Latinoman said:
As a person that is very perceptive, this is what I have to say.
There is not doubt in my mind that STR8UP is adjusting his values and morals and standards. And to justify his new behavior, he is creating threads like this.
You sound like a broken record.
Lowering my standards? Funny.
If anything my standards are through the roof at this point in my life. I haven't had an LTR in almost 3 years. That beats my previous record by at least double.
Never in my life have I had a problem finding a girlfriend. I might have settled for certain things in the past, but the fact that I get more attention from women NOW than any other point in my life and that I still remain single is testament to my standards.
I think his shift is due to the fact that the type of woman he is currently gravitating over are the strippers, drunks, and other shady characters.
Oh no, not this again.
Intimacy is one of the biggest gifts a woman can give to a man. And that includes her naked body. When a woman blatantly shows herself to the world, she is literally diminishing that “gift” for her man. In fact, her intimacy means nothing.
I admit, I was and probably would still be put off by a woman who is so "open", but it's nothing more than a function of social conditioning and to a lesser extent insecurities. Yes, we all have insecurities.
I don't deny the fact that it is not something that most men want to deal with, but the way you portray it as a "gift" is proof that you are one of those guys who would rather put the blinders on and pretend rather than accepting reality and putting things into proper perspective. Fact is, pretty much every woman you and I both have ever been with has been seen naked by numerous men. And I'll bet they were ALL "special". Yeaaaa......
When a man does not tolerate that behavior, he is “ridiculed” and called “stiff”. When if fact, all he is doing is acting like a Man.
If you go back and read my original post, you will see that I wasn't calling anyone "stiff" just because they don't like bisexual women. I was posing a question of why a man who has a loyal, devoted g/f who also happens to like women, would get upset and try to control her to "tame" her into what he deems to be appropriate in front of other people. That person is "stiff"
If women who like other women doesn't float your boat, whatever.
Personally, I would love nothing more than to have a sexually adventurous woman who was open to bringing other women around. What is not "manly" about that???
It's only people who like to live in a pretend world that would challenge the masculinity of a man who is open to such a thing.
STR8UP…I feel bad for you, because you are an entrepreneur and own your own business and you are single and alone. Sadly, I suspect you will fall victim of a predator that will take advantage of you and with her, 25-50% of your hard work. If you lower your standards, your chances of losing are considerably greater.
Not a chance in hell. I'm not going to say that I'm immune to falling "victim" to a woman (they are great at the Jeckyll/Hyde routine), but I'm sure as hell as clued up as anyone as to what to avoid to minimize my chances.
What STR8UP is doing is not uncommon. He is lowering his standards in order to get a woman in his life and justify the type of women he is getting.
If I was desperate to have a woman in my life I have a hot 22 yr old chomping at the bit. All I would have to do is accept a long distance relationship and make a 3 hour drive once or twice a month.
Who wouldn't want a hot 22 yr old? Especially one who I only see a few times a month?
I certainly wouldn't mind having one around, but I am unwilling to accept such a proposition, and she knows it. She knows that if she were to move here there might be a chance, otherwise it's a no-go. I know it's a losing proposition so I decline.
He justifies this by saying, “I am progressive. I don’t have a stick in my azz”.
And I say…SURE. LOL.
I don't justify anything. We've been through this before.
Don't try to impose your morals and standards on me in an attempt to make me out to be a perv and yourself out to be a saint.
I say and do what other people only think (and generally hide from the world). And I'm not the least bit ashamed, regardless of what the self-righteous crowd has to say about it.
I need to get my sh!t done so I can start hanging out over there again....
