity works, suddenly boulders start drifting around in the air. fvcking morons. It's really easy to say that somebody is a fool, but NOTICE how they never have anything to say that is on point about an issue? that's cause they don't KNOW enough to do so.

 

[DanZy]

yeah, If I say gravity works, suddenly boulders start drifting around in the air. fvcking morons. It's really easy to say that somebody is a fool, but NOTICE how they never have anything to say that is on point about an issue? that's cause they don't KNOW enough to do so.

Fvcking tool, you spoke about teaching women martial arts. Great advice mate, really great goundie. NOTICE how everyone else, but you, actually addressed the OP's question because you KNOW nothing. Fvck off now, troll.

 

[GetBetter]

Okay so today I talked to few girls in my school, yeah just talked, didnt really flirt. It didnt go well and i think i just bored them as they disnt seem very interested. Mabe its because I didnt know how to approach and what to say. .

Well here is a convo i remember:

I had a chocolate in my pocket.

Me: hey, do you like chocolates?
Her: yeah, why?

Me: just like that. So which one do you like the most?
Her(in a very uninterested manner): why are u asking this? You can ask something else. .

I smiled and ended the conversation right there and she smiled back just because she was being kind(i think so)

I think this was probably a very lame conversation starter but i think this will help me improve.

Also Id like to know how to apprach a women when she is standing in a group with her friends?

Thanking everyone in advance

 

[LearningSlowly]

Yeah I'm not sure how to explain it.

When I see kids that are working on social skills or trolling forums a lot, I can smell it. They laugh nervously, talk fast with awkward pauses, and cling to conversations that should be let go.

When I'm in conversation, I "think loudly." I do my best to project the values that I hold, because I know that the girl will hear them. Worry less about yourself. Instead of "am I being awkward? Am I embarrassing myself?" Think " do I find you interesting? Do you speak intelligently? Are you warm toward me?"

Mirror her thoughts. If its obvious she isn't interested, think thoughts like "I'm not hitting on you. Lets be friends, chill out." If she is interested, think "are you ready for me to take your number?" (You just might get an answer to these thoughts, since they will be projected by your manner)

This is the best way to quickly develop an honest style of pick up. If you learn tricks, your body language and demeanor will project "this is a game. I am lying to you. I am tricking you." Maybe if she's drunk she would ignore those signals, but not sober.

 

[GetBetter]

Okay, so here I am to reply, I know I took long but I've been working on my conversation skills.

I searched for few more articles about how to have great conversations and such and guess what, I think I've improved not only with girls but others as well.

I never talked a lot to girls in school because I was nervous, moreover I wanted girls to come and talk to me(not sure if it was best attitude) but now I am kind of changing myself. So here's what I am doing:

I started chat with a girl of my class with Hi and then asked about random stuff about the class. Then got into deeper conversations and teasing her.

I think I am doing this about right, but only on Facebook...I think I will try the same in real life as well with more girls.